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Welcome to the hobby Unloved, play safe, smart, and enjoy.  
       
Was in a sexless marriage, which I eventually put behind me, but I had to have my ashes hauled or I was gonna go crazy, so started being a monger at some Nevada brothels while traveling.  Still make a brothel visit every now and then, but got my feet wet with an escort a long time ago who clued me in on the in and outs.  Have met some terrific gals, most of whom became regulars for extended periods of time.  Have some wonderful memories:  Got a referral many years ago from a provider I saw once to her friend who turned out to be a retired porn star.  Spent my Sunday afternoons with this young hottie for a long time.  Met this more mature, incredibly sexy, mostly UTR provider and again, we shared Sundays together for a long time.  We became good friends and eventually just hung out as friends.  We live in different cities now but still talk on the phone regularly.  Some of the lows and laughs:  Saw this stripper/escort regularly for a while who was a manic depressive.  Never knew which personality I was going to see when we got together, so the session was hit or miss.  She was incredibly beautiful with a 10 body, and when she remembered to take her medication the time between the sheets was mind blowing.  Eventually got burned but can't forget her.  Most hilarious was the provider who fell asleep and started snoring while I was giving it to her in the ass.  

Being in the hobby has left me with a smile on my face now for a long time.  It has enriched my life a hundred fold.  Like the saying goes, you are going to pay for the pussy you get in this life one way or the other.  So absolutely no regrets.      

I only discovered TER a few years ago and have had VIP for about a year, which is one of the smartest choices I've ever made regards the hobby.

I couldn't find a thread on this but I'm sure it's been asked.

I was curious (being a newbie) how long have some of you been in the hobby?

 
Follow up Question,

To the clients:  how has it enhanced your life?
To the providers:  has longevity in the business caused more cynicism or more appreciation for your colleagues and clients?

 

Unloved

It's been like forever.  I have offered up my body to women since puberty.  I'm still working on my website and really struggling with the "hooker math" portion of how to charge the gals to work me over.

As a john...many years as well.  Seems I'm more successful with that part of this.  

Over the years I've met many on both sides of this fence...and have enjoyed the friendships.

BTW...there are many threads on this topic.  I'll let my associate perfectstorm dig some up for you.

Posted By: Unloved
I couldn't find a thread on this but I'm sure it's been asked.  
   
 I was curious (being a newbie) how long have some of you been in the hobby?  
   
   
 Follow up Question,  
   
 To the clients:  how has it enhanced your life?  
 To the providers:  has longevity in the business caused more cynicism or more appreciation for your colleagues and clients?  
   
   
   
 Unloved

Just recycled ones. At least this one hasn't come up in a long time, unlike dick size and "why no A.A." :D

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Is this another one of your: Remember, pic existed before it existed, type of existence?  rofl

Since going to Simpson Street  by the Hunts Point Market in The Bronx with the guys on a Friday night. Then the Westside of Manhattan for $10 drive by CBJ's, When traveling Yellow pages, in some city's there were 50 pages of ads. Took a break for the 10 years I was married and didn't hobby. 1n 2000 the internet opened the hobby to new heights that we enjoy today.

enhanced? Not sure about that but on my death bed I sure will have a smile on my face. LOL

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Most guys will probably tell you that they do this for entertainment and variety.  I'm a bit different, have been "hobbying" for two years.
I was trapped in a sexless marriage (familiar story), and turned to the hobby to satisfy my LONG unmet needs.  After seeing different girls occasionally and with varying levels of performance on my part, I started seeing one girl as my regular after discovering some real chemistry.  I was a disaster sexually, with performance anxiety, ED and worried that my sexual career was over.  After a few months of "therapy" with an amazing and understanding woman, as she says I "have my balls back."  Now, no shots to get an erection, no pills and I can wear her out some days.  I'm trying to figure out if I can take her as a medical deduction - gonna talk to my urologist about getting a prescription.

I'm not sure if the P4P aspect (exchange of set $#) is what defines the lifestyle for me, or this aspect of my lifestyle. I've only been a TER member for a couple of years.

Obviously my life's been enhanced by meeting a wide range of beautiful and exciting women, but beyond that, life has taken on a stimulating uncertainty.

The adventure of the rendezvous and the anticipation of discovery as a frequent, ongoing experience sort of tints all the mundane atrocities I must tend to with a fresh liveliness. Like, buying clothes becomes a bit more interesting when considering how I'll appear to a brand-new beauty.

This seems inconsequential, until I try to picture my life WITHOUT these brief encounters.

First massage parlor was about 31 years ago, and my first strip club long before any of those. (I went to strip clubs regularly for two years before I was legally old enough to go to strip clubs:) and the legal age was 18, not 21)

How has it enhanced my life? It put a lot of smiles on my face. :)
It has allowed me to be with some amazing women that probably wouldn't have given me the time of day in real life. On the other hand I have also made some genuine friendships with some providers. Some have lasted long after retirement and have nothing to do with money or sex, even though we never would have met in the first place if it hadn't started that way.

As for this question being asked before, it has, but it's been a long time (unlike some topics which seem to come back weekly), so you definitely get a pass for this one. :)

Must be a busy day at the beach.

Posted By: perfectstorm
First massage parlor was about 31 years ago, and my first strip club long before any of those. (I went to strip clubs regularly for two years before I was legally old enough to go to strip clubs:) and the legal age was 18, not 21)  
   
 How has it enhanced my life? It put a lot of smiles on my face. :)  
 It has allowed me to be with some amazing women that probably wouldn't have given me the time of day in real life. On the other hand I have also made some genuine friendships with some providers. Some have lasted long after retirement and have nothing to do with money or sex, even though we never would have met in the first place if it hadn't started that way.  
   
 As for this question being asked before, it has, but it's been a long time (unlike some topics which seem to come back weekly), so you definitely get a pass for this one. :)

But if you want to send them to the beach to spank me, I'll accept my punishment for neglect of dities.

It beats the shit out of golf, which I sucked at anyway.  And unlike golf, the more strokes the better.

Do my two marriages count? That's by far the most expensive sex I've ever had.

Dear Inicky:
The follow up question you should ask is would it be legal or illegal hooking. Although both involved monetary transactions, one is purely monetary while the other is emotional,psychological and recognized by the court of law as legal. That would clarify any obfuscation between the two.

We all know the difference.  But, especially on this board, many have compared marriage and prostitution. Generally, prostitution is considered the more honest situation.  It's only the law that's confused.
Now, please, stop being obtuse or we'll get you confused with JohnyPimpSympathizer.

Been doing this a long time. Between street girls and BP providers.
Have experienced alot of different things. Everything from different BBBJ techniques to girls that are so vocal i had to make her quiet down!
I even had 1 provider Demand that i pound her ass hard and this was recently.

Yeah I'm old, but still hobbying, but not as much.  I've gone from whore houses, to street walkers, to jack shacks and finally the internet.

and I wonder what the future has in store next.

Robot providers?  holographic providers?

The mind boggles.

The hobby has kept me mentally and physically fit, and made for a very interesting life, and even given me some good friends.

2 & 1/2 years!!!  

I still enjoy it... I love meeting new people & have made long lasting friendships with some of my loyal clientele... I've met some amazing people...  Also get to fulfill sexual fantasies of my own that I would never do with someone Id date in the civie world...  That's the fun part..

I lost my virginity when a freshman in College then during the Korean War I spent 4 years (1951-55 pursuing ladies of the evening in several ports in Japan, Hong kong, Manila, Bangkok, Mexico. Then back to college where I met my wife and never strayed for 52 years--great marriage, great woman but then she died and after 4 years I felt like I needed feminine companionship and found it with several escorts in Tucson and recently from Phoenix. At 82 I'm living it up and loving it. TER has been an invaluable resource.

I think it's fantastic    Hobby has no age limits...  I love to hear stories like this!!!   TY for sharing!!! 😘😘😘😘!!!

Posted By: cooper80
I lost my virginity when a freshman in College then during the Korean War I spent 4 years (1951-55 pursuing ladies of the evening in several ports in Japan, Hong kong, Manila, Bangkok, Mexico. Then back to college where I met my wife and never strayed for 52 years--great marriage, great woman but then she died and after 4 years I felt like I needed feminine companionship and found it with several escorts in Tucson and recently from Phoenix. At 82 I'm living it up and loving it. TER has been an invaluable resource.
 
I'm sorry to hear about your wife.  But I'm glad you have found a way to cope!!

In 45 minutes one of my ATFs  and one of Tucson's finest will be visiting me for a couple of hours.

Hope you have a blast.  I have a new hero.

Posted By: cooper80
In 45 minutes one of my ATFs  and one of Tucson's finest will be visiting me for a couple of hours.

She arrived, we played and I survived. What more can I ask? lol

Joe is 80 years old and about to marry a 25-year-old Vegas showgirl.  His friends take him aside before the wedding to express their concern.
"A man like you.  A young girl like her," one says. "What if something terrible should happen on the wedding night?"
Joe shrugs and says, "If she dies, she dies."

(And, no, JohnyPimpSympathizer, this is not advocating the murder of showgirls.)

would be advocating the murder of showgirls?

Posted By: inicky46
Joe is 80 years old and about to marry a 25-year-old Vegas showgirl.  His friends take him aside before the wedding to express their concern.  
 "A man like you.  A young girl like her," one says. "What if something terrible should happen on the wedding night?"  
 Joe shrugs and says, "If she dies, she dies."  
   
 (And, no, JohnyPimpSympathizer, this is not advocating the murder of showgirls.)

to everyone but you.

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But it sure won't be two restraining orders though because, according to him, having redundancy leads to chaos.  

Redundancy is therefore homicide, in his book.  lo

Posted By: Drunken Asian
But it sure won't be two restraining orders though because, according to him, having redundancy leads to chaos.    
   
 Redundancy is therefore homicide, in his book.  lol  

 

 
What?

Don't hold back Tobi, tell us how you really feel about that jackass. It's not good to hold your emotions in, they get all bottled up. Lol! Cheers darlin.

... but I get to return the favor, equal rights and all.

Rip off your head and shit down your neck for starters.

He's a weird, trollish buffoon, nothing more.  And probably not a very happy one.  His true punishment is to have to live his own fucked-up life.

...so I'm definitely still a noob. But so far I have had only good experiences so I'm hoping for a long fun ride here.

I wouldn't say that this hobby has necessarily enhanced my life.....it's actually put it in more jeopardy, as other married folk here can probably attest.  But I'm having too much fun to quit so I have decided that the benefits outweigh the risks :)

Thanks to everybody for sharing.  Hopefully i will have more positive than negative experiences throughout the hobby.  So far the providers I have met have been more than accommodating and good companions to be with.  Not to mention just pleasurable to be with

And as far as my views on men, well it has not changed that, I have always had the same views, this just proves them and made them factual than just views.  

As far as being cynical, no because I am careful in my client selection and have had very few bad experiences that might have colored this world of ours

in Vietnam  - 1968 through 1972

and of course I loved all sorts of LBFMs including flips  and the lovely ladies of Okinawa....

and then wherever my career took me

I found "the hobby" to be very liberating and to fit my sense of how things should be -  in part because I've found that a "relationship" is often the slow death of good sex :p

I have the highest respect for working girls of all kinds from the mature high end full on gfe courtesan (as long as she is not a time waster)  to the young college kid working for the local agency -   but continue to be especially drawn to agencies...   I just adore k-girls...

VOO-doo1500 reads

a child of 2008. Will be 6 years in December...

Cynical? As far as clients go, I'd rather trust and be proven wrong, than look for the worst in every person. I've been stiffed by regulars (twice), but I'd rather lose a little bit of $ on a very rare occasion, than treat a nice guy like a potential thief. 99.9% of my clients are wonderful people and don't deserve that. With that said, I'm much more skeptical of promises that have only words backing them - i.e., 'I'm going to buy you an iPad/get you a job at ___________/see you every week'. And I'm suspicious of people who insist to me that we're friends or that they're doing/going to do me favors....means they usually are trying to manipulate me into doing something :) But I think that would've happened in any professional or social sphere...maybe it just happened a little faster, here.

I don't know that I like men either better or worse than before, but I think that I understand them better...

I am less romantic than I used to be, but that's partly because I'm less fixated on the idea of Mr. Right. I've met many Mr. Right-for-an-Hour's, lol...so I view a life partnership as something different from sex and romance (I guess it could possibly include both, but it seems not to work out that way very often)

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maybe her math was correct after all.

I don't know my exact "number" but I am sure it's getting up around 4,000 at least, but 4,000 over forty years also is not as big a number as it sounds, now if I live long enough to double that number, I'll go out a happy man, and probably a tired one to boot. lol

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Over that same 40+ year period, I figure I'd spent about $250,000 on cigarettes. Imagine how many providers I could have had for that money.  

Let's see. If we assume that a $300 an hour level provider was $75 an hour forty years ago, and that prices kept pace with inflation, that would be about 33 provider hours/year.  

I've already done that in the past year, and I haven't been that active. I'm spending more now on providers than I did on smoking. I'm not making progress. ;)

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I worked with some very busy agencies. After I went independent, my volume went way down. Now I see maybe 30-50 individual guys in a year. I have no idea what my number is.

Posted By: GaGambler
maybe her math was correct after all.

I don't know my exact "number" but I am sure it's getting up around 4,000 at least, but 4,000 over forty years also is not as big a number as it sounds, now if I live long enough to double that number, I'll go out a happy man, and probably a tired one to boot. lol

It's an interesting perspective.  I would agree that those that are offering empty promises are probably doing the same in their respective career/jobs.  I would even go so far as to say that we are all guilty of the same thing.  Why do we do something for someone else... Hopefully it's just to hep out your fellow man/woman.  But often times it's because we are hoping for some reward in return either consciously or subconsciously.

Dating is that way.  You are hoping on some return on your investment with an individual.  Unfortunately I'm not sure there is a Mr Right or Ms Right.  

So that leads me to the point that perhaps different people fulfill different roles in one's life.  Whether it's companionship, friendship, a shoulder to lean on, or physical fulfillment.

Perhaps this is why men hobby.  To fulfill a a variety of needs that not any one person can actually fulfill.  In a way I wonder if we are the weaker sex.  It seems like women don't need those physical longings as much as a man.  A woman can hold out longer whereas a man seeks out pleasure to cope with everyday life.

I may be wrong - it's just an observation and only one.  

One thing I will say though is that I've grown to respect those women in the business.  I've been mostly at AMPs and now new to this game.  But all the women have been respectful and offered something if themselves.  Some more enthusiastic than others.  But all of them I have a lot of respect for.  

I'm off the subject slightly from the original topic, but the last comment was interesting to me.

Over the last year I've had the best sex of my life.  I would say the hobby has definitely enriched my life! Not just in terms of sex, but also in terms of the amazing ladies I've met. It's been a very very good year :)

since I came back.  I'm still a virgin though cuz I am afraid of asking the provider for CG and I spend all my time picking her up instead of banging her. :D

I didn't realize is still be in touch with women I met this way for any amount of time.
Forget years!!
When you start this.. You think it's some kind of dark ally shit..
It's such the opposite it is the definition of irony.
Everyone I've met has been aces..

I can't say that for my civie relationships.

And I haven't looked back. I actually thought about asking a civie out about a month ago (she's cute and she's been flirting with me rather aggressively). And then, I thought better of it. The hobby is so much easier, no work, no games and you know you're going to get your world rocked by a woman who is not only fine, but very good at world rocking.

I haven't looked back, either. I wish I had've become a provider sooner.

it's been! I've been in the business of entertaining gentlemen in one way or another for over 20 years. I have loved every minute of it! Well, that's not strictly true- there were a few less-than-stellar minutes but mostly having to do with stalker ladies and a random arsehole or two. But overwhelmingly I adore what I do. It's really a calling for me and I truly believe it's what I was made for. I'll be here as long as someone wants me, in some capacity. Maybe not always as Sarah, but I'll be around.

And I still adore men! 💋

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And for now, I am only dabbling in some "extended" FBSM.  I do wonder if my appetite will increase.

I don't know how it has effected me, as I am still trying to determine why I am here.  I am happily married, but something is missing (I am sure others can relate). So far FBSM has filled the void, but I often wonder if/when my "Dark Passenger" will take over and up the ante.

I'm familiar with Minnesota winters. After the holidays the dark passenger will want some indoor activity.

30 years or so.  Long before I became a Politician.  Last 5 years have been the best from a quality standpoint. TER Rocks for the most part!
 

Posted By: Unloved
I couldn't find a thread on this but I'm sure it's been asked.  
   
 I was curious (being a newbie) how long have some of you been in the hobby?  
   
   
 Follow up Question,  
   
 To the clients:  how has it enhanced your life?  
 To the providers:  has longevity in the business caused more cynicism or more appreciation for your colleagues and clients?  
   
   
   
 Unloved

Back then, and back across another decade, I was a regular strip clubs, where it was hit or miss....mostly miss, of course.  Since then...let's just say the batting average has lept upward considerably.  

Has it enhanced my life?  Well, for the first year, it was mostly hobbying anonymously with one ATF, and a handful of others.  Then, I attended my first M&G in NYC, met a couple dozen well known providers from all over the country, and my to do list has been full ever since.  Over the years, I've done things I would most likely would not have done otherwise, in traveling to many other cities (Vegas, South Florida, DC, Chicago, LA, Casino's in CT, Boston, and a few others) to attend M&G's, wild and crazy sex parties, and to play with the many ladies I've gotten to know, and made a few additional friendships as well.   This has also come in handy when traveling on business, as more often than not I am able to find female companionship with guaranteed results, which is much better than wasting time in strip clubs, or hoping to get lucky.   Now I have several ATF's, and many other lady friends in addition.  The results speak for themselves, as they say.

Best of luck to you and everyone else who plays this game.  It's just so cool to be able to control your own destiny in this arena...

Since 2012 on TER, old school before that.

Finding providers and getting laid has been an uphill battle for most of my life at this point.  At first it was struggling to get the cash because I'm a bit of a dope when it comes to finding civvie girlfriends.  I end up in the friend zone more often than not.  Partially it was always that I went for girls who were either out of my league (I'm not unattractive, just a slightly overweight nerdy guy), unavailable (like that time I was digging on a bi chick for almost a year before she told me she was really a lesbian - still friends with her btw).
Providers, while expensive and tough to come by sometimes, at least we're always a sure thing, and generally at least as hot as the gals I was interested in in real life.  
When I moved out on my own from my parents house I was struggling to pay off student loans, credit cards, rent, car insurance, etc.  again, not much "extra cash" from my starter job for providers, but I made do with once every coupla months.
The turnaround came when I got a big promotion, got a steady gf and didn't see a provider for a year.  Finally, had savings! After a bad breakup, went on a tear and saw about 20 providers that year.  Disgusted with myself and now broke again. Finally met the gal who was to become my wife.  Was good for 4 years this time.  A year of dating, a year of engagement and  2 of marriage before realizing I wasn't getting "enough" sex.  Once a month or sometimes twice wasn't enough for me with the wife.  I had "settled" for her due to looks, but while dating she was a tiger in bed and gave the best BBJCIM That I have ever or will ever I think ever experience.  Kinda why I married her despite the fact that she was a tad overweight, a little hairy and didn't drink or smoke (which I did at the time - gave up smoking, but I still drink).  After tieing the knot we still did all that, just so infrequently that it was (and is) maddening!  So I started seeing providers again, first at a local strip club that had a "back room" for bj's, then on to a few BP gals, now onto TER.  I don't want a divorce.  She's my best friend, we have kids, she still gives the best BBJCIM that I have ever had, if only once a month or so, and she's not bad in bed, if infrequent.  But... She's not really attractive, never has been.  We don't have sex as often as I would like, and if it were up to me, it would be at least every other day if not every day.  So, while financially I am secure now and could see 3 providers a week, I slowly skim off the paycheck/allowance that. I give myself so as to go undetected.  I see a provider a month or sometimes twice a month, depending on my OT and cash flow just to get over the "dry patches" when she doesn't want or need sex.  So far it's been working.

Welcome to the hobby Unloved, play safe, smart, and enjoy.  
       
Was in a sexless marriage, which I eventually put behind me, but I had to have my ashes hauled or I was gonna go crazy, so started being a monger at some Nevada brothels while traveling.  Still make a brothel visit every now and then, but got my feet wet with an escort a long time ago who clued me in on the in and outs.  Have met some terrific gals, most of whom became regulars for extended periods of time.  Have some wonderful memories:  Got a referral many years ago from a provider I saw once to her friend who turned out to be a retired porn star.  Spent my Sunday afternoons with this young hottie for a long time.  Met this more mature, incredibly sexy, mostly UTR provider and again, we shared Sundays together for a long time.  We became good friends and eventually just hung out as friends.  We live in different cities now but still talk on the phone regularly.  Some of the lows and laughs:  Saw this stripper/escort regularly for a while who was a manic depressive.  Never knew which personality I was going to see when we got together, so the session was hit or miss.  She was incredibly beautiful with a 10 body, and when she remembered to take her medication the time between the sheets was mind blowing.  Eventually got burned but can't forget her.  Most hilarious was the provider who fell asleep and started snoring while I was giving it to her in the ass.  

Being in the hobby has left me with a smile on my face now for a long time.  It has enriched my life a hundred fold.  Like the saying goes, you are going to pay for the pussy you get in this life one way or the other.  So absolutely no regrets.      

I only discovered TER a few years ago and have had VIP for about a year, which is one of the smartest choices I've ever made regards the hobby.

but my appreciation of the female body sure has.

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I'd say that it enhanced my life by providing me with a lot of sexual variety and fun over the years and I've meet some very nice people in the business as well.

On the negative side, it probably helped lead to the end of my marriage (although the 5 years without sex from my ex would probably have killed it anyway.)

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I have been in the scene about six years.  I am less stressed out and able to deal with the ups and downs of marriage much better.   I think without it I would have divorced or made the mistake of getting a mistress who would have caused me problems.

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