With someone new? If you can last 10 minutes of actual action, on the first go-round, they're totally messing up the build-up.
Maybe try to slow them down on getting started...?
Do most guys cum in the first 10 minutes? It seems as of late the providers I have been with seem to have trouble hiding their annoyment when I don't pop in the first 10 minutes. This just seems to compound the problem. Then you read all the reviews, and it seems guys are popping 2-3 times an hour. Is there something wrong with me?
Girls just seem to be trying to do less and less work. Why just the other day we had a hooker drone on and on here about a guy that wanted more than one pop in an hour.
As more and more millennial hookers come into the biz, there is a greatly likelihood of them wanting to do less. Remember these gals all got that trophy just for showing up at soccer so please be understanding.
They get stars and shit in kindergarten and elementary and medals and crap for doing absolutely nothing worthwhile in middle and high school.
This is supposed to build their self confidence according to the “shrink association” which tells everyone how to raise their kids. Now you wonder, why we have so many crappy behaving kids.
and no. If you have a problem with her, just see someone else.
Should have said--no, and maybe.
Lol, really enjoyed typing "I pop when I pop" because I know how annoyed some folks are about "pop" for "cum".
Anyway, on to my answer of the OP, seriously it's never the same, and I hope it never will be either. Sometimes the lady is sexually aggressive right off the bat and I cum in 15 minutes and then we relax and talk during the downtime. And then some ladies like to get to know you a little and then I'm cumming in mintute 30 or so. It all depends on the lady too as to how many pops, I rarely have less than a 2 hour session, so mostly I get 3 in, but I had 1 lady that tried to get number 5, but the little guy, had had enough.
Bottom line is, we are all different, you shouldn't think or expect that your experience will be like anyone else's. What you should expect is that your experience will be fulfilling, and that is as much your responsibility as it is hers. That is my opinion, I didn't charge you for it, and that' s what it's worth.
I guess that is what I am looking for, but seem to have trouble finding a provider who doesn't mind spending the extra time. Mind you it doesn't have to be balls to the wall the whole time, but it would be nice to find a provider that doesn't act like it is a race to the finish.
younger providers (20-25 yo) tend to try to get guys to pop quickly. Ladies in their 30's and 40's tend to make it more of a journey than a sprint to the finish.
Had a FL gal last week gave me the best head in a real long time. Two pops in about 45 minutes. Totally unusual for me. I'm always a one shot gal. Damn she was good.................Oh and she relished her task. Wanted to go for number three lol that wasn't going to happen. She's 28. I'll be back.
Couldnt have said it better myself. Totally agree
I'm not saying this is the case, but I suspect from your posts that you may be searching on BP or something like that where it's pop and appointment is over. Those girls are motivated to get you off so they can leave. If you search ladies in here you'll find that they are with you for the amount of time you book, so their motivation is different. I very rarely do less than 2 hours, and I've had very few disappointing sessions.
I love 80 minute - 2 hour sessions with 1 pop. 6-7 edges. Lots of pre ooze. How you get there is the real journey not how many you have.
I mention it in an email a day or so before our meeting. Single pop, lots of teasing and exploring, for both of us. It really hasn't been a problem.
J
Let the ladies know when you first contact them that you are looking for something slow with some teasing and breaks in the action - or whatever it is that really creams your coffee! I mean, you don't order a steak and expect the chef to know how you like it served, do you? Also, if a lady isn't fond of nice slow action, she can opt out and you can move on to a more compatible playmate.
If not discussed in advance, it's always one of the first questions out of my mouth when I meet a new playdate: So...many times can you cum in X hour(s)? It's not just that I'm greedy! I also like to know how to pace things for maximum happiness. :-
In my twenties and thirties three times within and hour was a regular occurrence. In my forty's it dropped to twice within the hour and I still could do that into my mid fifty's. For the last ten years mostly one good one and done, but there are times with the right girl that she coaches a second one out of me. I'm surprised but most thankful of her abilities.
I feel like the act (art?) of sex is monumental to the whole "build-up"-
If someone rushes you to the finish line, well sometimes the finish just isn't that great (or in my own case, if it comes/Cums at all!)
I prefer to think of it as a symphony.
In the beginning you have the introductory lines, the establishment of the melody & tone.
You are hardly to the overture yet.
Or dare saying, the climax. (Anyone without formal music training would probably be amused to know, the buildup in music to "that critical point" is also referred to as the climax. Hehe.)
It takes a while for me to get where I want to go.
In my civilian life I am more sex deprived than I care to think. Of course, my appointments are not always "about me" or my "getting off"- however, when I meet with a fun partner who is as eager for me to get there as he is himself, I love-love-love that ride, and try to drag it out as much as possible....
Good God, who doesn't like that feeling?
I always try to ask my guy (if I am unfamiliar with him) if he is capable of MSOG or honestly only one (Gents, honest communication here is essential), that way I KNOW to do orgasm denial if his snake tries to get to jumping too quickly, if he only has "one good one in him."
I have a couple of tricks I can pull out of my bag if need be!
But I will say to give a providers perspective, not like this hasn't been beaten into the ground on forum or forum posts here, but just incase one of you fellows hasn't read or heard of this before...
(First for the record, I am a MSOG gal, if it's within your time, so be it. Pop em off as much as you can, I am down for the ride!) However, there are some men who will consistently try to take advantage, and barely let you come up for air, as though a lady isn't human, but a fuck-bot (rarely have I met this type myself) and there are those who will always push for OTC 15-25 minutes here or there.
However innocently the average guy won't intend to (and yes, it is the providers responsibility to keep track of the clock, even when we aren't supposed to be clock watchers, lol, ironic right)
There's the guys who make it a mission to push for more, for free.
I will admit though, there are providers, who do not offer MSOG, and will try to fuck you into that one pop as quickly as possible. One & done types. If I were a man, and one & done, a quick nut was my mission, any old BP broad would due. I would be embarrassed at a fellow provider who claims to give quality service and RUSHES.
Shame, shame.
That in my eyes is far from a quality service. Just my personal opinion.
Then again, I want you to see stars when you pop so who am I to judge!
Not all providers are following this trend. Just sayin.
Get a sexpert when you hire a pro!
Read reviews.
And communicate.
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That's not that long at all.
Ten minutes? That's premature ejaculation time I would think. I be had providers ask me, "do you want to go for two or for a slower one?" I'm in no rush and would rather have one fantastic, have to pull the sheets out of my ass, pop, than two quick ones. To each his own.
When the door opens, the woman will want to be as seductive as possible. It's natural and honest to comment on how beautiful she is, to pay her that small compliment, to express your pleasure. But don't. If you don't say anything at all about her visual presentation, and just go through the preliminaries, the chitchat, the DFK, whatever, the lovemaking will last much longer. I'm not going to try to explain why, maybe it's just magic, doesn't matter. Maybe it only works for me, and wouldn't work for anyone else. But I'm pretty sure that whether you're concerned about "premature" ejaculation, or just want it to last a few minutes longer than it already does, it would work for others. Try it sometime and let me know if it feels like it made a difference.
...I've never been hurried. I usually do 1 hour appointments and orgasm about 30/40 minutes in. Don't know why you're having this happen. The first thing I thought though was were you checking reviews and looking for providers that don't rush. Also look for more mature ladies none of the ones I've seen were ever in a hurry.
You can cum when you want to or don't come at all. The Provider has no say in this AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you wanted to cum on the 58th minute of a 60 minute session that's your business NOT HERS.
Luckily for me I have been masturbating since the 6th grade and I am very good at prolonging my money shot. But I do/can cum quicker if I cease masturbation for several days.
Once I was in Atlanta and had a 2 hour date with a well known Provider (p.s., she liked to give BJs in front of a mirror). I did not (purposely) cum until the last 10 minutes of that date. She seemed mildly frustrated because she said "honey you have to cum before I leave". I do?
Long story short I busted it on her face at the last minute while calling her a good whore (that's the RT Special - get some why don't ya). Which was my plan all along because I am usually a one shot guy. Not always but usually.
For $300 an hour I (and you) can cum when I (and you) damn well please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
As far as the reviews of guys cumming 10 or 20 times in a session. Reminds me of my high school football days. Every guy in the locker room SAID he was some kind of super sex machine that fucked girls all day long and had massive orgasms. And SAID he was being recruited by Ohio State, Alabama, USC, Texas, yada, yada, yada. Ya feel me - right?
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With someone new? If you can last 10 minutes of actual action, on the first go-round, they're totally messing up the build-up.
Maybe try to slow them down on getting started...?
...but if a guy can't control himself for ten minutes, or conversely feels that a 20-minute or so journey to the first (maybe only) cup is not enough, then that's probably more on him than the woman.
Maybe there are some young girls who just want to get it over with and move on to whatever's next, but I have not had the misfortune of encountering them. At least not in the past year. Trying to remember back further than that I can say I had some disappointing sessions, but not really in that way. Sometimes a very beautiful woman shows up, but I just don't feel any particular chemistry with her, and in those sessions I probably didn't perform at my best, but that's not the same thing.
It's lame for a man to need to focus on putting it off. Control himself? Total waste of mental energy. I say get all that tension out, then plenty of time for more sensual play and/or round two
Variety is the spice of life. Some men pop in first 10 minutes then that leaves us lots of time to get him up and running for a 2nd pop
I don't keep a log on every voyage, but I cannot remember a session where I've encountered a woman who was impatient about getting me off quickly.
Which brings up a different kind of disappointment to the hobby.
Men have often repeated how glad they are going to be on their deathbed happily reminiscing about their exploits with all the beautiful women they knew. Do any of you guys actually remember a session you've had more than a month ago? I mean, I remember seeing so and so and so and doing this and that position or whatever, and whether or not she gave good head, but memories of those sessions don't dance in my head bringing dreamy or erotic memories.
Sessions are overwhelmingly intense in the moment, but not as sources of pleasure as memories.
Maybe it depends on what else is going on in your life, I don't know.
Deep down inside, we know that it's only a business transaction. Whatever chemistry/connection happens, it only lasts until the session is over (of course, there are exceptions, but they're rare).
Sometimes I don't even remember the faces of the ladies. Perhaps, it's just me and my badly insufficient facial recognition ability.
I like to play a little game with providers, it's called the first one to cum wins, and I'm undefeated. I'm like Speedy Gonzales in a session.
BJ's too probably. Ladies, you have the clinical data - what say you
1. Condoms can be challenging, especially if you're not providing your own.
2. The last time you nutted. 10 days before the session or right before the session.
3. Is she sexier than her pics or do you start out a little disappointed?
4. Does she act like she enjoying herself or just going through the motions?
5. You find out she's not offering you all of the services you read about or received the last time you saw her.
6. Does it not feel like you're alone? Is someone lurking in the other room?
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You a nice massage then flip when they think it's time. But time, especially for massage with HE, can be tough to time.
Regarding escort services. It also depends how much time you booked. If you book a QV, pay for a QV, and don't pop in ten minutes, the girl will get pissed.
If you're delaying intimacy until ten minutes before the appointment time and don't start getting close, maybe they're getting nervous that they have to tell you time may be up soon. It is pretty awkward to have to tell you. Most of the time telling you is to ensure you're aware so you don't leave without popping.
Sometimes they just don't wasn't to spend more than ten minutes on sex even if you booked an hour. I would go with a more patient provider in that case.
Maybe you think it's taking ten minutes, but it's actually taking 45 minutes. Are you watching the clock?
Or maybe you're doing something that is annoying her, like pulling her hair, humping her face, making her gag, etc.
Guess it's hard to answer your question outside of context. This is pretty general
What's QV? Quick visit? Or...Quality Voyage? Of...what? Remember, some of us live very sheltered lives and aren't up on the street language and such.
It took me a while to figure that out too, when people would request them. I was like huh? What's that?
People do time schedules like QV (5-10m) 15 m, 30m, 45m, 1h.
Very high vol.
Many bp providers tell me that many of the younger guys they see pop in 5 to 6 minutes. How old is she ?
Sometimes there can be an emergency. I saw a regular yesterday at her mothers house. We did it on the living room couch. She was very scared that her mother would return home and catch us in the act. Her mother is a religious type. It was one of those times I had to really drill it hard, deep, and fast at the same time. I did not mind because I booked a half hour appointment, I just wanted to get a release. When I called and asked is she would be available she said maybe. Her mother left 10 minutes before I got to the incall. Her mother's cat was in the living room watching us the whole time. I was lucky that the cat did not attack me lol.
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Over the years, I have found that if I add one minutes for each year, it gives a good approximation of how long I could last.
The good news is that when I was in my twenties, I could recharge in about ten minutes; but the bad news is that back then, 90% of gals were of the "one and done" school of business, and also I didn't have the $ to pay for more pops back then.
The way I eventually worked around this was to jerk off about 30 minutes before a session so that when I got there I could last maybe 5 minutes and maintain a shred of dignity to say nothing of enjoyment of the session.
Now I can afford long leisurely sessions with gals who allow MSOG, but of course the recharge time is up over 2 hours these days.
It's all an example of the balance of ying and yang in the world.
That being said Here's MY OPINION
I can not stress enough how important it is to do these SIMPLE things:
1. DO YOUR RESEARCH - Read her reviews, Learn from them what type or experience she provides so you know what to expect, If you have and YOU seem to be getting DIFFERENT results .. Then MAYBE just MAYBE..The PROBLEM is YOU and ONLY YOU can FIGURE out why!!!
2. COMMUNICATE - BEFORE you meet (i.e. Email,PM whatever you prefer) and AFTER (Explain to the lady that you are NOT looking to be RUSHED) .. Let her know that if that's something she isnt willing to do then you will leave
3. BOOK LONGER APPOINTMENTS - I personally don't book anything under 2 hours (I feel in order for ME to provide YOU with an unforgettable experience that I need to KNOW you and have TIME to explore each other and LEARN what satisfies you and what YOU are wanting from our time together) and I make sure that whomever I am with is FULLY satisfied (that's why 90% of my clients are regulars or become regulars (and that's an actual percentage)..while i don't provide unlimited MSOG (i provide at least 3-5 within 2 hours, i just will not be treated like a cum dumpster robo slut..lol)...I do provide an out of this world experience and I make it unforgettable and out of this world. The clients that book me know that they will not be rushed and will be satisfied...why???..Because of my REVIEWS (see #1)
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1. I want the client to leave happy.
2. I do not want to feel like a cum dumpster.
3. I will do my level best to accommodate.
4. When my body has reached it's limit, I am done.
If a client mentions he likes a non rushed session I take that to mean he is not all about get it in and get it done and that he likes a bit of this and a bit of that all leading toward to finish. That I have no issue with and will happily oblige.
I communicate when my I need to change things and any decent guy will not begrudge that. Those that do, well I get up get dressed and show them the door. A robo-hooker I am not.