I recently had an expeience where a lady showed up and was obviously on something, like speed or something that makes one jumpy and jittery.
So I asked her to leave. She was a bit taken aback and asked for a "cancel fee" which to avoid an argument I gave her $50.00 and sent her on her way.
So here's my question to get things going.
If a provider shows up drunk, high, tired, looking like yesterdays clothing is still on, unkempt, dirty, odorous or just plane knarly, no matter how physically appealing she may be does a hobbyist have the perogative just to say, NO!
Opinions from Hobbyists and Providers wanted.
I totally agree with Masgrande. Considering the amount that we escorts require for the time that you spend with us---you hobbyists should expect a certain level of service.
First and foremost, drugs and drunkenness are totally unacceptable. That should send up red flags to all of you that she doesn't have the conscious ability to keep safety standards due to her lack of sobriety.
If a girl doesn't at least prepare herself with a nice appearance (and definately a nice smell)--send her packing.
If you find the person to be something other that what was advertised or somehow unprofessional, I say send them away. The hobby should have certain standards just like any service industry.
If you are uncomfortable with a lady when she shows up (or she with you), I think it's better for both parties if you call the whole deal off. If you were absolutely correct about the provider being on drugs, then you were more than generous to give her a cancellation fee.
However, I know of two local ladies who act jittery or a little different at times. Both Kayla and Stephanie have many reviews that tell of this type of behavior and will both say that they act this way at times once they are comfortable with you. I just bring this up because acting jittery does not necessarily mean a drug problem.
She certainly didn't earn a cancellation fee. You were more than generous.
To avoid an arguement give her $20 for a cab and send her packing. She probably doesn't deserve shit but i don't want a irate psyco at my door. I usaully say "sorry darlin you are not what i expected. GOOD BYE-----Slam
I could never imagine a provider swhowing up like that I wouldnt have even given her a cancelation fee. God knows what kind of class of people she keeps and what you might have taken home had you seen her.
Susan
Your post really has two disticnt parts: one descibes an event and the other poses a hypothetical question. So I'll respond to them separately, taking the question first.
IMO you have a perfect right to cancel for any reason whatsoever. Whether or not you (ethicly) owe a cancellation fee depends on circumstances. As far as drunk, etc. is concerned, probably not. Except for "knarly". You may know what you mean by this but I sure don't.
On the other hand, if none of that applies but you still just don't feel right about the situation I think the lady should be compensated for her time, trouble, and opportunity cost. This leads to the specifics.
You didn't feel right and you cancelled with compensation. As you describe the incident, I think you behaved exactly right. I also applaud you for not giving any hint as to the lady's identity. Your conclusion that she was on drugs is, at the very least, open to question.
Beyond Mike's examples, and other providers I know, if I had $1 (yes that's one dollar) for every time a phrase like "she's really nervous until she gets to know you" has appeared in a review here I could call one of the top of the line girls right now.
Thank you all for your support of my decision.
Yes mike is right about his statements....we escorts do actually get nervous and to someone who is very calm it could appear as if we were on drugs I suppose. I for one get a bit nervous when seeing someone for the first time and it does tend to make me talk alot....I am a fairy low volumne provider and I am lucky enough to have regulars that make up about 2/3's of my appointments. A downside to that and having had unfortunate experiences in the past is that I do get a bit paranoid when visiting someone new. I have gone on an appointment while buzzed on wine but then the person knew this before I arrived and it was a last minute appointment. I told him because for one I knew i would be a bit silly and secondly because i required a driver. If you think she is on speed or something like that look for obvious signs such as obsessive repetitive actions and things like perspiring when it isn't hot or overly dialated pupils. There are many things that can make one act speedy but if you haven't had experience with it yourself you shouldn't assume that a provider is on drugs...sometimes behavior like that is because she hasn't taken the ones she was prescribed... however a lady that is experiencing a manic episode due to a chemical imbalance is also prone to being a real sex maniac,...something that a hobbyist might find to be alot of fun.I now try to relax and even meditate a bit if I am seeing someone new so I don't act spastic due to my nervousness. I know it would seem that we would get over it after awhile but every new appointment is a potential risk to our safety and freedom.
Unfortunately not everyone is capable of helping ease another person's nervouse discomfort at a first meeting. There are times when I can help ease the tension and other times where she has to ease the tension. In either case tensions are clearly erased after it's all over. And that is what it's all about!
Now, if I can just be in the same rooom when gingergrrrrl is in sex maniac mood...
My two pennies worth:
If your potential companion doesn't question you regarding drug/alcohol use, cleanliness, etc., during her screening of you, the client, then you may want to ask yourself why she didn't care about your cleanliness, drug use prior to making a date.
Also, once you meet a new companion, that inital time that she is spending with you in an employer/employee relationship as your escort is when you shojuld evaluate whether or not you'll want to terminate that relationship and continue a personal type of exchange. Fire the Lady immediately as you would any employee that showed up unkempt or apparently on illegal medications. Ask her if she's on medications if she's jumpy. You're the employer. (This is her final chance to make certain she also is comfortable as well.) Also, iff you don't ever severe that employer/employee relationship; each and every time you meet a new lady that you DO choose to get to know in a more intimate fashion, you could be asking for a solicitation citation.