Is your desire to have BOTH a man and your independence.
I don't know your life hisotry, but it sounds to me that you really haven't had a serious relationship in a LONG time and because of this, you lack clear direction on what you want to do with your life.
I don't think that a TER forum will get you the answers that you need.
What you do need to do is take a serious evaluation of yourself and life and how you want to proceed from this point on.
Will this require seeking a professional counselor to help you with that? Probably so.
Will this require you to find another avenue of obtaining revenue to keep up with your lifestyle? Probably so.
Having a serious relationship AND be independent does NOT work! Never has and never will. It doesn't matter what the gender is. In a serious relationship, it's BOTH partners finding a common gound, doing give and take. It's not all one-sided.
Good luck on your future.
Posted By: AlluringAva Basic statement and question is:
Do you believe that most, if not all ( aside from pimps haha) pay for sex in one form or another? Whether it's straightforward through paying a pro, or paying for alimony( and that's sad because you're paying an ex wife and not even wanting to or getting to have sex with her), taking out a woman on a date and spending money hoping to get laid?
OR, do you feel that this question is a jaded, bitter one that's reducing women to commodities and gold-diggers even in a day and age and 40% of women outearn their husbands? If this is the case then it seems as though maybe now women will pay for sex LOL. The wealthier the woman the more she would have to pay for alimony or support a husband in some ways. And a pimp, well, that's a whole different story. Although you don' have to be a professional pimp to sponge off a woman.
Conversely, as an independent woman who pays her own mortgage and bills, I go back and forth between the desire to have a man take care of all my financial needs, and yet...those sugar daddy types never worked out for me. I guess it's just natural to be a modern woman and yet still struggle mightily with wanting a man to take care of me, and wanting to take care of myself. I can find no middle ground it seems.