Do you prefer soft & sensual kinky fun, or sadistic/ hardcore?
I love it it all, but am interested in your responses.While my tastes typically lean towards milder experiences (e.g., tease & denial), it seems like once the provider and I reach a certain comfort level, things invariably get a lot wilder lol!
My favorite provider currently is in love with coming over at a moment's notice...armed with her strapon, at which point she bends me over, spanks me (hard!), and bangs the hell out of me while reaching around to jack me off.
This all started after some tease & denial sessions about 2-3 weeks ago....
It is totally a comfort thing!!! My fantasies all tend to be wild, but sometimes that can "intimidate" a provider. I do however crave the move from mild (t&d, pleasing her, etc) to more wild. Once the comfort level is there, I crave to become a playtoy for her (very few hard limits) and love the idea of the session evolving into some wild debauchery!!!
For me at least, it all depends on the mood. Sometimes, soft, sensual and mild is what I want. Sometimes, "bounce-off-the-wall-jungle-sex" is in order. Do I want to be dominate or submissive or do I just want to have "vanilla" sex. And, of course, it also depends on the lady - what her skill set is and what she's most comfortable doing. Ah, the myriad joys I've enjoyed and intend to keep on enjoying.
I always like for a session to contain a fair amount of sensuality, but at heart I'm definitely more of a BDSM guy than someone who looks for an escort who is a bit kinky. Golden showers, the right mix of hard/soft nipple play, humiliation, rimming during facesitting (as well as having a face dildo ridden by the Domme - love that), and skillful anal play excite me far more than the thought of having vaginal sex.
Like many I keep finding my BDSM horizons expanding. That's great fun, but it also means I want vanilla sex less and less.
Soft and Sensual, and maybe a little bit farther, but not sadistic and hard core.
Like some of the other replies, it's a combination for me. Before I can "enjoy" the harder stuff, I have to be pretty excited and turned-on. Once my mind (mind - yeah right!) is in the right place, I enjoy more wild activities.
I'm guessing that doesn't offer any insight.
Used to be I needed the sensual side to allow my mind accept the wild side. Now I've crossed over and the vanilla side delivers less and less satisfaction without the wild side. So glad to hear I'm not alone in the transition. Still figuring out how to act on all my wild thoughts. Living in the vanilla word hinders the acting upon. But I'm trying my "hardest".
I love it it all, but am interested in your responses.
I love a soft/sensual/sympathetic attitude and demeanor combined with sadistic words/actions.
"Aww you poor thing! You must never get laid having a babydick that tiny. No wonder you're a desperate loser who has to pay for it. Here sweetie, let me help you." *tease him mercilessly* "Aww, your balls are blue and swollen? Poor baby, let me take care of your pathetic balls..." *kick in nuts hard and repeatedly* "Are you horny now honey?"