So I posted this on two boards, one of the regional and a private board, and got little or no response. I got one response that said it was weird and "what was I thinking posting that", one recommendation and one offer.
But I'd really like to know if anyone has any experience with or more insights to add. I am also including a link where I learned about this. I mean this is why this board is here, to ask questions about kinky sex, right?------ OK, not certain how this post will be taken, it's a little revealing, but i figure if i can't post it here where can I? i can identify three distinct phases to my orgasm. The first is the "pre-cum" phase, this is when a a clear fluid seeps out of the penis. It was told in biology class it's purpose is to lubricate the inside of the urethra in preparation of an ejaculation. The second phase is when a single ejectment of semen squirts out. This is followed by phase of approximately 10 seconds where I can feel a sphincter muscle tighten at the base of my penis (front of my prostate) where the rest of the ejaculation seems to build up. Consistent and regular friction for about ten seconds is required in order to reach orgasm. The third phase where semen is ejaculated multiple times at good force. This is the height of the orgasm and feels the most pleasurable. Now, if during the second phase, immediately after the first ejectment of semen, during that 10 second phase "requiring" regular and consistent friction, contact to the penis is stopped, then the orgasm is stopped. The penis can still be kept erect if friction is started again very slowly. And with adequate stimulation, it can be caused to repeat phase one and two again and again. I've heard this referred to as several different things, milking, edging or a ruined orgasm. Under the category ruined orgasm it is specifically called an "abandoned" orgasm. These techniques are frequently classified as part of a BDSM fetish. Many times the provider performs a role play to accompany the technique with laughter, ridicule or cruel talk. Many times the client is bound, teased and tortured in other ways as well. Up until now, I've tried this with one "abandonment". I recently had a session where the provider did it once, then again and tried it a third time. I was unable to do three. I became panic stricken and insisted the third one be completed. I'd like to try this again, but to go for three and finish on four. I am certain to do this I will need to be bound and gagged. Most likely I will appear to try and resist. The gag will be necessary so I don't start yelling and try to talk the provider out of it. So here are my questions: Has any one else tried this? Providers? Hobbyists? Has any one done this multiple times in a row? Are there any providers out there that are experienced and/or trained in this technique? Seriously, someone who knows what this is, how it works, and has performed it several times successfully? And if so, will you be around at the end April? Thank you for reading my post and considering my questions.
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I'm not sure how to interpret this post, because it seems more like you are soliciting a provider or writing a "Dear Penthouse" letter, but in the event this is a legitimate question, I'll try to give a semi-legitimate answer...
I think you're right on the mark about this being "edging" or "orgasm control". I tend to associate "milking" with making a man cum repeatedly so that he's overly-sensitive and becomes unpleasant, or incorporating prostate stimulation ("prostate milking") to make him cum that way (i.e., taking away his control of his own orgasm).
I'm not a medical expert - I just play one on TV - so let me borrow from this bit I found on the interwebs:
"[Male orgasm] occurs in 2 sub-stages, emission and ejaculation. In emission stage of male orgasm, seminal fluid is gathered at the base of the urethral bulb at the prostate. Sperm along with pre-cum is expelled through seminal vesicles, prostate glands and vas deferens. A feeling of Myotonia is observed which increases the muscular tension during male orgasm. Heart rate, blood flow and breathing is also increased which provides the more energy to control and hold the ejaculation in order to achieve multiple male orgasms.
While in ejaculation stage, vesical sphincter in urinary bladder is firmly closed. A periodic muscular flexes are observed at the prostate, urethra and base of the penis. The penile shaft and perinial muscle pushes semen outwards and in result you will feel a little clouding of consciousness due to the orgasm."
Getting back to your question, I think if you look at the difference between emission and ejaculation, your answer to the 10-second phase is somewhat explained there.
In terms of practical uses, a dominant (or other sex or play partner) can have a man on the brink of orgasm and if you squeeze the top and bottom of the head of the penis, the orgasm can sometimes be temporarily thwarted. This isn't a special BDSM thing. I think I read about it first in a sex ed book for partners that tend to be prone to premature ejaculation
I used to masturbate quite frequently as an exercise to control my ejaculation and increase the frequency of multiple orgasm. (A tip of the hat to the erstwhile Love Goddess.) Orgasms are different from ejaculation, and by masturbating up to just the point of no return, I can experience up to 5-6 orgasms before I commit to the ejaculation. An orgasm occurs when I feel a release of endorphins in my brain and achieve a state of nirvana from same.
But once I begin to ejaculate (phase 2) there is little or no time in between the 4-6 spurts of cum that shoot out which go on for 10-15 seconds before I am spent.
But, physiology can vary, so it's good to hear about other experiences.
What's the big deal about worrying about if anyone is going to get upset about discussions of this anyways?
Nobody's bubby is on here. (Unless they're a really hot bubby 8o)
I have several years of experience with denying orgasms. I've noticed that if you can read someone well you can deny an orgasm over and over and over again. Often I do a build up over an hour or so that involves a lot of tease and denial, usually they're restrained and eventually I let my partner get off. 
I am based in Seattle and I will be around.
Can ne challenging & very fun. Yes it takes skill to accomplish, but you have know the technique it is a series of motions & can be done successfully.