I used to think I was kinky because I liked some impact play, some T&D, NTT, and of course, the domme of my dreams dressed in some incredible outfit right out of the "bad girl" comics I used to read when I was a kid.
In the last few years, I've been introduced to "real" kinky play. Stuff I never would have imagined. e-Stim/violet wand, chastity, "non-consensual consensuality", sounding, catheter play, vac beds--mostly by one friend of mine, who shall remain nameless (a few of you know who I'm talking about, but since she's not taking new clients on anyway..it doesn't really matter, does it?).
What makes me kinky? Are you kidding? I'm on a relentless path of self-discovery here, and I have a feeling that I haven't yet begun to find out just how kinky I am.
From dirty talk to your ATF fetish what makes you a kinky player?
I consider myself very open-minded & will try anything that maybe fun!
I will try or have tried ALMOST anything. But what really makes me kinky is that I am open-minded about and enjoy other peoples fetishes. I also enjoy swinging, exhibitionism, couples, groups, almost any situation you can think of. One key exception....while I enjoy being dominated and watching others dominated, I rarely enjoy dominating others. I am too submissive to take the reigns, unless especially inspired by the sub.
cum play, golden showers, and sploshing are my favorite kinky things.
I'm also enjoying acceptance of pain in some weird ways. There's one gal (Who must remain nameless but she knows who she is.) who delights me by exploring any anomalies on my back with a pair of tweezers and performing surgery on same. I find it hightly erotic and enjoyable. The pain sends endorphins into my brain for a great high.
Some good old fashion whipping with a flogger or crop on my back is also a turn on.
I'm not much of a dom myself, but if a gal wants me to, I'll dish it out for her as well.
Fun and safe is my mantra.
Funny, I don't find that kinky. Sitting with my sister by a New England lake last summer, trying to explain how sexy I find having a successful guy lightly bound and blindfolded, awaiting my next move...I could see from her reaction that she found the thought alien and 'weird'.
Then she complains about the lackluster performance of the guys she connect with through on-line dating sites: the lack of sophistication and knowledge about female anatomy... and I'm turning up my nose and thinking "weird!"
So, to each his/her own.
I know what I like!!
xoClair
I consider myself very open-minded & will try anything that maybe fun!
love tease and denial, CBT, light bondage and nipple play... it's so exciting for me to make a man absolutely crazy, whimpering, and keep him on the edge of coming for a long time. Then when I decide the time is right... there's usually a massive explosion.
Yummm-eeee.
Tabu of S FL
I have a fair amount of my own fetishes, and love indulging others in their kinky fantasies. I enjoy relationships that have an element of consensual power exchange, usually as the top but sometimes as the bottom.
Between being kinky, bi and non-monogamous, my sex life is always interesting...
I consider myself very open-minded & will try anything that maybe fun!
I used to think I was kinky because I liked some impact play, some T&D, NTT, and of course, the domme of my dreams dressed in some incredible outfit right out of the "bad girl" comics I used to read when I was a kid.
In the last few years, I've been introduced to "real" kinky play. Stuff I never would have imagined. e-Stim/violet wand, chastity, "non-consensual consensuality", sounding, catheter play, vac beds--mostly by one friend of mine, who shall remain nameless (a few of you know who I'm talking about, but since she's not taking new clients on anyway..it doesn't really matter, does it?).
What makes me kinky? Are you kidding? I'm on a relentless path of self-discovery here, and I have a feeling that I haven't yet begun to find out just how kinky I am.
While experienced players are fun, my favorite thing is showing someone who says they aren't into "anything kinky", just how kinky they may be. People often have a pre-conceived, negative idea of what kink is, and try to distance themselves from it. Given the right circumstances, I believe almost anyone could find some kink enjoyable. If I get even an inkling of interest, I dig deeper. On the flip side, I really love being dominated by a capable man. Consensual non-consent, impact, eye contact restrictions and more are things that make it amazing for me. Directing a sub's behavior is also a really intoxicating experience for me. I enjoy watching them try to keep up with me, wondering what I will do/make them do next. Hurting and/or humiliating people who like that sort of thing is very exciting for me. I love men & women equally, don't do monogamy & have an exhibitionist streak a mile wide. That my passion for kinky sex is also a sustainable career is something for which I'm so grateful!
It lives in the gutter
I think people that are drawn to kink, alternative lifestyle, fetishes, perversions - all of this, we have always been drawn to something our muggle friends were not.
I asked for *lots* of jump ropes from my Grandma. I then asked to be tied up back when I was a small girl playing on the block with my fellow "normal" friends. Lois Lane, Penny from "Sky King", the Ladies in Big Valley, etc., etc. were all being tied up on TV. It was considered a valid request. Only, I could never decide if I liked the boy that would tie me up, taunt and tease me or the boy that rescued me better.
Then, in life, you meet other people that like other fetishes or you are lucky enough to meet someone in the scene and they tell you about a *party* (okay, so now days you all have it easier with the Internet), and like all people with hobbies, you can go to a trade show and find out about all the different things available and your list of likes and want to's becomes longer.
When you find a hobby you like, you have a passion for, I think it is pretty normal to explore it, make time for it, and treasure your experiences. I had play partners back in the 90 and 00's that all we did was go through the bondage.com list and see what we were yay or nay about. Somethings I was simply nay about, like scat. I have Domme girlfriends that do that play though.
I think it is key to be non-judgmental about other people's kink, play, fetishes, pointing fingers at others when you want people to be accepting of you isn't cool. That is different that having a standard that people play safe, sane, and consensual.
The journey of exploring one's submissive side is ever evolving if you are actively engaging in the practice of exploring it. I learn new things, have new insights every day. That is fascinating. That keeps me interested in exploring.
There is nothing more satisfying than a partner that shows up eager and ready to play. I am instantly turned on by this. this situation is already a win/win. Now there is just connecting and having fun together.
I love this.
I love my life.
~An
Well, maybe just a little :
One person's kink is another person's vanilla...lol
I think being in BDSM I've just grown more open-minded. Each in-person, online, or phone just teaches you not to judge and how to push those buttons...
Last night I had someone on the phone with me doing tease and denial for 60 minutes and he was just amazed that I could read his slutty little mind in less than 5 minutes...
We take your fantasies and them feed them to you one by one, each moan, each whimper till you are begging, broken, or breathless (or all three)
Kinkster FUN with a capital F U
I'm a little bit kinky.. I've seen kinky!
I like high heels and corsets, jewelry and leather. Collars leashes CBT and pegging.
My heels are 5 1/2" high and yes I can walk in them.
I have a 28" corset cause the 32 isn't tight enough, then I put a leather belt over it and cinch as hard as I can.
The corset is not closed yet, but I am 6'7 in the heels