But I think it might be OK to ask ONCE if a client would like to be contacted with a newsletter type thing.

I personally enjoy (most) contact I have with providers, and we have (for the most part) pretty friendly relationships.

I especially like to hear when a past provider I've seen a few times is coming back into my territory so I can decide if I want to hook up with her again.

But, I know some clients feel a 100% radio silence from the providers' side is what they want.

I'm glad you asked because I think the newsletter is a cool idea, but I'm curious to see what the gentlemen say.

Once a gentleman has seen me a couple times (and I like him), I'll ask if he would like me to shoot him an email when I'm available again or if he'd rather I wait for him to contact me. It's worked out well. It's nice seeing mostly the same gents over and over because it's less of the boring and tedious screening and more of the fun part. And, emailing my repeaters/regulars that said it was ok has helped with that a lot. A couple even expressed they were flattered I wanted to see them regularly. Maybe they like being "chased".

I love to get a simple "How are you" email...

every now and then from providers that I have seen a few times, or those I have had a specially intimate connection with. Never a problem for me; always a pleasure.

NOT a fan of newsletters, updates and ad spam.  

Personal and thoughtful = great; general distribution = yuck.

Just my .02

emails, texts, newsletters, etc.  I have joined a few newsletters, but only get a couple regularly.  If they contact me by other means, it makes me feel like they considered me a decent client.  I don't always re-connect with them, but have with some.

Swim

I get emails all the time for guys and gals. Guys PM me a ton just to ask a question or chat about baseball. I encourage both.. LOL.  Gals send me hate mail or sometimes a nice note if they find my posts funny...  

Just the other day, I was at Nats park and this other hobbyist wanted to meet me for beer.. So we did.  Its up to you how far you want to take friendship. We can't make decision for you.  

Friendships do develop from time to time in the hobby world.  

BTW, I only glanced at your post Foxy, but got the gist of it from Mr. Fisher's response.

To answer your question. I don't care about newsletters unless its an agency bringing on new girls. Then the newsletter has some value...Otherwise, not much..

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Always exceptions. There are women who are only in town occasionally who I love hearing from. Some women who I've seen several times contact me whenever they have something to share. I ALWAYS appreciate that.

Once in a great while I get a "So what's up with you these days?" These are sometimes uncomfortable, as it isn't always clear what's going on. If the woman just truly wants to touch base, like at the end of the year, around the holidays, that's fine. If she has something to SAY, will be in Europe for a couple of months or even just wants to show a picture of a new puppy or whatever, okay, happy to hear and respond.

It's when I feel that if I acknowledge her with a response that I'm expected to book when I start pulling in the reins. Unless I DO want to see her in the immediate future.

So in terms of contacting past clients, go ahead. Don't expect a response that will result in an immediate booking. If you have a REASON to communicate aside from, "What a nice day this is," by all means email them.

One no-no, IMO, is PMing someone through TER and requesting that they email you for more information. If you don't already have my email address, don't ask me for it... unless we're engaged in scheduling an appointment.

or newsletter notification, others are just notifications of tours to my area.  In each case I have "joined" their site; none are blind notifications.

Currently there are two providers who contact me just to say "hi".  I am not opposed to this since I have a private email address for hobbying only.

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I wouldn't mind getting an update when one of my favorites will be touring in my region, otherwise I could not care less about a newsletter.  

It depends on the girl and the sentiment for a personal email.  I wouldn't see much value in it for a girl I only planned on seeing once.  Although if I was a regular, a "hey, how ya doing?" email would be probably well received.  I would have to perceive the email as genuine though, and not just a way to prompt a visit in the near future.  However, boundaries should be respected on both sides. So like another post had mentioned, it's probably best to approach this on a case by case basis.

I really like it when traveling providers I've seen before let me know when they're going to be in town again - I don't always track closely and occasionally end up thinking "damn, missed my chance". I've never gotten more than minimal contact or notifications, and I'm in an open relationship, so I've never felt pressured or like I was being put at risk. "Would you like to know when I'm going to be in your area?" or "do you want to follow me on twitter / get my newsletter and hear what I'm up to" seem like no obligation offers and in the unlikely event I wasn't interested, I've always felt "no thanks, I get too much email as it is, finding you on TER will be much more reliable" would be a perfectly acceptable answer.  

GP

..but that's often the case for me, being the Great American Mangina.

I think I'm on a few newsletters--mostly those of women whom I might want to see in the future, but are not often in one of my regular cities, or who are "low-volume", and therefore not always available--so it's nice to have a heads-up on when they're looking to see some new clients or are going to be in my area.

As for your No Contact policy:  Hey, if it works for you, that's great.  OTOH, I'm in some kind of regular contact with several of my favorite ladies--texting on occasion, or an email here or there, even if it's not to set up a date or a morning after thank-you note kind of thing.  I think that too is good Customer Service.  After all, each of these women has received $XXXXX from me over the years.  Isn't it only natural that I feel like a bit of a special customer, if I've given a provider that kind of repeat business and said nice things about her to other potential customers?

Many many many moons ago, in another life, I was in sales.  I worked from 9 AM to 9 PM, banging out cold calls, followup calls, and final sales calls.  After awhile, I started using evenings mostly for "cultivation" of my existing client base.  I'd speak to a few clients every evening with absolutely no intent to sell them anything.  They were just "Hey Mr. Jones, how are you?" kinds of calls.  It set the client at ease, made him feel like he wasn't just someone who could write a big check now and again, but rather a human being whose needs I understood.

Of course, a week or two later, he was going to get a sales call from me--but guess what?  The non-sales/cultivation call paid off--I used to get big ticket repeat business--all due to client cultivation.

Taking this experience back into the hobby world now:  The women whom I am most likely to repeat with are the ones who are ok with or even encourage a certain amount of ongoing contact.  It makes the GFE thing that much GFEer for me.

(Yes, I understand, women have to be worried that some guy is going to take stuff like this too far, and turn into some kind of crazy stalker type.  And it can be dangerous for the guy also, since there are very few clients who really want to get a phone call from a provider at some ungodly hour asking for help--especially when "help" = bail money, or a dead car battery or "my boyfriend beat me up" or something.  Both sides have to feel comfortable about this kind of thing.  But I think if done right, it can make for a more satisfying experience for both sides.)

Anyway, that's my take on this kind of thing.  But I don't think your current approach is "wrong"--I think it has a lot to do with what kind of business model you want to put in place.  There's more than one way to run a business, and many different models can work--you have to be comfortable with it as well.

Please never text me.  I prefer email, or telephone conversations.  Email me to your heart's content, I have a hobby email that I check a few times a day.  But texts can get intercepted by my SO, not to mention the suppina-able (sic) records from the phone company.  The emails are private as are the voice conversations.  But voice mail or text me anytime before 9am or after 3pm and you risk getting me busted.  I had an ATF a while back who had the annoying habit of texting me at inopportune times.  She never listened when I asked her not to.  She ran her business on Text messages and felt no need to change.  After complaining thrice at her for it I finally told her never to contact me again and that we were done

I actually like hearing from the ladies via email.  Newletters - wonderful.   The occasional - how's it going... haven't seen you in a while... whatever is just great.   However (and I can't stress this enough) PLEASE DON'T TEXT ME unless I am trying to find your incall and I have texted you to begin with.

A very wonderful provider nearly got me busted that way after an epic multiple hour all day f*ckf*st.  I was coming home late trying to get my head straight - stopped at the grocery store to give myself a few minutes and pick up some fresh fruit.  

All of the sudden =  BING == in the fruit aisle - my smart phone went off and she had sent me a very nice, thoughtful AND highly incriminating text.....  If I had gone straight home - it might have been all over...