Yes, first of all, I have never written anything about a no-show, so I am doing what you said here and my inclination is that something happened. Her blog, her twitter, everything have gone silent...so multiple "Are you okay" emails have been sent.
TO some other person's point, yeah, nobody likes to be duped. It was something that was planned, other things were changed, etc. The site which no longer exists and that shall not be named I remember had posts about people not showing up, so I wasn't sure that was the norm, and I would definitely give people the benefit of the doubt. If I was really hot under the clollar I would have shot off a wild name calling her out. This thread is to solicit what others think as this is the first time honestly that it has ever happened. I'm not complaining and neither is my wallet.
Would like thoughts (both Provider and Hobbyists),
Never in my many years of hobbying have I had a no-show, until yesterday. While I am sympathetic to the fact that this provider might have had an accident or something, there has been no attempt to make contact or any written apology.
This person has stellar reviews, checked my info on P411 and screened me (so has my information) phone, email, etc. As recently as 2 hours before she said she was on her way, yet nothing. I am a VIP ember because I provide reviews. This has left sour grapes for me as I was scheduled to see this person as a favor in a City I don't live in.
So here are my concerns:
1. Should I write a review account? This would be her first negative review. Everyone has them and I think it helps people think twice when they check that review and reminds people if providers have a cancellation policy, then hobbyists have the right to say how they were left alone in a strange city for the eve.
2. If I do write the bad review, (BTW, I have never given anything below an 8 I think even if someone is somebody I'd never see again. I just don't think it is right), I'd still give the person a 9 for her photos but a 1 for service, but am concerned this person and her friends who do participate on the forums might put be on some mysterious black ball list.
3. Do you still get credit for a review if you actually never got to see this person? In which case there is no other redeeming value for writing such a review other than to help other hobbyists consider possibility that they might get stood up when deciding between her and someone else.
It is very controversial, but that's what the rule is.
You can, however, post a notice on your local board about this, but I would wait 2-3 days just in case.
I had a favorite pull a no-show on me, and 3 days later she called to say that she was in a car accident while on her way to see me and got laid* up in bed. Her phone got destroyed and she just now got a new one to get in touch with me. She didn't have a computer she could even use.
So, while almost all of us have felt your frustration, give it some time. There could be a good reason for her no show.
*not the good kind, either
If you did not see the lady as far as I know the rules here is that a review cannot be posted.
From what I gather this just happened maybe give her a day or two and see if she gets back to you maybe something did happen.I can certainly understand being frustrated with a no-show unfortunately these things happen sometimes on both sides of the coin.It only takes a few minutes to send a short email,text,or call to let the person know something came up but maybe she was not able to call you for whatever reason.
and I truly hope you misspoke. You want to write a review on a no-show to warn other hobbyists, but you don't think it's right to give lower than an 8 no matter how you're treated or how unrepresentative her photos are? Personally I'm far more interested in knowing about bad service or excessive use of photoshop than the occasional no-show, where my only costs are time and gas.
You state that she confirmed that she was on her way two hours before the appointment; my first inclination would be that some emergency or unfortunate incident took place (has it even been 24 hours?). Send her a "I hope you're OK" email and give it another day or two. Don't go off half-cocked.
Yes, first of all, I have never written anything about a no-show, so I am doing what you said here and my inclination is that something happened. Her blog, her twitter, everything have gone silent...so multiple "Are you okay" emails have been sent.
TO some other person's point, yeah, nobody likes to be duped. It was something that was planned, other things were changed, etc.
The site which no longer exists and that shall not be named I remember had posts about people not showing up, so I wasn't sure that was the norm, and I would definitely give people the benefit of the doubt. If I was really hot under the clollar I would have shot off a wild name calling her out.
This thread is to solicit what others think as this is the first time honestly that it has ever happened. I'm not complaining and neither is my wallet.
It is extremely unfortunate that this site does not honor "FLAKE REVIEWS" like a certain defunct site. If a provider has a history of "flaking" in her reviews that would be a very USEFUL red flag for hobbyists to consider before calling
almost as worthless as those of our little turdster et al who don't seem to mind having their time wasted.
IMO NCNS is extremely disrespectful in both this business and every other part of our lives. I can't imagine simply blowing off a client without giving him/her the benefit of a call or text which would take all of about ten seconds of my busy life.
As for writing a review, TER policies require that there actually "be a session" before you can write a review about one, and after reading your post I find myself actually agreeing with them on this policy. You are supposed to be writing a review about your "session" not about her website.
and do you really hand out 8's, just for showing up? This proves just how fucked up the review system is, and why the numerical scores are a complete waste of time.
his third paragraph. TER review policy requires a session to begin. If a guy experiences a ROB or a C & D, the session began but really didn't take place. Just my $.02.
I totally agree, in the OP's situation, no review can be written.
So he's the one with the last minute cancellation issues. That being said I'm sure he's nice enough to let the pretty laydee know he's canceling after she's blocked that time off for him.
Of course now he's only booking those one hour sessions but I'm sure that knocks down his chances for that OTC time he brags about.
Hey we can agree to disagree., but let me say this. I would say over 2 decades I probably had two situations that were just horrible despite the girls being decent human beings. In those cases I NEVER wrote a review. I also don't write if they say they don't like reviews. That is understood from the beginning.
I don't give an 8 for just showing up. I either have done some incredible homework or at least gone with reasonably well reviewed people and never had a disappointing time.
This case did throw me for a loop as it was a bit of an unorthodox set up and I wasn't in my home area. Either way, obviously not writing a review in this case, but do appreciate people's opinions and advice. It has been 27 hours and counting. Nothing on the news, so who knows.
We live and we learn.
...wouldn't it only be a short jump to writing a review on a woman whose ad looked good, who you wanted to book, but then decided not to? There are women who by the strength of their ads/reviews I'd give a 10/10, but if I had a session, they might not be that good.
If I even have a not-so-good session I don't review. In the back of my mind there's the idea that I might try her again and maybe the next time will be better. But that way of thinking hasn't yet resulted in my returning.
There are so many great experiences to be had out there that just moving on is the simplest and probably the most rewarding approach.
But, it's good to have written a few reviews, both some favorable and some unfavorable. However, seeking out providers to give unfavorable reviews makes no sense to me personally.
Yep, that is my thought. Calmed down and am even more curious than ever. I'll give her two strikes. I just won't get taken the third time. She seems real cool. She seemed to have been battling some illness but as CG says, it wouldn't hurt to send a quick email......unless something horrible happened. I will wait to see if she re-surfaces and says anything. I am pretty sure she will be extremely apologetic from what I can tell.
My anger would turn to concern as well.
If she were conducting business as usual, or business at all for that matter, I would certainly be pissed if I were you, but if no one has heard from her, her reason/s could be legit.
As I said, there are very FEW reasons for a NCNS, but that doesn't mean that there are no good reasons.
Sometime S*** happens. I have had to cancel last minute though reschedued in a day or 2 & always a great time.
In one case, there was a weather incident... which stopped traffic on the interstate. I tried driving (d*mn horny) but it was impossible. 30 miles away, where she was, the sun was shining!
Besides auto accidents, things like traffic cops, no start, flat tires... could blow a schedule, instead of the guy.
Most of you missed the point here. Sure accidents happen but it's the aftermath that really counts. It doesn't take more than 2 minutes to text her client to excuse herself:
"Sry cant make it. I just got ran over by 18-wheeler" or, "Sry cant make it, islamic terrorist got gramp and just cut off her head!"
In this day and age there are lot of way to communicate: call, text, email... so there's no excuse for not excusing oneself. It's the moral and ethical thing to do when leaving somebody else stood-up.
but I agree HV certainly didn't appear to be one who did.
There are many reasons to have to cancel, but very legitimate reasons to NCNS. I have cancelled dozens of appointments, but I have NEVER NCNS. NCNS is simply a lack of respect for the other party 99.9% of the time.
and even IF the party is unable to make a call, send a text or an email or otherwise communicate that there is a problem. The VERY FIRST thing he or she should do upon having the ability to communicate is reach out the person he/she cancelled on, not place another ad, not chit chat with her friends, the FIRST thing she should do is contact her client. That's what a responsible and considerate person does.
So if anything bad happened where she was stuck around other people she might not be able to get in touch. It's a little different than ncns for other things. It sucks, but definitely give her a couple/few days to reconnect.
(Haven't had that happen, but I can see it. Sick grandmother in hospital- oh hold on grammy, I need to step outside and cancel my escort calls. Not.)
Also... What if she got caught? That also could require dropping everything protectively.
Sick grandmother in hospital is hardly a valid reason for NCNS, it is a perfectly valid reason for canceling but NOT even close to a valid reason to NCNS.
The only valid reasons for NCNS are phone lost/stolen/died. or incapacitation IOW car wreck, arrested etc. If you are capable of getting the call that your grandmother is in the hospital, you are capable of making your next call to the client/s that pay your bills. PERIOD!!!
and both my grandmothers passed away a while back. I think I've only even been late once, by just a very few minutes going somewhere I'd never been. So we're not talking about me.
But Jesus, this is NOT generally a serious job for rigidly career-focused ladies. Some of us, yes, probably the majority of those posting on here even, but generally? Yeah, no. You understand "always call" is a business ethic/business reputation issue, right? Not a morality issue. If you can't be understanding about girls potentially having flaky reactions to life issues, this is a pretty odd hobby to be dabbling in.
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Yikes I guess anyone can get on GLS these days.
But Jesus, this is NOT generally a serious job for rigidly career-focused ladies. Some of us, yes, probably the majority of those posting on here even, but generally? Yeah, no. You understand "always call" is a business ethic/business reputation issue, right? Not a morality issue. If you can't be understanding about girls potentially having flaky reactions to life issues, this is a pretty odd hobby to be dabbling in.
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I'd say the gals on GLS fall into the "some of us, yes [are rigidly career-focused, ie: would never do that]" group that I did mention.
This is my profession and all the girls who do this are my colleagues, even the ones who aren't coming to it from the same direction or for the same reasons. EXPECT that I'll be presenting for the side of "cut the lady some slack." And THAT is how anyone can recognize that my business ethics/practices are just fine