Find a certified practitioner of these sensual BDSM delights with great reviews ... the things you listed are all elements of Elysium™ and Bondassage®. When you book with her or are sitting down in your pre~session interview, just let her know what you are seeking and I am sure you will be taken on quite a journey.
I know that I am interested in "sensual" domination vs. anything more hardcore but beyond that I am not sure what to ask for or what to say when I try to schedule.
I am interested in things like bondassage, tease and denial etc. I am not looking for penetration, pain, humiliation, etc.
Not sure how to find the right lady and how to convey what I want in the initial approach.
Find a certified practitioner of these sensual BDSM delights with great reviews ... the things you listed are all elements of Elysium™ and Bondassage®. When you book with her or are sitting down in your pre~session interview, just let her know what you are seeking and I am sure you will be taken on quite a journey.
I just had the best session of my life thanks to Rachel. She knows what she is talking about.
She is truly spectacular!
Thank you, Rachel!
BDSM 101 is also, a great book to read. I prefer to do my own research, and love the worldwide web.
If you've reached the point where you are interested in trying out BDSM, then I assume that you've seen a porn video or read erotica or otherwise found SOMETHING that turned you on to the point where you thought, "I want to try THAT." I'd be very surprised if you are coming to this as a blank slate. Feel free to tell your potential Domme/Top what you saw or read that got you so excited. It might just be as simple as a woman wearing leather or latex, or having someone else calling the shots for an hour.
That's really how it all begins for almost every lifestyle P/player. T/they found something that T/they thought was really hot, tried it, and loved it. In many cases, but not all, it's a natural human tendency to conquer a certain type of play and then decide that Y/you want to try something different, maybe even something more extreme. I used to be scared of violet wand and electrical play, for instance, but once I understood the science and safety behind them and tried it out, those became some of my favorite toys.
Power exchange doesn't have to involve pain, so don't feel pressured to have a scene with pain if you don't want one, BUT, I will say, you're missing out on the endorphin rush of a lifetime. You say, for instance, that you are not looking for penetration, but let me tell you, the orgasm you'll have from prostate stimulation will have you wondering why the hell you wasted so many years NOT doing that. But if you just want to worship your Mistress's boots or feet, then there's nothing wrong with that.
Most Dommes will include on Their websites a list of Their interests. A simple approach is read that list and then see if Y/you have mutual kinks. Just like with dating, Y/you won't be 100% compatible. And I'll be honest, a lot of pro Dommes are actually lifestyle submissives or Switches when they play with their lovers, so it's not that uncommon to find a lot of pro Dommes who aren't that big into giving pain because of that.
This link has a pretty good glossary of terms if you come across an interest on a Domme's website and aren't sure what They might be referring to. Might help.
Good luck