their life and past during your time together...that's what the boards are for lmao! Seriously, you know way too much about a woman you're paying to fk you and then leave. It is supposed to be a fantasy, where you believe they all have their shit together in and out of session time. Just pay, leave, and move on to a new one. If you like a comfort level, you might do better in a SD type relationship, but then again that is way personal. Just don't get so involved in their lives and don't let them make you that way. It's not that complicated.