I was with a couple my first two times. And once was a double with one of my girlfriends who was trying to get started in the biz.
you may or may not get off during your session with us gents or even want to, but you might as well enjoy it if we're going to be down there enjoying tasting you -
I'm not going to make you jump through hoops and answer too many specific questions
after all nobody likes homework :p
so generally -
what are the best things to do to make it good for you -
and what are the worst things we are doing to make it a bloody nuisance....
ah - no pressure - you get enough of that "at work" :
The “A” in DATY does not stand for aardvark. Do not approach the task like a hungry ant eater probing for a meal. Finesse is the name of the game.
Shock and awe is a bad strategy. A slow build is more effective than using all your fire power at once.
Teeth are always a bad thing. Nothing down there wants to be bitten.
A little tease and denial can be a good thing.
Apply gentle pressure with your lower lip.
Watch for body language. When you’re doing it right, we’ll let you know.
Finally, if your head becomes permanently fused to my crotch by the stalagmites of spittle that formed from your lip, you have been down there too long and you need to stop
is best.
however, it's what happens before that is also as important. lots of foreplay and kissing will get things stirred up.
from there... it's all good!
Shock and awe is a bad strategy. A slow build is more effective than using all your fire power at once.
Teeth are always a bad thing. Nothing down there wants to be bitten.
A little tease and denial can be a good thing.
Apply gentle pressure with your lower lip.
Watch for body language. When you’re doing it right, we’ll let you know.
Finally, if your head becomes permanently fused to my crotch by the stalagmites of spittle that formed from your lip, you have been down there too long and you need to stop.
The biggest mistake men make in this area is thinking our clits are just smaller versions of their cocks...so they go at it the way they want their cock handled, sucked, or whatever.
I have an extremely sensitive joy button and indirect pressure is best and I swear some guys pretend they don't know when I have to disengage myself from their mouths and say gently please, they don't get it. If I have to take my foot and practically dislocate your shoulder, you're causing me extreme discomfort!!! And please don't try and suck on anything down there or my foot will find your shoulder.
Best thing is to listen to the lady you are with. REALLY listen we'll communicate what feels great, I do it verbally and through body language!!
Steph xoxo
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almost universally liked -
the slow build up instead of attacking.....
a bit of teasing - but being careful not to lose the moment
and the bit of using the lower lip - I've gravitated to that over the years because so many
respond positively to it......
Always start gentle and let her tell you when to suck harder or lick harder etc. if someone attacks my clit and tries to suck it off my body I firmly plant my palm on his forehead, push and scoot backwards, never to return. The damage has been done.
If you are on your back and he's gone pussy deaf between your legs, firmly plant one foot between his neck and shoulder and PUSH hard! Then scoot up, never to return, lol. Divert attention to his cock...
Just resist any temptation of using your teeth!
Steph xoxo
I for one am just done when I don't cum fast enough for some gal and she starts just beating up my crank -
*nothing* drives an orgasm away faster than over-stimulation
while each person has different thresholds for this I think this is biologically true for everyone
it seems only logical to start off very lightly and test the waters as it were - and hope *never* to hit the point of being too rough or creating that over-stimulation....
First (and most importantly), please for the love of everything that is holy do NOT pull my clitoral hood back under any circumstances. For me, direct stimulation of my clitoris is pure torture. It's not only an incredibly annoying feeling, but it's actually painful.
Second, the light/soft sort of stimulation is AWESOME. There's really no need to mash your face as hard as possible into my groin (which brings me to my next point...)
Either shave your face completely or have a 1/2 inch of growth minimum. Stubble is the devil. This rule applies to kissing as well. There have been times when making out with a stubbly-faced dude has left me with what looks like a Kool Aid mustache for at least 30 minutes after.
Basically, just err on the side of too gentle. Don't get me wrong, I love to get fucked super hard and super fast. I just can't handle painful DATY.
You think I go into the finest steakhouse and ask the chef "hey man how do you prefer I eat the steak?".
What kinda stupid fucking question is that?
He who has the gold makes da rules.
If I want to put ketchup on that steak and eat it with my fingers. That is my fucking right as a red-blooded American.
Likewise when I drop that $300/$400 if I want to go down on her like a raccoon at a garbage dump then that is what I damn well will do.
Seriously!!!!!!! Does no one have respect for the consumer anymore. Sheez.
RT Out
P.S. Look for RT's upcoming Bill of Hobby Rights
OR you need to show documentation of a chef who serves steak that's attached to his body, nerve endings and all.
What kinda stupid fucking question is that?
He who has the gold makes da rules.
If I want to put ketchup on that steak and eat it with my fingers. That is my fucking right as a red-blooded American.
Likewise when I drop that $300/$400 if I want to go down on her like a raccoon at a garbage dump then that is what I damn well will do.
Seriously!!!!!!! Does no one have respect for the consumer anymore. Sheez.
RT Out
P.S. Look for RT's upcoming Bill of Hobby Rights
the analogy is VALID - repeat V-A-L-I-D.
If you went into a vegetarian restaurant and the chef said eat the (insert name of communist/socialist vegetarian meal here) this way because this is the PROPER way to eat it.
Would you feel slighted or go "Oh I guess he/she is right".
The steak is mine and the Pussy is mine (for the hour). As long as I don't act like an overbearing asshole then I get to eat the steak (or pussy) the way I WANT TO. Not the way the chef (or Provider) feels is the proper way.
RT Out
P.S. I would prove my point using the Transitive Property but I have taken a sleeping pill and drank a full glass of Cupcake Merlot. So I have to bid you nighty night.
But I will leave you this great quote (for the Submissive Tobi) from the Mathematician/Philosopher Rene Descartes: **** Except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power. ***
At least change the raccoon/garbage dump metaphor to a Tuscan truffle pig burrowing at a tree stump.
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The earthy ambrosia of the elusive white truffle displaced by a discarded jar of super chunk.
You have a grunting pig, a gnarly tree stump and buried fungi.
I have an enthusiastic (to say the least!) and lovable labrador, a glass jar and delicious JIF Natural Creamy Peanut Butter.
Who has the nobler soul?
Pigs are like saints as they are revered more in death than in life.
It is chunkier at the top of the jar.. Just after opening one is the best part.
Oh, and your analogies suck too. Think analogies. Dipshit.
Did not want to DATY. It rarely if ever works and I allow it because they want it. You go down and chew away at my lady parts and I will kick you in the dentures, just so you know. Those are my rules. You might have the money honey, and you are welcome to go elsewhere to spend it.
A hookers body is not something you rip into and have at it, unless she says yes. Money or no money, but you already know that, you are just stirring the pot like you always do. You talk a huge amount of bravado and macho shtick but I bet you, you don't treat a hooker in person the way you would like us to think.
You go ahead and write that bill of hobby rights or rather copy and paste it...seem to remember some other dick wrote that shit. Makes no difference to me what bullshit manifesto you post. Treat me anything other than a human being and you will live to regret it.
feel the same way you do. If I come upon a lady with your preference I usually dont see them again. Although it's not always in the cards strict indifference to it is a turn off.
BTW, most of the time during an appointment, I would prefer an escort not do a BJ either
I love when we kiss extensively and your hands wander and just hint at touching me there. I like when you touch all around, but don't go straight for her. The teasing is like asking her permission. I get really wet when she's asked like that- with your hands. Gentle touches all around her while we are still kissing, and then move your hand over the pubic bone. Start at the top, and then feel downwards- just over the lips with the tips of your fingers. Don't dive in yet! Just pet her there briefly, still asking her permission with your gentle gouches. Feel my inevitable moisture- by now she'll be swollen and oozing- aching- for more. Then, if you like, you can part my lips with your fingers- I'll be gyrating for you- and feel how wet I am. Then move down with your mouth- flicker your tongue over the top part of my hood- the part closest to my belly button, in the opposite direction from the actual clit peaking out from beneath. Flicker there, and I'll guide you. Pay attention to my body language- subtle but persuasive- and you'll get me off very easily. I have that gift. You can even put your finger inside of me if your nails are well groomed and you'd like to. I'll be incredibly wet by then, and you can slide it right up in there, and feel my g-spot. Finger fuck me while flicking your tongue- maybe by then I'm pushing your face into me and gyrating, I'm going to come when I pull the pillow over my face. I'm a moaner! I'll come for you a zillion times if you have the desire to make me. Sometimes I get so orgasmic that I'll come just from the slightest touch, and sometimes even- though rarely- I'll be so peaked that I'll come even without your touch.
Now I need to go take care of myself. Lol!
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How many of you like a long lead-up to DATY like Sarah does?
The reason I ask is that a woman I knew got impatient with the foreplay, and just wanted me to get my face in there. The light touching and brushing and things like that bored her.
So?
I'm with Sarah! Doesn't have to be a real long lead up to it, but some light touching and teasing definitely gets everything ready down there. And as the other ladies said, soft, gentle teasing is the way to go. Absolutely no biting, sucking or hard pressure. If the lady is pushing, or kicking you away, that does not mean dig in harder.
That whole little scenario doesn't have to take a long time. 
I once had a civvie guy spend over an hour stroking and kissing my back, pouring champagne on my back, massaging me from my shoulders to my feet... It was nice, but I kept falling asleep. Lol!
Thanks for the thrill, Sarah!
Now I need to go take care of myself. Lol!
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slow the fuck down, and back off the hard pressure on the clit!
Most improved after several attempts, and with much coaching.
I don't think that I have ever had to coach a woman that, tho.
So I guess it really is true after all!
But, I know it has something to do with the hood. That does the trick for me after the slow buildup.
I've tried to mimic, but I must confess the couple times I tried to DATY, I'm terrible at it. lol
Yourself or another woman...?
I was with a couple my first two times. And once was a double with one of my girlfriends who was trying to get started in the biz.
My favorite DATY experiences have been where I sit on the floor with my back to the bed or a chair and the lady strattles my face. My hands on her ass, her hands behind my head. When you get the elevations correct, with heels and/or a pillow, it can be great for both of us. Her hands behind my head allow her to control the location, tempo and depth. Be careful, though, you may need to catch her when her knees buckle.
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since the post about sucking cock was up I thought a lot of people might enjoy this convo as well....
I think it's as simple as paying attention to the ladies cues myself - but from what I hear from my friends in the biz, a lot of you guys out there could use some help :p