It's the fucked up way you put them together into sentences that makes them impossible to understand at times.
I just got back from a trip off the rock and had 3 really great sessions and felt really good about the girls I chose. On the other hand there are girls who I really wanted to see but for me they just made it a little to hard for me and or how they wanted to do things made me uncomfortable.
Some wanted a deposit which though I can understand just does not sit well with me as anything can happen even with the girl and what happens if she has to cancel and it does not work well with my discretion as I only want to do things by cash.
Some girls want to meet up for dinner or drinks first and though it would be nice to do so for my discretion I really do not want to be seen out and about with some hot young thing by someone who knows me,yeah that would be just my luck!
Some even have websites that require you to sign up for just to see their info for crying out load which makes me feel like I am going onto Amazon or something.
There are some others also but do any of you others out there run into the same kind of issues?
and then I just move on wthout a second thought.
No point in obsessing over some stranger who's barriers are ouside my comfort zone, when there are thousands of hot strangers who operate well within it.
best answer so far.
I too run into this same shit all the time, but like you I don't really give it a second thought. I simply move on to the next woman on my list (and my list is a long one) without stewing over the ones that make me lose interest in them with their ridiculous demands.
Why do so many guys feel the need to bitch, moan and groan about the hoops that "some" hookers want them to jump through, when like you said "there are thousands of hot strangers who operate well within your comfort zone"??? If every hooker out there had the same demands and I was having trouble getting laid because of it, THEN I could understand all the bitching and whining, but when there are so many hookers available that are not BSC or overly demanding, I just can't work up the energy to be mad at the ones who are unreasonable.
Call me bitchy,whiny whatever just sayin. I am not mad at any girl who does things as they deem fit, it just makes it hard for me to see them if they interest me.
Now go get a blowjob or something and chill would ya lol.
Oh, and my handle suits me just fine "Southern Man" thank you very much.
Your handle fits you just fine as you bang your head against the wall.
I was talking to Jstgttnstrtd, and giving him a compliment as he has been giving advice for months like a seasoned vet and not like someone who is "just getting started" You could actually learn a lot from this "newb" as seems to have grasped this little hobby of ours in record time.
and for someone who isn't mad about the way some women see fit to run their business, you do seem to spend a lot of time bitching about it, as do a lot of other guys here on the boards. Don't get me wrong, I agree that it's a lousy way for them to run a business, and it undoubtedly costs them business, but it's just like the bitchy whiny hooker that comes on here bitching about guys who don't wash their ass, it doesn't do a bit of good to do so here. The ones that you have the issues with will never read one of these posts and think to themselves "OH shit, he is talking about the way I run MY business, maybe I should change my ways?" lmao
Oh, and I am quite chill, I got laid well before I ever logged onto TER this morning, so MY mood is just fine TYVM. Remember, it's you bitching on the boards today, not me. lol
laid today (sigh)! And thank god I do not have to change my handle it was hard enough for me to come up with this one lol.
As far as the "newb" I am glad he gets it but the day you think you know everything or are afraid to ask questions that's the day reality bites you in the ass! Or am I wrong about that?
I know everything, didn't you get the memo? lmao
In all seriousness though, I DO agree with your "bitch" but feel obligated to agree with "the newb" about how pointless it is to whine about it on the boards.
Honestly, do you really think that any provider is going to see herself in your post and vow to do better? That's about as likely as some dumbfuck who's mother never taught him how to wash his nasty ass is going to read a rant by some pissed off hooker going off about guys with hygiene issues and realize it's him she is talking about and then resolve to do better?
I do hope it made you feel a little better to get it off your chest though.
Yups… doesn't change a thing. I'm typically rez to go after screening. If I feel so sketchy I want to meet in a public place… doesn't happen and IIIIIIII move on. If we share a meal or drinks it's because I enjoyed your company already in private. IME given the opportunity men will say or do something to fuck it up, best to stick to screening, make his head spin and pat him on the ass on the way out.
Dinner includes conversation. No politics…no personal information like "so where did you graduate from?" or "how long have you and the misses been together?"… lord jeezus no religion so…what's left. Talking about food while eating food. No thanks. I'd rather just f*** and eat my sushi in peace.
In all seriousness though, I DO agree with your "bitch" but feel obligated to agree with "the newb" about how pointless it is to whine about it on the boards.
Honestly, do you really think that any provider is going to see herself in your post and vow to do better? That's about as likely as some dumbfuck who's mother never taught him how to wash his nasty ass is going to read a rant by some pissed off hooker going off about guys with hygiene issues and realize it's him she is talking about and then resolve to do better?
I do hope it made you feel a little better to get it off your chest though.
can barely speak English! ;o) - Might take 1/2 an hour to figure out she was just trying to say hello! ("sorry, excuse me, I didn't understand, 'haroo'? 'habo'? Oh...., I got it...)
You might want to start pretending that YOU can't speak English, that might keep you entertained! (hmmm, now I'm wondering if I'M being played like that!).
and that's her business. If she wants the gift left in a hermetically sealed bag with all fingerprints removed left in a drop box hidden behind some shrubs near mile marker 69 - fine. If she wants $1 million per hour - fine. If she insists all body hair be plucked before arriving for a date - fine.
This is all fine. I don't judge. I just move on to the better matches! 
But certainly, when starting out, it is so easy to get obsessed with a certain individual(s). Just think, porn and true fantasty allows for this - you can get-off on the same lady obsession for your whole life if you want - no limits on your fantasy life -and never need to question, "well, maybe she isn't such a good match afterall." It is so tempting to bring that way of thinking here - I mean the pictures look so damn good, and you just imagine what it would be like... you can almost taste her, almost smell her, almost feel her soft skin over her lovely curves, and the fantasy seems oh so close to becoming a reaility..., but then - BAM! Reality (your brain and comfort zone) interrupts that, lol. At this point, it's a fond mental "good-bye and good luck" to the sexy lady, and on to the next. Not the easiest to get to this point when you start out, but when you realize that the best dates happen when both parties are completely comfortable (and that looks are just part of that equation) then it gets MUCH MUCH easier. Also, having sex with LOTS of very fine ladies helps lessen any chance of obsession over any one lady also, at least IMHO.
that's the only reason everyone's being so nice to you. lol I started with jstkpnmyhddwn.
I'm just seeing this because…short bussssss. But funny you mention it…I actually do pretend my English isn't up to par quite often. Strange thing is it only turns me on more???? WTF? No Goodbye or goodluck, just chow lover… Whatever makes us moist I suppose...
Wouldn't those be the barriers that keep you or some other gentleman from seeing a lady.
Those are her barriers that no one has to cross if they don't want to.
I do not see any ladies whom I do not want to see, sometimes I won't even see a lady I want to see.
I once read an article (I think it was in Esquire) where beautiful models & actresses were asked about sex--specifically what a man needed to do before she'd consider having sex with him.
Just about *every reply included the following: the guy needed to take her to a nice restaurant and buy her a meal. It was really amazing how that one simple thing popped up again & again. You should reconsider this issue. Be a gentleman & take her somewhere nice. You will be rewarded later on. --z
And you know the answer to the question, why is divorce so expensive?
A. Because it's worth it.
I speak from experience. Twice.
Never again.
Typical standard in real life is a girl won't have sex with you until after you have taken her out (to dinner) at least three times.
Most escorts won't go out to dinner with you (or even set foot in your car) until after they have fucked your brains out at least three times
You couldn't even get laid on the first pfp date with a lady.
The standard number of dinners = 3, then you get laid? The "Rule of 3" is the 'standard' according to who. Maybe some guys get laid faster than you--did you ever think about that?
The magical "Rule of 3" pops up again. Let's forget about your "Rule of 3" for a minute and consider the original post. The OP is stating that some providers want to meet for dinner & drinks on the *first meeting. There's a world out there that doesn't comply to your "Rule of 3". You remind me of Jim Carrey in the Truman Show. --z
That's pretty much my standard reply to him
He could just be profoundly retarded
You say don't pay a deposit up frontto which I can agree with you on. However in the you felt the need to direct me to YD. You baisicly payed a deposit in person.
The post you made in this thread you start rambling on about what goes on in the sugar world. I can't recall what this particular thread was about, but that wasn't it.
Then you go on about reading Esquire magazine, as if an independent confident man needs to read EM
You are now almost completely incoherent. Are you're not only retarded but drunk at the same time?
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It's the fucked up way you put them together into sentences that makes them impossible to understand at times.
I frequently have dinner and/or drinks with gals but I never, ever pay for it. Those of you who know me know my creed is, "I will happily pay you for sex. But I will not pay to watch you eat or watch you sleep." Since I don't do overnights, the latter point is moot. As to the former, I have no trouble finding gals who, after we've played, are happy to join me for dinner -- which I am happy to pay for. And I always take them someplace nice. Actually, I've had a couple of meals with gals they insisted on paying for, because I'd been very generous with them earlier
I should've been a little more clear. If a provider wants to meet a new client for dinner as part of her *screening* process, I have no problem in buying her dinner. But that dinner would have to be off the clock, or no deal.
OTOH, I do offer an SB money for a first dinner date--but that's a different dynamic. With a provider, it's typically sex for money. With an SB, you're doing other things together & paying her an allowance. --z
but I have no problem if they want to meet up for dinner or drinks to scope me out to see if we will mesh before committing to a session.
Some wanted a deposit which though I can understand just does not sit well with me as anything can happen even with the girl and what happens if she has to cancel and it does not work well with my discretion as I only want to do things by cash.
Some girls want to meet up for dinner or drinks first and though it would be nice to do so for my discretion I really do not want to be seen out and about with some hot young thing by someone who knows me,yeah that would be just my luck!
Some even have websites that require you to sign up for just to see their info for crying out load which makes me feel like I am going onto Amazon or something.
There are some others also but do any of you others out there run into the same kind of issues?
always busy with appointments all day so yo might be taking business from them.
NOT!
Lots of Land Tuna around, so why even inquire about the gals you refer to? I don't.