True intimacy is not only between the legs...

how do i know your young ?

answer these 6 questions correctly and I may answer yours .

who the number 1 heartthrob in America right know  
who was the president when you graduated high school
do you like katy perry  
would you fuck Justin beiber
what do old balls look like ( I wouldn't know so I will take your word for it )
do you like cher  
and I liked the flintstones did you too.

I have better things to do with a girl's mouth than talk.

I don't think that I care the least bit how well traveled,  well educated,  or how much life experiences a 20 something girl has. She's 20 something,  how much life experiences can she possibly have? And her education? Why would that matter lol I'm not looking for girlfriend or a girl to get married to in the hobby.  

If however I come across one I have a romantic interest in,  then it would help that she's well educated.  Less of a bitch the better.  

Financially,  a high end girl prolly makes enough to be considered at upper or upper middle class ( although showing it on her tax returns could be a different story.)  

I don't speak for other guys but as long as she doesn't act like an immature, irresponsible teenager, and doesn't NCNS, it's all good. Having decent manners, a sense of humor,  common sense,  being mature for her age,  being off serious drugs (a pot here and there is cool with me lol) ,  being friendly,  accurate photos, clean, and a generally positive attitude would be faaaaaaaaaar far far Farr faaaarrrrrr more important.  

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Life experience is learned over a 'life' just like it states and being young you don't have that under your belt just yet. It's nothing to knock yourself about though...especially here. Maybe take a lil extra time to educate yourself on matters that you feel will fit these distinguished clients you meet to keep 'you' most comfortable with your time together. But I would highly suggest to just be 'yourself' in any event. Don't pretend to be something you are not, even in Candyland.  

These gentlemen certainly are aware of your age and have 'chosen' you for something about 'you' no matter what that may be, so embrace it. Most I would have to assume would not expect the same conversation coming from a 40 yo woman vs a 20 yo...body and mind. I know I certainly don't think remotely the same as I did 20 years ago lol. It's certainly no better no worse, just different and 'time' is something you can't rush to catch up in life experience I'm afraid nor should you ever want to.  

Education in etiquette is your best asset in this case I would think as far as 'sophistication' is concerned to keep you comfortable.

I'll take enthusiam over erudition every time.

a socialite or PHD...   clean, polite, good basic manners, real language skills (not text speak or ghetto talk except under special circumstances).   Multi levels of tableware are not expected.  I never could get the hang of chopsticks...

Usually does the trick.  

Humor is the answer to everything!

Xo

those that offer silverware. While I'm not a big dinner date guy, the ladies I have been with for such a time have all been pleasant conversationalists and have had exceptional manners.  

Agree that enthusiasm for the time with the hobbyist is key to a memorable evening for both.  When in doubt at the dinner table, wait until the gentleman chooses the proper fork, etc.

Along with the texting language thing, don't chew gum either.

Socioeconomics and education level have nothing to do with class and poise

Google is your friend. And, read books. You don't need finishing school to act appropriately in public or be a good conversationalist.  

If he's talking about something you have no idea wtf it is, ask questions to keep him talking. And, listen. Sometimes people tend to try to script what we're going to say next instead of listening. Just talk slower so when you pause to think of what to say after he's finished talking, the pause will seem natural. But, seriously, questions are your best friend if you feel like the conversation is out of your league. You'll learn a lot from successful gents too. I know I have.

While in public, sit up straight, cross your legs at the ankles, think before you speak, don't use slang/curse unless appropriate, watch the cleavage and skirt length, don't wear stripper shoes to dinner, start with the silverware farthest from your plate, only play with him under the table if no one else can see, let him take the lead if you don't know what to do.  

If you're with a classy gent, he's going to help you out and take the lead in public settings. He'll open doors, guide you to your table, take your coat, pull out your chair, order for you, flag down the server, stand when you take leave to powder your nose, stand again when you come back, pay, hail the cab and open the hotel room door. You leave the classy, poised lady at the door and let your foul-mouthed, filthy slut come out then.

I keep a tiny bottle of Bird Dog maple whiskey in my purse to loosen the tongue as well. Sip it in the cab on the way to the hotel, or slam it in the parking lot in your car before you go in. Then brush your teeth in the hotel lobby bathroom. HAHAHA! Seriously, small amounts of booze helps with conversation.

First, Valentine's advice above is worth taking to heart.

As you are no doubt aware, Florida, I stroll through the mysterious circles of well-off twits eyeing their social graces with a disdainful ignorance. So whenever I give advice, consider the source.

In your profession, the game is to reveal very little of your non-physical self. So in conversation, draw the client into talking about HIS world. He will always know the world he lives in better than anyone looking in at it from outside. It's good manners to ask him to teach you, and for him to reveal aspects of his life and work and to express his feelings. Except in bed, most rich men will not be very good at expressing anything.

You might ask, "What do like about your work?"
That's an open question leading to more of a reply. He can't just answer yes or no.
Avoid asking closed questions like, "What kind of job have you got?" or, "So what do you do?"
Poor people have jobs (or they don't). Rich people have work. Or they don't.

If the gentleman talks politics or sports, say, "I really don't know anything about that," even if you do know a bit about it, "But I'd like to learn the basics about it. Can you teach me?!"

Then sincerely try to learn. Let him show off. Just listen and learn what you can. He'll either quickly exhaust his own knowledge on the subject, or if he is speaking on a topic he knows a great about, he'll soon get tired of teaching the basics and start talking about the immediate. And nothing will be more immediate than you.

Aside from this, it's all wardrobe and your 'do.

Though there are 'a few' guys on review boards who actually do care about all that, most are not the ones who post on the GD. I was thinking with your 'young provider' comment that you were like 19 or 20, but even if you were born in 89 that would make you 25 this year which is not all that young in hooker land.  

The way you attract the clients who do care about that is not through your age, but in your Marketing. If all you market are tits and ass, that's what you're going to attract. Rates, where you advertise and the types of photos you use also have a lot to do with what comes through your door.  

I think you just need to be yourself. If a 60 year old man is seeking out 20 something providers, let him be the one to fgure out why. All you have to do is bring your A game and not feel that you are beneath him just because you have not lived as many years as he has.

Some men would love for you to feel that way, because it makes them feel better about themselves but truth be told, MANY providers are more intelligent and have higher degrees than the men they see. Having a Bachelor's Degree does not a scholar make. Most of us had that before 24.  

The bottom line is HE picked YOU, not the other way around so if he is upset or making you feel bad for not knowing wtf he is yapping about, maybe he should have gone with someone who has the same business interests and education that he does. I mean cmon. If I put on my site that I have a Master's in Art History, it's a bit stupid for him to think I could know everything about his area of expertise which might be Math. BLUCK!

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Love the question! My answer is...

No. I want to have something to talk about. If I was that sophisticated, I could help to find it and not rely only on the provider.  

Never, ever, sweat the trappings of sophistication - my experience is that much is pretense and braggadocio. Any man with a bit of interest in "connection", the ones who want the dinner dates and extended times, is looking for a human connection... and should be able to laugh off foibles and eager to teach and indulge, never to put down.

Watch "Pretty Woman" again. The forks and laughing off foibles are well explained. ;

It is easier to get along when both are on the same plane. I have met some I find hard to communicate so repeat visits are not considered.

I do not consider those with education, and higher financial means to be intelligent because I know a few who are dumber than door nail. Money does not mean they are intelligent or have class. In some case, there are more educated fools on the planet.

be yourself, no matter what happens, no one can take that away from you

I make a pretty damn good living but I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth. So what I prefer when I see you is that you remain true to yourself. I enjoy Golf and Baseball, but I don't want you to pretend you do for my sake. I can afford fine dining, but I prefer good food. I can afford 5 star hotels but I prefer Hampton Inn. My point is that I don't eat places, stay places, drive cars, wear clothes and/or jewelry to impress anyone. I eat, stay drive wear what I like.

I like a provider that can role play, but my ATF was terrible at it. She made me feel like a king and told me I deserved to feel like a king (so perhaps she was a good actress in that respect), but I know that for the short amount of time we were together she was real with me. I may have been smarter than her intellectually, but she was smarter than me on an interpersonal level.  

Be true to yourself, the confidence you exude when you are being you will be ultra sexy to just about every client you see.

I'm not anyone to give advise, so the preceding is my opinion.

Like Anything in life if you want to be successful you have to work really fking hard and hope you catch a break!