I've encountered this with clients and don't feel comfortable showing ID.

I have had instances where they have phoned ahead to security and an ID was not required.

I parked in a lot outside, she pulled up and drove me in.  No problem.

Blindguy's idea of meeting  outside in a nearby place, and then return  the lady to her car. I do believe that even if I call the "Gatekeeper"and  give the name of the person I am expecting, they still want to see a photo ID. ESPECIALLY If the lady's name I give Is  "Double44D'S!..(mmm How about a Costco card with photo on it????...- 1WAY's concept of spending time to assess the situation may be valid,if he brings along  his favorite 2 providers!...Any other thoughts from experience?? If this  security  crap kills my hobbying, I'll just have to move to a community  where the gatekeepers are all beautiful  providers, and all they check out are my  under the waist references!!!
FH