I act dumb when I get nervous. Very giggly, crack really bad jokes, (that people don't get half the time,) and am klutzy.
But that also can be being smart in a way. Acting cheerful and a little 'lesser' important can really help the nervous person feel comfortable. Now, there are people who are super confident as well, who can take cheerfulness the wrong way, and tell all their friends the girl is dumb. I bet if you saw her a few times, you would get a closer glimpse into her true brainy ways. I think it's cool when someone looks at you, sees you are playing dumb, and can spot gifts, talents, and an enlightened person. You must be a leader, or at least are very discerning. You gotta be smart to know what smart is, right?
This is just an observation I have made lately - maybe true, maybe not.
Providers I've been with seem to feel the need to play the role of the dumb airhead even though when you sit and talk with most of them you realize they are anything but. And when you think about how much more money a lot of them are probably making in their prime years than you do, you realize even more this isn't true.
Is this because they think that's what us guys want?
the gal who started the career meltdown thread on the CHI board is "working on her Masters" according to her p411 profile. Think its in Business? I don't.
Posted By: hbyist+truth=;(
You'll hear this....
1. Hookers are dumb can't do much else, that's why they hook.
2. Any hooker that does mention higher education gets flamed for her educational achievements being bullshit
3. Some tricks only want a couple of warm wet holes and are not remotely interested in what she has to say
Of course she's a Masters educated hooker. Of course. Hence the epic idiotic meltdown. Yes, smart women intimidate me. My wife has five Masters and a PHD. Or so she says.
Posted By: hbyist+truth=;(
Your comment. How the frig do you know she doesn't?
I guess smart women intimidate you. Oh make that most women.
On both sides of the coin. In a year, she may be a completely different person, and look back on that, and even feel bad about it.
All along, you may have never met the girl in person, nor affected her life in any way but words on a screen.
Never give someone a life sentence of no hope for a future because of an attitude problem now.
A lot of people speak hopeless words in this world, but sometimes I think it's a simple hypocritical Pharisee type attitude. "Thank You God that I'm not like that sinner over there." Let the person feel bad and change, but kicking someone while they're down, saying "You'll never succeed" is just going to make them want to throw more shit in your face.
There's a time for correction, but there always should be time to release them and let them learn their own lessons. If that doesn't happen, the person keeping them down has become part of the problem.
I've seen some extremely sharp providers. Some I wouldn't want to argue with because I'd be at an intellectual disadvantage.
I sometimes wonder just how smart my favorite-for-now provider is, but then I remind myse that she's the one who's making the big bucks, and doing it by marketing herself extremely well.
Most are Smart enough to know about current local news events. At least the ones I've seen. The current Provider I'm seeing always updates me on what's going on in her Life. Kind of a cool thing. I get to know more and more about her.
Hm you actually paid money to carry on a meaningful conversation? and able to do that for real?
That's fascinating because in my case except for the casual greetings most of my time either my mouth or her mouth is busy doing something beside conversing.
...I was at a stripclub and overheard a blonde stripper in the booth next to me with a client. She was the most giggly, air-headed blonde bimbo that I had ever had the misfortune to overhear talking. The client left and she emerged from the booth and glanced over at me. I silently prayed that she wouldn't stop by my booth but she asked if I would like some company. Being the gentlewoman that I am, I agreed thru gritted teeth, hoping that she wouldn't stay long. She immediately let out a sigh and asked me if it would be alright if she could be herself. I was a bit taken aback by this and asked her what she was talking about. She went on to tell me that she does the dumb blonde routine every night and the guys eat it up and she banks. She saw me and said that I didn't seem like I would be interested in that act, which was true. Turns out that she had a PhD in literature or something like that and was a very intelligent woman. She wound up emptying my wallet that night in the VIP room
with a Phd in lit this is the best job she can probably get....working with her clit!
Posted By: lopaw
...I was at a stripclub and overheard a blonde stripper in the booth next to me with a client. She was the most giggly, air-headed blonde bimbo that I had ever had the misfortune to overhear talking. The client left and she emerged from the booth and glanced over at me. I silently prayed that she wouldn't stop by my booth but she asked if I would like some company. Being the gentlewoman that I am, I agreed thru gritted teeth, hoping that she wouldn't stay long. She immediately let out a sigh and asked me if it would be alright if she could be herself. I was a bit taken aback by this and asked her what she was talking about. She went on to tell me that she does the dumb blonde routine every night and the guys eat it up and she banks. She saw me and said that I didn't seem like I would be interested in that act, which was true. Turns out that she had a PhD in literature or something like that and was a very intelligent woman. She wound up emptying my wallet that night in the VIP room
Approach a provider as someone of average intelligence or below average, and see if she dumbs down to tune into you. Then approach the provider as though you were highly intelligent and scholarly, and see if she comes off as more intelligent herself. Hard to do, because, of course, she'll form her opinion of you in the first few minutes of the first encounter.
I haven't meet too many who play dumb, and those that have, I assume, either had a very low opinion of me or were setting me up to run some kind of game.
I think nearly everyone is very intelligent or seem so when they are in their own element. Uh, a few posters on this board are exceptions.
If we are constantly one upping you or making you look the fool, what good would that do? Now, I would never play the dumb ho, but if you say something that I know is wrong or backward, I won't point it out, i'll let you keep believing you have all the answers,
Which means showing me respect by not insulting my intelligence, and being genuine but with consideration for my feelings.
The provider in turn should expect me to treat her as a human being, with respect and consideration for her feelings. So if she's picked up a few pounds over the winter, I'm going to let that pass and focus on what makes her so sexy/beautiful/fun.
If she wants to compliment me re my sexiness, looks (face/body), wit, smarts etc. ... I won't object. I'm not hard to look at (I get frequent compliments from women I haven't paid to tell me that) and I've got something upstairs, and have been told (again from people I haven't paid) I have a good sense of humor. If a provider wants to grab my butt and go ga-ga over it, I won't ask her to remove her hands. Just don't lay it on too thick.
I love it when a provider feels comfortable enough with me to mess with me. One told me recently, with a smile, "You're weird." I laughed. I know exactly what she meant. I am kinda weird in some ways. I guess we all are, in our own way.
While I love to feel like I'm the king of the world for a few hours, it's best in the arms of someone who's acting as themselves rather than a stereotype of weakness. Trying to make me believe I'm smarter than whoever I'm with is counterproductive, there's greater joy to be found in an intellectual equal or superior.
Hell, women are more emotionally intuitive (another kind of smart) yet they don't downplay it. And I love that! Emotionally you'd have to hit me with a brick (twice!) for any clues to sink in, heaven help us if a woman tried to play the fool there.
If a woman is smarter than me and wants me to feel sexy, handsome, witty and funny then by all means let your education free -- won't threaten my self image in the least. The hobby is about fun, not trying to stroke a crippled mental ego. Of course, not all hobbyists are alike in this respect.
And as I don't play dumb or put on an act at all, I don't argue and I'm very diplomatic. Also I try to match the person I'm with and if they are not the sharpest tool in the shed I chose not to talk about things they simply won't grasp. Same with religion and politics, I'm not there to argue and if I can't say something nice, well I won't say anything at all. Last thing some guys want is a know it all, opinionated dinner companion.
Oh yeah and did I mention how strong, intelligent, and witty I found your post. Because I really did.
Kisses, Jessica
Posted By: numpty88
While I love to feel like I'm the king of the world for a few hours, it's best in the arms of someone who's acting as themselves rather than a stereotype of weakness. Trying to make me believe I'm smarter than whoever I'm with is counterproductive, there's greater joy to be found in an intellectual equal or superior.
Hell, women are more emotionally intuitive (another kind of smart) yet they don't downplay it. And I love that! Emotionally you'd have to hit me with a brick (twice!) for any clues to sink in, heaven help us if a woman tried to play the fool there.
If a woman is smarter than me and wants me to feel sexy, handsome, witty and funny then by all means let your education free -- won't threaten my self image in the least. The hobby is about fun, not trying to stroke a crippled mental ego. Of course, not all hobbyists are alike in this respect.
I don't want an opinionated, know it all dinner companion (trick) either, especially if it's on my time. If I am being paid, I could care less, I will nod and uhh huh and smile appropriately.
I've given some thought to seeing Rrasha before she retires again (if she'd see me). Problem is, I wonder if she'd have me laughing so much that we wouldn't have any sex.
After having hobbyed for over a decade, I long ago recognized that providers worth seeing again are not intellectually vapid. But they will try to sense what you want, and to proceed from there.
As for them making more money than you, useless to dwell on that. Just enjoy the time you spend with them...
I act dumb when I get nervous. Very giggly, crack really bad jokes, (that people don't get half the time,) and am klutzy.
But that also can be being smart in a way. Acting cheerful and a little 'lesser' important can really help the nervous person feel comfortable.
Now, there are people who are super confident as well, who can take cheerfulness the wrong way, and tell all their friends the girl is dumb.
I bet if you saw her a few times, you would get a closer glimpse into her true brainy ways. I think it's cool when someone looks at you, sees you are playing dumb, and can spot gifts, talents, and an enlightened person. You must be a leader, or at least are very discerning.
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I'm not hard to look at (I get frequent compliments from women I haven't paid to tell me that) and I've got something upstairs, and have been told (again from people I haven't paid) I have a good sense of humor. If a provider wants to grab my butt and go ga-ga over it, I won't ask her to remove her hands. Just don't lay it on too thick. 