This is one hobby that needs to be kept as far apart from our civie lives as possible.

I wouldn't see someone from work, and I'd even be concerned if they were a neighbor or someone from some civic organization I may be a member of.

Who doesnt want to nail the hottie who works 2 doors down from your office?  If she's a true professional then there shouldnt be any backlash.  For me it would depend on the relationship in the office.  If she's under me directly, then NO WAY or if she moved under me the hobbying with her would cease, but if she just works at my office or isnt directly connected to me then I'd do it, why not?

I am not into work place gossip, and I do not share what I do in private with anyone. I subscribe to the philosophy that, I will let you know what you need to know about me, nothing more nothing less.  

I don’t talk about what other people do with their life so, it all works out.

I would take no action.  I do not agree that she would know I was a hobbyist...how would she unless she had seen me in person, or maybe at an M&G?  

Now, the later scenario would be interesting.  I've met a co-worker at a few of those who was also a hobbyist (and we both were nonchalant about it), but seeing a co-worker who was also a provider at one of those?

There is not an upside, none.

Honestly, there are so many wonderful providers out there, that eliminating one because she is a coworker equates to a thimble full of water in a 5 gallon pail.

Also, I would not speak of knowing she is a provider to ANYONE. There just simply isn't an upside. It's a lose/lose scenerio

Depending on how you came to know she was a provider and how she might have come to know that you are a hobbyist, there's too much invasion of each other's personal lives. It would change your relationship at work, and each of you would have leverage over each other. I don't know what kind of work you do, but in a straight office job I can only imagine it leading to miscommunication and petty conflict. And despite your efforts and hers, the incident would not remain secret forever. I know, talking in absolutes and all that, but unless you are both truly pursuing your passions (in which case you probably wouldn't have referred to her as a coworker), you aren't going to manage that kind of double-life relationship.

As a Provider........
 That would be very awkward, but I would have to tell the Acquaintance(No matter where I knew him or her from) to not tell everyone what I did in my spare time. Meaning it would have to be our little secret.

if I just entered the room to find the babe with the hot body in the pics turned out to be Sue from Accounting, I'd be very tempted, as it would add a whole different level of excitement and danger to the rendezvous - especially if I'd already harboured desires for this woman.  Of course, it would also depend on her attitude.  If she got freaked out, then obviously no.  But if she got an adrenaline rush too - then what the hell, since we are already both "outed" to each other.  But, the caveat to me is, just how close of a co-worker is she?  If it is someone I work closely with all the time, we might just talk for a few minutes to express how we both would keep this little secret and try not to change our work relationship, and I might leave after that.  If she is someone I only bump into occasionally in the hall, then I'd be more likely to say "what the hell" and go for it.

If I recognized her from pics alone as co-worker?  No, I wouldn't schedule with her.  But again, in the heat of the moment where we are both exposed and were ready for a good romp anyway...

sometimes it blows up but if both are business like, the session is completed & nothing is said.  I would never knowingly place myself or her in that position.  There's a world of difference between believing someting or 'knowing' something without proof....  VS a face to face.  

I appreciate the ethics of other posters...  there should never be a boss / employee relationship.

Not enough degrees of separation. Way too much of a risk on spilling the beans to another coworker.  Women always talk.

I think that the risk would be too high and it would possibly be too weird. I think that it would also depend on who the coworker is, how well you know them, or if it was just someone that you have just seen around a large company. If it was the latter, I might consider it especially if it was someone that's caught my eye at work.

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this situation ahead of time.  Not a good idea whether it is a boss/employee or just two co-workers.

I would probably lose my business because I am an owner, but I couldn't pass up that fantasy.

Is the head of our division.  She's a bit older, in her late 50's but she's still in pretty damn fine shape in a severe business woman's kind of way.  She has made all of our jobs more difficult (aka hell) since starting here over 10 years ago now at this point.  If I ever found out she was a provider I'd fuck her six ways to Sunday including her skinny white ass (w/o lube if possible).  I wouldn't be gentle either.  Then I'd remind her of it every time I saw her afterwards.  Bitch.  It would be bad for her because word would definitely get out and she would be quickly outed by someone.  She is hated by most of us and she is the boss.  Most wouldn't hesitate to get her fired because she is such a cunt.  We were very happy last year when her chief toady (2nd in command) got fired for yelling (I want that N-----r fired re: a black employee).  personnel dept. and the Union didn't stand for it.  Would be the same for her.

Is she hot?...

Seriously... we have a mutually assured destruction scenario. Talk it out, and if both are comfortable, why not. If one is feeling squeamish, don't.