The tone of your response to Macy's recommendation on how to request a reference is a little harsh. Just re-read what you wrote and think about how you said that -- it can't hurt to be kinder than you think you need to be when asking for something you are not entitled to.
Maybe it's your tone that's keeping ladies from replying?
Posted By: linda miss madison.. If you read mine post better..the gents did contact the proivder..not me beforehand...and she ball him out...I am a mature women , i know the rules and i been in the business.along time.. and sisters is a term... we use in the biz to each other..., not about friendship...and yes i know this is a catty business. very well... a good friend of mine years ago got kill in this biz, in her own townhouse...so safety is number one in my book!!!