I have been in the belief that first contact with a provider should be short and sweet especially when just seeking basic information such as location, schedule, pictures, and rates. Recently I contacted a provider with a short message asking about her schedule, rates and if she had pictures available. The return e-mail I recieved was long and somewhat insulting even questioning the the way my parents raised me( no manners)and how I would be better off using a factory service. I have since gone beyond this with the provider. She did apologize and attributed it to a bad hair day. We all have days like that. My question is am I wrong in my belief that first contact should be short and sweet because all you ladies are flooded each day with e-mails??? Thanks
When someone e-mails me for the first time, I would like a little intro about you, and am open to your questions about me.Please take no offense when I say this, but when I open a e-mail and all it says is "HI, what are your rates, and do you have any pics?" I am a little frustrated that I don't know even your "fake" name, where you are, and what it is you are looking for(albiet discretely) or when you are looking for it?It doesn't have to be long and drawn out. I just like to know I am dealing with someone who isn't 1) wasting time or 2)LE
Just my thoughts
xoxox
Tracey
I'll let you know after I look it up in my "Provider-Hobbyist" etiquette book..
you are kidding, aren't you?
I really don't understand the need for condescneding sarcasim regarding this question. I thought the point of this board was for an open forum between "hobbyists" and providers. from what I gathered from the original post this was a reasonable question. I also have to say I agree with the original post. If I do choose to contact a provider through e-mail for the first time I usually just send a polite, short e-mail introducing myself (first name only) and asking for location and rates. I don't think this is unreasonable nor rude. The reason for this is simple... it's all that I am interested in learning in that first initial contact. If the rates or location are either unreasonable or inconvient I don't want to waste our time nor reveal any more about me than neccassary. If I choose to continue a dialogue with you than I will certainly go through the verification process to a point. At first contact I don't care what your favorite color is nor do i care if you know the differance between burgandy and bordeaux. I also assume that you (the provider) do not care whether or not I know the what differance between a shallot and an onion is. As I wrote above, if corrospondance continues i will answer and ask more personal questions since I do realize providers put themselvs at risk everyday. I won't answer questions that I think are completly off point, however. Nor will I ask questions that have nothing to do with our "relationship"; which when all is said and done is a business transaction. So do I think first contact should be short and polite? Yes. Do I think first contact should be curt, rude or intrusive? No. But I don't think I should be scoffed at or made fun of for asking.
short and sweet is fine but as Tracy said when you open email and all you see is
Rates PICS could you come to this area?
It get you frustrated. I usually delete or respond with link to my page I think he should at least introduce him self i m not saying that email need to be long one but little introduction would be nice just my 2 cents
oxoxoxo
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I personally like short and to the point. There is something to be said about keep it simple
. I'm probably the queen of one line emails though so thats why I prefer short.
When you are looking for such information on a lady you might be interested in, Please do some homework first. Look at her site there you will find *Most* of the question's to help you decide....Provider's have put together this information to make it helpful to you the hobbiest as well as so we do not get the same email over and over from 100 different people (Rates, Location, Pictures) Take your time to READ the ladies full site if you are truly interested in her.
If you are interested but do not want to do verification (and that happen's to be the ladies policy.....then move on and don't waste each other's time.) The important thing is after you have read up on a lady and she still interests you and her requests are within *your* comfort level.....then follow her request in what she ask's for or move on.
If information is what you are looking for (and you cannot find it on her website) then email her letting her know you took the time to look on her site but could not find the information you are looking for.......I'm sure she will happily reply because you took a minute to actually READ her site.......that was the purpose in creating a website. To be honest if someone writes me with an email that say's (Rates, Pictures, Location) it get's deleted......because I know that I leave a link to my website in almost every message and they could easily find the information on my site.
Most women put an area on their website. Also check out their review's and see where some of the areas they have visited. If those areas do not suit you feel free to ask the provider if she get's to the area of your choice......please be specific. Some girl's have many location's so you need to say where you are interested in.
Bottom line it's your hard earned money and I'm sure you want the encounter to be one that you really, really enjoy ......so take a few (or more) minutes to do your homework and investigate (ie. review boards, website, email the lady, back channel.) to make sure she is what you are looking for. You can be rewarded in so many different way's when you do your homework on a provider!
Soft Kisses, Warm Hug's and All that good stuff!! Miss Chrissy
I agree with all you say. In this particular situation the provider did not have a web site and the few reviews she had attracted me to her. They stated she was kind and well worth the money spent. In my original contact I stated how she interested me and I asked her for availability, rates and if she had any pictures. The reply was one very angry and insulting e-mail. Being a person who tries to treat all with respect and dignity I wonder if the short and sweet approach was actually insulting to her.
Thanks to all the ladies that offered advise..
P.s....Chrissy I have contacted you in the pass but it was on spur of the moment thus we were unable to meet(verification)..Yet you handled it with class and dignity..someday!!!!
Not all people are the same in treating other's as they would like to be treated or at least try.....it's a shame really, but soooo true. Maybe you just caught her on a bad day who know's her reason's but if she didn't have a website, no picture's and a couple of basic review's then Shame on her for replying to you that way......and maybe it was a blessing to you! There are many lovely ladies out there!!
Yes, perhaps we may meet someday .....Thank's for the kind word's! ~Warm Hug's & Soft Kisses in all the right places~ Miss Chrissy