On P411 the ladies can give you okays so other ladies see that and feel comfortable seeing you, if you see a lady that does advertise there ask her to do that for you.

You said you've done FBSMs, so why not use some of those ladies as references? However, I'm wondering, if you have done those, why you did not submit reviews for any of those providers. I could not find any at TER. After all, it is a two-way street IMO. Nice reviews, if you were satisfied with their services, are assets to a lady's business. They also would make her more prone to serve as a reference for you. Additionally, reviews tell other ladies you may wish to see that you are in fact a serious player, rather than someone just wasting their time.

Its seems like no one and everyone is on that site.   When I am logged on there I dont see much activity  but when I am on other sites I hear everyone has one!

I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me to recommend another provider, but that's me. I can't speak for other ladies. Why not use the fbsm providers you have seen as references

p411

I have joined 3 sites, and found p411 the fastest no nonsense way to screen someone.
Its so simple & polite discreet and most ladies do respond, the gents also have a profile with ok's. I personally like their system.  The ladies are also screened and must have ok's or invites and other items checked before they can become a member.  You should feel assured if your wanting to see someone fairly new and with little reviews you are getting the real person.  Not like your jumping into a fire pit calling on BP and are upset. For all the emails I receive just asking for my # without even telling me where they found me or any info about them the items most ladies are wanting to feel safe is a good example & reason not to publish #. It weeds out the potential "unknown" and "private" callers and all the other u know what's.   I prefer safety and quality over a volume of crazy not serious callers interrupting my private time.  Check email boom done on my time not a fake caller time.   P411 is good, and so is TER if you send your handle and a ref. and most do and it's appreciated ! xoxo

Thank you for the responses!

I did do a review, i feel weird writing a review off of one encounter (though I wouldn't be opposed if it was good) so that's why i haven't done a bunch. I haven't asked any of them for ref because I didn't think of it at the time.  I am still sampling too . I'd love to find an "ATF".