San Diego

Common courtesy
Rockynutz 92 Reviews 1077 reads
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I really don't get it why some ladies cannot be bothered to reply to email requests for a date.
I have been ignored by GK, DG and FS.  Are they too busy to even hit reply with a no thanks?
Do we have Divas or prima donnas that are too stuck on themselves to be bothered? What is their problem?

Which is a hell of bunch of messages to sort through and reply to. As for Goldie, I try to stay out of her inbox. It's her outbox that I have been trying to get into (pun intended) :-)

So do I, but I never fail to reply to people I know.
   I get your point on Goldies outbox. :-)))

Some of these gals just get flooded with stupid questions and remarks and that is somewhat alarming in that communications should only revolve around setting up a date (unless they are very close friends). It's always nice to get to know a girl through email or whatever before a first. After that, I think guys need just try and set an appointment and stop there.

When I look back, I am always amazed how much back and forth comms happen with even a provider that knows me well.

The other thing is that, in my mind, a provider can not respond for any reason that she wants. I don't even want an excuse. "I can't do it" or no response is good enough for me. Her body, her choice.

I had a girl crawling all over me at a M&G. When I tried twice after thru phone to contact her, I never heard back and went to "next".

I'll get in Goldie's outbox, we just need to stop talking in session so much :-)  

Many of these gals work very hard. Communications, websites, figuring if someone is stealing pictures or posted inaccurate info about them and hiding identity is the "unpaid" part of their profession. Just getting their clothes right, looking and smelling great is an effort, although I think they like that part, mostly.

Having said all of that, I do agree that prompt communications can be difficult sometimes. I have had several back and fouths that ended in nothing for either of us. A waste of time. I have only met one provider that is truly great at comms, but she is off my radar now, for other reasons.

Part of the game, I guess. Thanks for waking up the board!!

I'm sure they aren't in the habit of ignoring potential clients.  I've had good success doing the following when I fail to receive a response.

1.  I look at their website and see if they have any special requests as to communicating.  Some women don't prefer email, some explicitly say if you are a new client and fail to provide certain info it won't be responded to.  I've sometimes given up at this point because I don't care for their policy but it's their business to decide those things.

2.  Review my email to make sure it complies with their requests, doesn't explicitly mention things it shouldn't, as well as sounding like it's written by a non Neanderthal (grammar, spelling, eliminate text speak)

3.  Assuming that I've passed 1 and 2, I wait until a week has passed and then send a gentle reminder, often forwarding the prior email.  Usually with something along the lines of "I realize you must be busy, but I'd appreciate a response at your convenience.  I look forward to seeing you soon, thanks!"

On rare occasion none of this works, I just move on, some other kind young lady will be happy to take care of my needs and my bucket list is already impossibly long, so if not this one, then another will be along.   On one occasion a woman who had quit the business at or about the time of my email, replied to me after she returned 6 months later, I'll probably write something up later but I'll just say I was very glad I kept the tone pleasant.

Sorry  for ruffling some feathers, but I was frustrated and as a business executive for many years
and being married for many more, I always believed communication and courtesy was important.
I know the girls have what I want, and there are many more like me who also want it,  but just felt I was being snubbed.  Is that rude of me???

This is California.......and from my experience,  many folks (not all) but a good many, in these here parts tend to lack in *replying back* or communication (keeping in touch/following through).
Whether it's providers you need a vouch from or guys booking a date.

Seems like things are a snails pace here in the CA area when it comes to folks respectfully communicating. Sad but true.

Elsewhere in other states, when guys book a date. By golly they keep in touch, either to follow through or when needing to cancel(always respectful timely communications). And ladies respond in quick fashion for vouches.

Wish the same could be said for Californians in the hobby (or the majority of them).
The few that do respectfully reply in a timely fashion and communicate....well they get it!  
Esp.in this day, where email/PM's etc IS ALWAYS at your fingertips on all the devises we carry in our pockets/purses.  

Common courtesy is a lost art on some.

 

 

 

 

Posted By: Rockynutz
I really don't get it why some ladies cannot be bothered to reply to email requests for a date.  
 I have been ignored by GK, DG and FS.  Are they too busy to even hit reply with a no thanks?  
 Do we have Divas or prima donnas that are too stuck on themselves to be bothered? What is their problem?

There are 49 other states. I have had two problems with providers in California in many decades. Get it, or get...

Sincerely, born and raised San Diego guy. No devices at my fingertips, but everyone knows that I will get back to them. My life moves slow in SD...it's how it rolls.    

Good luck.

At least your upfront about it. That's cool.
 

Posted By: Todd Kavonic
There are 49 other states. I have had two problems with providers in California in many decades. Get it, or get...  
   
 Sincerely, born and raised San Diego guy. No devices at my fingertips, but everyone knows that I will get back to them. My life moves slow in SD...it's how it rolls.    
   
 Good luck.

Nice tude to counter my tude. Thanks!!

1. A hobbyist posted a quote a while back on the board that I will always remember:
" I will beg for sex...  And I will pay for sex... But, I will not beg to pay for sex."

2. I can't find the image now (if someone has it please repost).  It was essentially a play off the posters of "what my friends think I do" vs. "what I actually do" only it was for providers.  I remember a lot of providers thought it was funny b/c of how true it was.  It essentially had "what society thinks I do" with a pic of a girl in a short dress talking to a driver in a car...  What my clients think I do had a pic of some hot girl getting it every which way... And what I actually do had a pic of a girl texting while with the other hand typing on a computer. :

I had one Lady thank me for sending a second emaill, as the first was never received....

And we had a great time, so send a second, and if necessary, a third message if needed.

If no luck then, three strikes and you're out, so move on.

Plenty of great ladies in San Diego.

Just check my reviews....

RocketMan

Earlier this week I tried to contact a lawyer in the midwest to represent me on a simple transaction.  An email and 3 phone calls later still no response.  Reputation of a good firm.  Spoke to his assistant twice.
So I called another solo practioner in a smaller nearby town.  Phone call back later that day.  All lined up, probably for a lower hourly rate.
People gotta respond.  I guess some have the luxury of so much business they don't have to.
As one wise man told me once, I'll beg to have you, I'll pay to have you, but I won't beg to pay to have you.
Visiting SD in 2 weeks, just checking the board.
---later

Posted By: Rockynutz
I really don't get it why some ladies cannot be bothered to reply to email requests for a date.  
 I have been ignored by GK, DG and FS.  Are they too busy to even hit reply with a no thanks?  
 Do we have Divas or prima donnas that are too stuck on themselves to be bothered? What is their problem?

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