And the truth is I do not understand 100% it myself. I have never like heels. They have never turned me on. It makes me think the lady is trying to hard and that is a turn off. Then by being in lingerie you take away the fun of unwrapping you. Plus it makes things feel like I am just a number that you wish to rush though. I am comfortable with it being a business arrangement, even to the point I actually prefer it when you count the money so I can see. But it is like you want to hurry up and get it over with and want to save time getting dressed and undressed. Outside of the hobby you don't meet people in their underwear.
I know most of that is in my head, but at the door, it has a negative effect on my libido. I like to see women in lingerie just not at the start. I really dislike heels.
Does any of that make sense? I doubt it but it is how my brain fries.