Try this as well . . . Many of the militaristic aspects of BDSM protocols derive from servicemen returning from the war, and then they found a community as part of motorcycle clubs (thus, the leather) and established what we call the Old Guard traditions that then were passed on to the heterosexual community.
Anyone have any suggested resources on the proper protocol in bdsm and its history. I keep skrewing up so now I have a homework assignment. HELP
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Different Loving by Dr. Gloria Brame (my idol 
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Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns by Philip Miller
S&M 101 by Jay Weisman
All are excellent background books on BDSM and should get you started 
Also, lok for anything on Gay leather history, that will give you some excellent insight as well
K
These are different things -- protocols/rituals vs. the history of BDSM. For protocols, I'd start with this book by Christina Abernathy. My F/friends who are nuts about protocols all swear by it. Robert J. Rubel also has a Protocols book.
In terms of the history of BDSM, could you be more specific? I think you probably mean the relatively new (historically-speaking) leather subculture which first began with the gay biker community and then spread to the vanilla world. That's where most, but not all, protocols really took hold. But maybe you want Marquis de Sade . . .? Is your Dominant a Gorean, observing John Norman's protocols in his fictional fantasy world of Gor?
Protocols/rituals exist to put both of you in the proper head space. While these ceremonial gestures might seem over-the-top at times, on any given day, one of Y/you might not be "feeling it" in terms of D/s that day, but these are a great way to snap Y/you back into Dominant or submissive mode. Other protocols are there to protect you from harm, or from accidentally showing disrespect to your Domme.
If you are screwing up on your protocols, then perhaps you do not understand the reason for those particular protocols you keep forgetting to do. Part of the Dominant's job is to correct and explain . . . and then punish, if correction doesn't work. As a submissive, you are allowed to respectfully ask about a protocol that you do not understand. If you are "under consideration", it's often good to have your protocols written out as part of Y/your D/s contract.
Try this as well . . . Many of the militaristic aspects of BDSM protocols derive from servicemen returning from the war, and then they found a community as part of motorcycle clubs (thus, the leather) and established what we call the Old Guard traditions that then were passed on to the heterosexual community.
I guess I should have been a little clearer. My assignment was to write an essay on the history of protocols and what those protocols are. MistressKiley and LeChiffre, you both have been helpful.
I am very new to the scene and as such stumble often. My Domme is taking the steps to correct my stumbles. I have a tendency to get flippant in low protocol situations. I get too relaxed and comfortable forgetting what my role is. In attempts at sarcastic humor I cross over into disrespect. A work in progress I am!
Thanks again!