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True, you are only doing what you are doing while you are doing it.
JohnyComeAlready 448 reads
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However no matter how well a person can compartmentalize what they do it is still a component of their life.  

Whether those decisions are based out of choice or necessity is what I find debated.  

 
Example question: Are your choices made in relation to necessity, or are your needs met by the choices you make?
Posted By: WickedBrut
My OPINION at the stage of seeing it right now, is that women in the life do have an alternative lifestyle in the same way that a member of a motorcycle club has or a musician has. I don't know if choosing the profession or endeavor CAUSES women to enter into a subculture as a survival move, or if they enter a subculture centered around sex and erotica and then take up sex work. It's an unpopular topic, but trafficking is something I'd definitely call a lifestyle. As well as those who enter the trade through being trafficked. Others who choose to go into it, I would think, have to do so knowing that they will have to make many big lifestyle changes.  
   
 So if that conclusion has integrity (and I'm not sure it does, at least not in all cases), then the men who engage in the activity also venture into the subculture to some extent (like being on this board), and so it is a lifestyle choice for them as well.  
   
 All the clients pay for sex with beautiful women, are mindful of the same risks, regard discretion and privacy in pretty much the same way, and such. But, in most other ways, your "alternative lifestyle" may be entirely different than mine.  
   
 During the 60's and 70's a lot of us LIVED an alternative lifestyle and were DEFINITELY embedded in a subculture. It wasn't something we could do on weekends after working at a bank Monday through Friday. So this comparison makes me uncertain that my present conclusion is invalid.  
   
 Maybe it doesn't matter what you call it. A musician is only a musician when he's playing music, and a biker is only a biker when he's on his bike. So...what does identifying people in terms of lifestyle really mean?  
   
Posted By: JohnyComeAlready
Men, do you believe sex work is a mainstream occupational choice for women, or an alternative lifestyle... and choice of income?  
     
  Women, do you believe men who seek out paid companionship, is a mainstream lifestyle choice... or an optional endeavour... and source of entertainment?  
     
     
  I encourage the audience to respond with a bisexual analysis.  
     
     
  ... or a one size fits all unisex response.

Men, do you believe sex work is a mainstream occupational choice for women, or an alternative lifestyle... and choice of income?

Women, do you believe men who seek out paid companionship, is a mainstream lifestyle choice... or an optional endeavour... and source of entertainment?

 
I encourage the audience to respond with a bisexual analysis.

 
... or a one size fits all unisex response.

My OPINION at the stage of seeing it right now, is that women in the life do have an alternative lifestyle in the same way that a member of a motorcycle club has or a musician has. I don't know if choosing the profession or endeavor CAUSES women to enter into a subculture as a survival move, or if they enter a subculture centered around sex and erotica and then take up sex work. It's an unpopular topic, but trafficking is something I'd definitely call a lifestyle. As well as those who enter the trade through being trafficked. Others who choose to go into it, I would think, have to do so knowing that they will have to make many big lifestyle changes.

So if that conclusion has integrity (and I'm not sure it does, at least not in all cases), then the men who engage in the activity also venture into the subculture to some extent (like being on this board), and so it is a lifestyle choice for them as well.

All the clients pay for sex with beautiful women, are mindful of the same risks, regard discretion and privacy in pretty much the same way, and such. But, in most other ways, your "alternative lifestyle" may be entirely different than mine.

During the 60's and 70's a lot of us LIVED an alternative lifestyle and were DEFINITELY embedded in a subculture. It wasn't something we could do on weekends after working at a bank Monday through Friday. So this comparison makes me uncertain that my present conclusion is invalid.

Maybe it doesn't matter what you call it. A musician is only a musician when he's playing music, and a biker is only a biker when he's on his bike. So...what does identifying people in terms of lifestyle really mean?

Posted By: JohnyComeAlready
Men, do you believe sex work is a mainstream occupational choice for women, or an alternative lifestyle... and choice of income?  
   
 Women, do you believe men who seek out paid companionship, is a mainstream lifestyle choice... or an optional endeavour... and source of entertainment?  
   
   
 I encourage the audience to respond with a bisexual analysis.  
   
   
 ... or a one size fits all unisex response.

However no matter how well a person can compartmentalize what they do it is still a component of their life.  

Whether those decisions are based out of choice or necessity is what I find debated.  

 
Example question: Are your choices made in relation to necessity, or are your needs met by the choices you make?

Posted By: WickedBrut
My OPINION at the stage of seeing it right now, is that women in the life do have an alternative lifestyle in the same way that a member of a motorcycle club has or a musician has. I don't know if choosing the profession or endeavor CAUSES women to enter into a subculture as a survival move, or if they enter a subculture centered around sex and erotica and then take up sex work. It's an unpopular topic, but trafficking is something I'd definitely call a lifestyle. As well as those who enter the trade through being trafficked. Others who choose to go into it, I would think, have to do so knowing that they will have to make many big lifestyle changes.  
   
 So if that conclusion has integrity (and I'm not sure it does, at least not in all cases), then the men who engage in the activity also venture into the subculture to some extent (like being on this board), and so it is a lifestyle choice for them as well.  
   
 All the clients pay for sex with beautiful women, are mindful of the same risks, regard discretion and privacy in pretty much the same way, and such. But, in most other ways, your "alternative lifestyle" may be entirely different than mine.  
   
 During the 60's and 70's a lot of us LIVED an alternative lifestyle and were DEFINITELY embedded in a subculture. It wasn't something we could do on weekends after working at a bank Monday through Friday. So this comparison makes me uncertain that my present conclusion is invalid.  
   
 Maybe it doesn't matter what you call it. A musician is only a musician when he's playing music, and a biker is only a biker when he's on his bike. So...what does identifying people in terms of lifestyle really mean?  
   
Posted By: JohnyComeAlready
Men, do you believe sex work is a mainstream occupational choice for women, or an alternative lifestyle... and choice of income?  
     
  Women, do you believe men who seek out paid companionship, is a mainstream lifestyle choice... or an optional endeavour... and source of entertainment?  
     
     
  I encourage the audience to respond with a bisexual analysis.  
     
     
  ... or a one size fits all unisex response.

Our choices are made based on a very wide variety of goals and values. When those values are in conflict, we (I) sometimes make a choice that later is viewed as a mistake.

But as that applies to the OP question, do the women in question choose what they do strictly for the money (or tangible material gain), or do they chooser a LIFESTYLE rich in excitement, power exchanges, risk, and the thrill of living a double life (subterfuge)? Like I said, at this point I lean toward the latter. I'm interested in what other views I'll see in this thread.

Posted By: JohnyComeAlready
However no matter how well a person can compartmentalize what they do it is still a component of their life.  
   
 Whether those decisions are based out of choice or necessity is what I find debated.  
   
   
 Example question: Are your choices made in relation to necessity, or are your needs met by the choices you make?  
   
Posted By: WickedBrut
My OPINION at the stage of seeing it right now, is that women in the life do have an alternative lifestyle in the same way that a member of a motorcycle club has or a musician has. I don't know if choosing the profession or endeavor CAUSES women to enter into a subculture as a survival move, or if they enter a subculture centered around sex and erotica and then take up sex work. It's an unpopular topic, but trafficking is something I'd definitely call a lifestyle. As well as those who enter the trade through being trafficked. Others who choose to go into it, I would think, have to do so knowing that they will have to make many big lifestyle changes.  
     
  So if that conclusion has integrity (and I'm not sure it does, at least not in all cases), then the men who engage in the activity also venture into the subculture to some extent (like being on this board), and so it is a lifestyle choice for them as well.  
     
  All the clients pay for sex with beautiful women, are mindful of the same risks, regard discretion and privacy in pretty much the same way, and such. But, in most other ways, your "alternative lifestyle" may be entirely different than mine.  
     
  During the 60's and 70's a lot of us LIVED an alternative lifestyle and were DEFINITELY embedded in a subculture. It wasn't something we could do on weekends after working at a bank Monday through Friday. So this comparison makes me uncertain that my present conclusion is invalid.  
     
  Maybe it doesn't matter what you call it. A musician is only a musician when he's playing music, and a biker is only a biker when he's on his bike. So...what does identifying people in terms of lifestyle really mean?  
     
Posted By: JohnyComeAlready
Men, do you believe sex work is a mainstream occupational choice for women, or an alternative lifestyle... and choice of income?    
       
   Women, do you believe men who seek out paid companionship, is a mainstream lifestyle choice... or an optional endeavour... and source of entertainment?    
       
       
   I encourage the audience to respond with a bisexual analysis.    
       
       
   ... or a one size fits all unisex response.

The reason I used the term bisexual - of, relating to, or involving both sexes...

 
Was that I wanted to include both sides of the financial transaction. Gender is completely interchangeable as not every sex worker is always going to be involved in the actual sex, that is being purchased.  

 
Example - a porn actress has participated in the sex on film. While everyone behind the seen, which can include everyone involved in the actual production of the film. All the way to the individual/s who made the film capable of viewing to the end user/consumer... and unless the end user is physically with the porn actress, that person is not having actual sex with the lady on screen.

 
I don't want to digress to far from my broad range inquiry, as my post isn't about pornography per se. I just wanted to use the most culturally/legally acceptable medium possible.

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Also, the reason I compared providers to musicians, is that I know a few musicians, and some only land six or eight gigs a month usually. They need to make a living, and they want to make as much as possible. But performing attracts applause, they see their music making people feel good, women find them attractive so they find sexual partners, and they get to play with other musicians and communicate in their special language. And they love music. THAT is a lifestyle choice for sure.

From comments on this board, I don't know about providers. Some say they are only in it for the money, but surely some of those must have some money by now, nevertheless they are still in the life. So...?

Its really hard to make a comparison of this nature, because if I say A, then some butt hurt person is going to scream B!  and vice-versa.  I dont have it in me on a Friday my friend.

This post will most likely be here for eternity, come back and reflect on/contribute to the conversation at your conveyance.

And regarding the analysis, in your case the emphasis is on anal.  As in catcher

an alternative lifestyle are mutually exclusive. So, I think it may well be both.

I find that the business of sex in exchange for _______ is much more of a mainstream lifestyle than an alternative lifestyle

Optional endeavor though I think the line between lifestyle and optional endeavor is thin.
Some guys seem to get pretty addicted once their cherries popped :)

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