If they are not wanting to see those they exclude, they really are not missing out in their eyes. To those excluded, I can hear the resounding..."their loss". Again, not their loss if they don't want to see them in the first place.
Providers make choices based on a number of criteria, and those that I make are made with careful consideration. I want to see those men with whom I am most comfortable and with whom I feel has the best level of compatibility. If that means exclusion of some, then so be it.