Never Kick a Man Unless He is Down ! LOL
A while back, when I got started in this business, I had to choose a name. Obviously the one on my driver's license just didn't sit too well with me since I wanted it to remain a secret. Mainly a secret from stalkers and creeps.....
I chose Mistress Erotica as somewhat of a title and people could call me Autumn.
Since then, I have been asked to kick people in the balls, crap on them, beat them with a paddle, stick needles in their nipples, and a hundred other very painful and disgusting things.
Now, this may be your fetish, but I just don't have the heart to do it. Besides that, think of the liability! If I kick a guy in the nuts and he for whatever reason requires emergency medical care, how in the world do I explain myself to police and doctors?
So - I am dropping the Mistress Erotica title as it invites people wanting a true mistress. I don't mind a little spanking every now and then, but.....
My new website is www.autumnsandiego.com
I understand your changing your name.. however, I doubt seriously it will have much of an effect on those raunchy disgusting requests. My "name" in no way suggests that I am into any of that, yet I have had all of the same requests you mentioned.. and them some!
I guess there are those that think that a few bucks (or even a LOT of bucks) will buy them any type of perversion they want.. and maybe that's true... for some providers. Not this one. I got into this business because I happen to LOVE.... kissing.. licking.. sucking.. and f..
Anyway.. good luck with the name change.. by the way.. just how much DO you charge to kick a guy in the balls really hard 3 or 4 times?
Lana
And I've never presented an image of or alluded to a willingness to engage in such things!
I'd like to second Lana's question, though: what is a good ball-kicking going for these days? LOL
I would say that some of us providers fit an image or look of a domme more so than others and may receive an abnormally large amount of requests like this despite whatever name we have chosen. If this is the case with you then you will continue to receive them, perhaps not in the volume you did before. I have always seemed to attract these types like flies and "learned" to be a mean nasty domme because there was a demand...I must say though as I have matured I just don't have it in me to do all the things I used too..but universally I think these requests are not uncommon. Alot of masochists really like to just talk about their fantasies and seem to make the rounds eventually to every providers phone or e-mail box...
What would possess a man to WANT to have that done to him? Boggles the mind and makes one cringe.
I have a good friend that's a provider in Florida. She provides these types of services. It amazed me that guys are willing to pay to have this done to them. C & BT seems to be a popular activity which pays the same as escort rates. These activities also include clamping, tying, and whipping in addition to kicking.
It all has to do with humiliation and nothing to do with sex.
Just think you can tie him up, blind fold him, kick him in the balls, leave, come back every 15 minutes and kick him again. You never have to get undressed, you get to release some of your frustrations, all for $$$ an hour. What more could a girl ask for. I think this is something Bridgette and Austin should get into. They have done everything but kick their clients in the balls.
Tell me that you haven't had at least one client that you would love to do a drop kick on. LOL
But S&M is a lot more work.
I'm finding I enjoy massage a lot more - actually my "combo" sessions - a little S&M, ending with a sensual massage seem to be very popular lately.
Not into the heavy stuff either anymore. But love to do the lighter playful scenes.
MM
I was a little disturbed to see many providers have the name "Mistress" - on the flip side, I don't want clients assuming *I* do escort.
As you can imagine I've been asked to do all those things and more. In the last year or so I've lightened up and added fbsm and I really enjoy it. I've never been a hardcore dominatrix anyway but I enjoy the light playful scenes a lot.
As far as liability, haven't you seen those x-rays of men presenting to the emergency room with coke bottles and worse up their butt? They always claim to have just "fallen" on them accidentally (haha!) It's highly doubtful any man is going to admit to hospital personnel he paid a woman $200+ an hour to beat him and shove objects in his rectum. Some dommes make their clients sign a waiver. As for me, I am a nursing student and am CPR and first aid certified (I took the first few months of EMT training) and that's good enough for the light type of play I enjoy.
I would never engage in catheterizations, piercings, scat, blood or needles - way too dangerous.
MM
One guy in particular wanted me to kick him in the balls a couple of times and leave. All for my one hour rate of $$$.
Sounds like a pretty good deal, I just don't think I'm up for it right now. I like being a GFE -
I have (at their request) humiliated guys before or made them my "slave" (kiss my feet, etc...) but never any pain.
And yes, there are a few guys I wanted to kick, but that would have been on the house!
Never Kick a Man Unless He is Down ! LOL
My family jewels are a soccer ball and you're a World Cup player:
GOOOOOAAAAAALLLLLL!
"Harder"
GGGGOOOOOOAAAALLLLL!
"Harder".
Oh Yeah, I ain't walkin' for days now catheterize me.
But don't drop the entire S&M scene. Don't abandon its sensual side. The giving up of control(bound), the anticipation and not knowing what's coming next(blindfold) and the heightening of sensativity(spanking) are erotic not disgusting. Your website shortchanges you if you still enjoy these things. It makes my search impossible. The hardest thing for us to sort out is which dominants will allow for S&M to be coupled with a sensual experience.