I also received this same email from this crazy women and I know that it's been many months since I've been contacted by Mr. X via email so not only isn't he deleting on a regular basis, but probably never.

Please be very careful guys with your extracuricular activities, because it doesn't just affect you when you get caught, but us as well.

Sorry that you had to go through this. I think you are right on target when you observed that this woman is "hurting" and I agree completly that her anger is misdirected. So how big of a dog house do we think this fellow is in? It has to be HUGE! Good advice here. I hope other gentlemenn in the same situation will take your advice.

Here is my personal opinion..take it for what it's worth.
1. Mrs. X is very angry and hurt and wants someone to feel that same pain. Directing it at the ladies that her husband decided to see won't do any good and won't make her feel any better. Laides stick to your screening and you should be fine.
2.Mr.X (in my opinion) wanted to get caught, somewhere subliminally he wanted his wife to know, otherwise he would of taken every precaution to protect her from finding out. Maybe he wanted a divorce and didn't know how (or didn't have the courage)to tell his wife. She already knew he was doing something outside of their marriage, otherwise she wouldn't of been snooping around in his computer, emails etc.
We always know..it's just that some look for evidence to disprove all the signs and signals they have been getting,telling them something is going on.
Everything happens for a reason and the reason this happend is his neglect and lazy attitude twoard protecting his family from discovering his "Hobby". He took the easy way out and jepordized the very ladies that offered him somewhere to play and relax, they never breeched their discression rules.
3. Being discreet is a two way street...The ladies work hard not to expose your "secrets" and the same should be said of the gentlemen in this hobby twoards the ladies.
Her response is one of a controlling person, who looks at her husband as "Hers". As much as we like to think of our signifigant other as ours alone, we have to know that they are individuals and share parts of themselves with others, if you can't decide to have an agreement on what "parts" are acceptable to share, then don't stay together.
Thats my opinion...and you know what they say about those lol:P
~Malissa~



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Sorry to hear that you and Debbie were recipients of such venom.
Your advice about deleting is sound.  I do  these things already. The gents  may wish to  get a seperate  e-mail account  that is web based, not using outlook express, and password protected.  These can be free and can be used for private  messages.   We all need to be vigilant about security, so  other people or cats do not get into things.  
Clean files are happy files
I do repeat you must delete

At least as far as cookies and various other "trail-markers:"

http://panicware.com/product_sureclean.html

What's good about this product (and, I'm sure, others) is that clean-up can be scheduled to happen regularly, without user intervention. I think it's a good idea for people who may find themselves in the same situation as "Mr.X." (The company also makes a good pop-up stopper product.)

Of course, it won't help with deleting emails... :/

And I'm sorry to read of your troubles, Kandy. I hope she calms down and leaves you alone, eventually.

--b.

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