Sorry I don't know how to link to another thread. That thread has a link to the full article, for those who want to read it. The article was written by TER's former Love Goddess, using posts to the Erotic Highway discussion board on TER for data.
My reaction to reading the full article:
Emotional labor and “bounded authenticity”
Milrod’s paper is an important contribution. From a clinical, patient-treating standpoint, the most important point is that male clients of sex workers can be benefited by therapists who help them to have a realistic understanding of the emotional labor that is done by many sex workers who provide the “girlfriend experience”, and to distinguish this emotional labor from true romantic feelings.
It is worth noting that sex workers are far from the only workers who do emotional labor. Therapists, for example, are trained to provide a warm, accepting environment for their clients, because this helps greatly in forming the therapeutic alliance. This is certainly also a form of emotional labor. And many types of sales jobs can sometimes involve, at least to a minor extent, some form of emotional labor.
Milrod uses the term “bounded authenticity” well, and correctly credits Elizabeth Bernstein with coining the term in her excellent book “Temporarily Yours: Intimacy, Authenticity, and the Commerce of Sex” (2007). Although feelings expressed by sex workers can of course be entirely feigned, or counterfeit, in the “bounded authenticity” model, the feelings are genuine, and grow out of the emotional labor done by the sex worker.
Posted By: Jordan_Carter Article linked below.
Yesterday an article was published revealing a study (of review boards) that approximately 1/3 of men who play in the hobby are desiring an emotional commitment with providers.
Didn't shock me at all.
In summary, they used analytical software to thumb through review board posts and turns up that 1/3 of topics were related to the non-sexual relationship with escorts. Referred to as "regulars" in the article. The result doesn't shock me. Where else should men go to discuss such a unique relationship with a provider? This is not only a review board, but its a board to learn more through communicating with others. Also a place to share your experiences (minus dirty details) and vent if you need to.
Based on my experiences and likely many many other ladies, we already knew about the hidden desires some guys have. I actually prefer those guys because this is how I date! Unfortunately, I can't agree that a man searches for escorts in hope of love as the article insinuates. I believe that the emotional commitment witnessed amongst the majority of the 1/3 analyzed in their study happened naturally as it would if he'd met the lady at a random Starbucks.
It shouldn't surprise anyone or require a study to observe this We're ALL still human after all...