There seems to be a split among hobbyists on this subject. Some really only care about the physical experience. But for you and for me as well, it's the intimacy and the companionship that elevate the experience. When a provider is into that kind of connection it keeps me cumming back for more. I'm way older than you by the way.
(glowing review submitted) and even though the physical part was outstanding. I find myself thinking more fondly of the companionship. I'll be turning 50 in a few months and I was wondering if this is a usual felling and if anyone else feels this way.
There seems to be a split among hobbyists on this subject. Some really only care about the physical experience. But for you and for me as well, it's the intimacy and the companionship that elevate the experience. When a provider is into that kind of connection it keeps me cumming back for more. I'm way older than you by the way.
I would add that a feeling a bond is critical to a successful outcome for me. Maybe that comes with turf once we are on the other side of 60.
In any event, I am grateful to the many women here who intuitively understand that for some of us great sex requires a genuine feeling of chemistry!
The desire to my companion, real or fantasy, is VERY important to me. I guess I have become needy like that. But to get my world shaken to the core and then cuddle, oh man o man, words escape me.
Before the first-date fun begins, USUALLY I want to get some glimpse into the depth of the woman's being and thinking. Granted, at other times going into the sex play with NO prior communication and just experiencing her for the first time as a sexual being is very exciting, but USUALLY I want to feel I know and connect to some degree with the woman who in a few minutes will have my cock inside her.
So, though I don't really define that as companionship per se, I crave that personal connection.
Also, as sessions continue over time and the communication (verbal and nonverbal) evolves, I like the sense of adventure of having each new woman in my life. Because each woman is unique, a new aspect of myself comes to life with each such relationship.
When it comes to the urge to forsake all others and ask her for an exclusive arrangement, that is when I do some emergency soul-searching. What happens in the shadowed life stays in the shadowed life, period.
Except for the renewal of energy, the happy-go-lucky feeling, and the shit-eating grin-- THOSE things last all day!!! Sometimes for week!
I recently spent time in Vegas and saw two different providers. Both were attractive and very good physically. But talking was a very important part of the experience! Both were very intelligent and could talk knowledgably about different subjects. I will always use TER girls from now on! I have tried others and get ripped off. No talk, except to tell you where you can't touch and what they won't do. Very little contact, no conversation, and often costs more that TER providers. Looking back, I, also cherish the companionship. I am nearly 60.
The NSA scenario of a civvie relationship.. I find that companions fulfill the void of regular non GFE girls that just perform the physical part.. (Non saying that non GFE girls don't provide companionship, there may be some out there). Professional courtesans are definitely an amazing option to enjoy the physical and mental connection. We all need to feel a little TLC to feel good about ourselves..l
In the hooker pecking order, is a "professional courtesan" one step ahead, or is it one step below, an "Elite VIP Escort?"
I can never seem to keep that shit straight.
while "Elite VIP" is more like "square meal, square deal". And if those advertising platitudes make sense to you, I have a Yugo Deluxe Model to sell you.
I also like some companionship, although I have to watch just how close I get to feeling. Coming off a divorce, I'm pretty vulnerable. I learned that lesson last year.
I've found courtesans few and far between. Discounting the highly schooled "companionship, gracefulness, undivided attention" socially accepted subculture of the East as an anachronism, escorts who have the personality bent to want to provide such focus are pretty rare. IMO, Most guys really don't care enough (despite the overwhelming pro-companionship leaning on this thread), and are pretty eager to hit the bedroom and "get their money's worth."
So VIP vs PSA seems to be the best indication of what you're going to get. Still a pig in a poke though.
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So many people tag a label on their ass and try to pass it off as gospel... It's comical. True Courtesans don't troll hooker boards every week and they certainly don't charge by the hour. If you've found one, it's not likely you found her by a review profile or an ad, because most do not want any part of that. They are far too busy with real careers and charity work to care about what's going on in hooker land... at least, the very few I have known were that way. They are exclusive, generally higher priced, and most are over 30, but that's not an exact science except for the exclusive part. If she's fkin 5 guys a week, she's not a courtesan... she's a hooker.
What would a session be like if there was no companionship before OR after the wild time? I suppose I've sort of experienced that with providers who spoke practically not a word of English or any other language I spoke, but even with them there was SOME companionable interaction.
TLC and congeniality seem to come with the territory. Take it for what it is, feel all the love and passion you want during the session, then take a shower, towel off the romance, and leave. You can savor her mystery longer if you don't try to solve it.
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both mental and physical and this provider met the challenge for you. Congrats and either go see her again or see if you can find another provider than can rock your world.
The one thing you want to avoid is the "I'm going to save her from this business" mentality. P4P is a hobby or game that is meant to be enjoyed but, not taken beyond the hour or whatever time you booked.
Some people are task oriented and others are people oriented. It makes sense that task oriented people in real life will also be task oriented in their hobbying. People that are people oriented in real life will also be people oriented in their hobbying.
I am 37 and very people oriented so I will always enjoy the companionship of a woman as well as the physical. In my regular life I am happily married and enjoy my wife's presence as much as I do the physical part of our relationship.
If I met her under different circumstances I might try to have a romantic relationship with her. But trust me I know what this is and who she is. It's just nice to have someone you have things in common with you can talk to.
One provider I recently met seemed to be all distant and almost too business-like during the initial screening and appointment setup. There was even one communication glitch that almost made me wary of our initial meeting. But after I arrived, she really made the session happen! She was in tune with me, pleasant and sexy the whole time we were together. I really enjoyed the conversation we had as well as the "quality" time we spent together. So yes, I believe, the companionship does matter as well.