But how much of that is real and not just acting?  

It does make it more enjoyable if she's having a good time as well but as long as money is involved it's not a real date hence I can't be too focused on her even if her acting is academy award worthy.  
As with civvie dates, I'd try to find a balance but that could have a wide range too.

I love giving pleasure.

It matters a great deal that the lady is having a good time. I want her enjoy her time with me. Thing is I don't mind if she doesn't cum with me. I get I am not what most ladies would call attractive. Also my unit sometimes has issues. I am fine if it doesn't happen for her. I am a realist. That isn't to betaken as I don't care if she gets hers. I do, I just get it isn't always going to happen. But even if she doesn't get hers, I try to make it fun. I like making people happy, people I bed most of all.

Plus I need time to recharge some. There's nothing better than when the lady also has a nice big O during the session. One thing I don't like is when it's obviously faked. I would prefer honesty. I had one lady tell me straight up that I can DATY her but she doesn't cum that way. Another told me she likes it but only a certain way. It took more effort on my part but that's okay.  

Normally--with the mood an attitude I generally arrive with--the session is/seems/feels more complete if she finishes. If she fakes it, okay, she reckons she ain't gonna get there, and wants to wind it up. If she doesn't make it, that's fine, she'll probably soon have another opportunity to try. But most of the time giving and getting is one and the same thing. Most times it gives me a good feeling to give her pleasure.

That's most of the time.

Sometimes I really don't care, don't want to care, don't want to feel that I should care, don't care if she's looking out for herself and being "equally selfish," and I don't even care if she thinks I'm a good lover, a nice guy, or somebody she wants to book again. Sometimes I just like getting off on a woman. I just want to handle her the way I can't paw, fondle, and stick it to to every woman in the mundane life who gets it twitching when she walks by.

Those aren't the best sessions, not the worse, either. Just sometimes. In the mundane world we care about so many things. Once in a while, I just like to not care about anyone/anything but me. That gives me the warm and fuzzy feeling we all want.

All I'm saying is if you don't care if the lady O's that's totally fine. Cool…whatever. HOWEVER don't ask me dumb shit during then. I rarely ever if ever fake it…I'm young enough to still be a bit of a bitchy princess. But if you know your sex game ain't about shit then ask me ten times "do you like it…are you cumming mami?" and other stupid shit… I can't. I just can't.

My favorite clients are serious about my pleasure as I am theirs. You can't fake going from dry to soaking in a matter of minutes. I find the more selfish or serious I am about my involuntary convulsions, the more turned on my clients are because instead of "I have provided you with a service *robot voice*" It's more like damn we just fuuuuuuuuuuuccckkkkkkked the house down

I'm GGG and very much into each appointment being a mutually pleasurable experience. But if she requires a lot of work to get off or isn't trying to get there, then I don't worry about it.  

Honestly, part of the appeal of P4P for me is that I get to be a selfish lover if that's how I feel at that time. I get to fuck how I want (with respect and consideration given to the lady) knowing that I won't wake up to a woman's who's mad at me because I didn't feel like licking her pussy for 30 mins to finish her. I'm paying not to work.

We all bring a lifetime of experience  to every BCD moment, and I guess I wouldn't know any other way to go into it other than a presumption that mutual pleasure provides an exponential benefit to me.    

I am not saying I believe one way is right or wrong, but I think at some point our approach to fulfilling sex seems to just become part of our wiring - and to be honest, in my case the current that's run through my veins has served me pretty ok

I won't go there unless encouraged too.
Trying to make her jizz, and all..

IMO.. That's really not part of the deal.
I think it's a little over the line to insist she has orgasms, and try to make it happen.
It's creepy. Especially if I never met her before.

Greatly increases my enjoyment of the "date". I more of a giver, and really get turned on knowing that my actions are truly providing plasure to her.

I feel like in order for it to be a truly fulfilling experience for me whomever I'm with must have a good time. Maybe its all about the fantasy, but I get off when I think I've gotten her off. A session all about me just isn't all that appealing.

sexual part of the encounter as much as hobbyists.

Now, a lady can derive pleasure from a meeting for whatever reason but she isnt coming to the table with the same motivation.So, I don't feel any need to try and please her that way.  

Too, I never really know if they're just saying things to fulfill their "escort duties" or if they are being honest. waste of time to ponder the what ifs.

That for me is the best, but if it doesn't happen I'm happy with someone who turns me on and is wholly into interaction with me, regardless of outcome.  If she makes unmistakable orgasmic reactions, that's great; if she directs me to what is pleasing her most and wrinkles up her face in that special way that's also terrific; if she fakes it, it's a turnoff.  A great provider will keep working you intimately until the job is done, by whatever means or positions.  Even better, if she comes back for more with enthusiasm.  Too bad, they're only as human as we are -- their special capacities exceed ours and should be enjoyed to the extent possible, by whatever means -- oral, physical, sensual, vocal, endurance.  What better is there?

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