I agree London. My perspective from the other side......During a long separation from my SO I always worried more about what were basically "one night stands", or close to it, with civvie women than I did with a top shelf provider. So much so that I stopped pursuing any civvies that I hadn't gotten to know reasonably well before jumping in the sack. Was fortunate enough to have a few that I knew well enough to be in a friends w/ bennies situation.
To satisfy my sexual gymnastics urges, I would MUCH rather have sex with a top shelf pro than some hot little civvie number I just met in a club. Just my two cents.......RR