Do your own thing. If it works for you, fine. Why do you care what anyone else does? It doesn't apply to you.
How often you see her and how long of a meeting?
Did you keep communication between meetings??
What would you do if she suggest forget protection? Or it just happens
Just trying to understand how to deal with some things in case it happens. I'm a long time lurker but don't post often
I have an ATF who I see twice a month for extended time. We communicate everyday and have a friendship outside the hobby. And do small things OTC...
Thanks for the responses.
What would you do if she suggest forget protection? Or it just happens
You'd be shocked how much we get asked to BBFS. There are men out there trying to get BBFS from every provider they see and sometimes they offer substantial amounts of extra money to do so. You never know who you are bedding. And, you never know who the one you're bedding is bedding.
If you are married, it should not even be a thought in your mind.
If I find out a provider is doing bbfs I put her on my do not see list. Not worth the risk. Not sure if you are aware, but there there are some guys in the Baltimore (maybe that is why they are called BaltoMorons) area doing bbfs with street walkers (posting pictures and videos for everyone to see). Down right disgusting. It is not just stds to worry about. There are a few providers coming down with offspring and paternity lawsuits left and right for child support. Lawyers are having a field day along with dna testing labs.
Damn, just damn!!! That is scary as hell to me!
Steph
all you have to do is show him a picture of your kids as proof that you have had BBFS. See how easy that is, don't you wish all BP scavenger hunters were so easy to get rid of?
It happens everywhere...not just Baltimore. Go take a spin on some of the other non-TER boards and make a point of visiting forums outside your geo. Is remarkably common unfortunately. I am often surprised not only by what some guys will put their dick into (and what ladies will accept these disease-ridden-rhinocerous-dongs)...subsequently brag about the hot piece of ass they just nailed...much less photograph it and post it to the Internet. I was seriously considering one provider in my area before I found a slew of pictures of her BBing one of the local rhinos in my area...her face in the pics and everything. Grossed me out...and she is well-reviewed and 'looked' like the sort of girl that would take care of herself.
Just goes to show that you can't trust appearances and you can't do too much research.
We meet at my place 2-4 times a month for 1 to 2 hours. Once for an all-nighter off the clock.
We email a lot. We also have numerous activities, dinners, lunches, shopping, and tourisity things some including her young boy. We have plans for a camping trip. Sometimes just a platonic meeting at my place.
She would never suggest forgetting protection and even if she did I would turn her down.
Do your own thing. If it works for you, fine. Why do you care what anyone else does? It doesn't apply to you.
I haven't called except to make plans but I haven't seen the same girl more than 5-6 times so I don't know how it might change. I don't generally call to say hi to anybody unless it's been a lengthy period of time, so I guess it's no different. If I like a girl and she is receptive to my desires I want to see her for 2 hours, though 1.5 doesn't feel rushed in the same way an hour does.
One girl offered bbfs because she didn't have them, took her to the store but that was a first and only visit. After that incident I've always had them with me. Or you could bj and daty. I've had a really good time without fs when condoms were available.
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Did you keep communication between meetings??
What would you do if she suggest forget protection? Or it just happens
Just trying to understand how to deal with some things in case it happens. I'm a long time lurker but don't post often
I have an ATF who I see twice a month for extended time. We communicate everyday and have a friendship outside the hobby. And do small things OTC...
Thanks for the responses.
Yes.
I asked her if we could forgo the Protection. And she said Sure. But this is after I've seen her for 3 months with Protection. I've been seeing her BBFSCIP for over a year with ZERO Problems.
I'm friendly with my ATF outside the Hobby. Took her to Vegas in August for a week. It was an Awesome Trip. I take her Shopping and to Dinner every so often. She's pretty Awesome.
Once a week and length of time depends on how busy of a day and week it is.
I see her for a 3- or 4-hour session only once a month or so. Sometimes we communicate brief messages between sessions, but unless I'm ready to schedule the next one I try to avoid too much of that. Once we've booked (usually a few days in advance), we communicate more often.
I know that I don't want to have unprotected sex, and I am pretty sure she wouldn't either.
We spend a little OTC before or after the session, and with her that can be really enjoyable. Whereas many times, when I have a dinner or a drink with a lady before or after playtime, the talk isn't all that interesting, but the woman I'm seeing now is pretty articulate, extremely intelligent, and we share a few like interests. We don't always agree, but she's always okay with that, and I find it refreshing to be with someone who doesn't always parrot back what she thinks I want to here. Being with her away from the bed is something I look forward to as much as the fun. I never find myself thinking I'd just as soon be talking to some of my friends.
If we communicated every day, I personally would become too emotionally entangled. Not so much the crush kind of thing, but just involved too heavily in her thoughts and how are views align or differ. Being away from each other and then catching up seems just fine. But that's our situation, and if you have an everyday communication with him, I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as...you know.
And if there's something you want to see or do and you don't want to go alone, asking him to accompany you should be looked at as one of the perks of your profession.
1. See her very week, occasionally twice a week for nearly 5 years
2. take her on several vacations a year
3. communicate with her every day
4. and yes, after 5 years I get all excited to see her and get a lump in my throat each time I see her
5.been occasions she "pops in" when I need a pick up
6 saw 2 providers before her, saw 1 and walked out on a "bait and switch" When I finally saw her it was over.
7. accompanies me on all of my social engagements
yes I get where you are coming from....
1) I have two: one once a week, the other once every two weeks
2) Rarely
3) I would tip her extra (LOL)