BDSM

Not often enough :(
RokkKrinn 1625 reads
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I sympathize with ya, pal....for me, the combo of the two is the ultimate..

This is the perfecta for me also--and such providers are hard to find.  Without naming a certain provider by name (but she knows I'm referring to her), search in the Vegas ad boards using keywords like "fetish-friendly" and you'll find my personal ATF...

The other way to go is to sniff around on the web for "pro-dommes"; I know that many of them have these huge honking disclaimers that basically say things like "I am not an escort. No sexual services are suggested, or should be inferred. blah de blah de blah...."

In quite a few cases, the disclaimers are accurate. Virtually all pro-dommes used to (and many still do) make a huge distinction between themselves and "hookers with whips", insisting that they were the only true purveyors of BDSM, and that GFE providers (and their clientele) were "amateurs" or in some manner inauthentic (I have no idea why this is so--two willing parties, envelope on the vanity, both parties come away having gotten what they wanted, why does someone else get to pass judgement?  But I digress...).

Anyway:  At least some of the time, in my experience, if you do your homework and really examine a "no sexual services, not ever, nohow, no way" website, looking at the links to the Twitter and Facebook pages (sometimes even links back to reviews on this-here very website!), you'll find that the true range of services offered are exactly what you seek.  I assume these GFE/kinky providers have their own reasons for not being quite-so-forthcoming (I'm going to guess for some it's legal reasons, for some it may be that they really do want a chance to "vet" a client a little more carefully before letting them know the full range of services on the menu, etc).

Having said that, I still agree--it is pften very difficult for we kink-minded hobbyists.  TER's own parameters for reviews (i.e., can't give out some of the higher-numbered ratings unless certain "services" are offered) make it even more difficult to find what we're looking for (e.g., making a trip to the Greek Isles should hardly be something that a hobbyist would expect from a femdom-y GFE experience--but TER's rules are firm--no Greek, can't give out a "10", no BBJCIM, can't give out a "9"..etc...).

Original poster has gotten me started here:  Ladies--please make it a little easier; don't force us to "read between the lines" quite so much.

TER--please create some parallel set of criteria for BDSM reviews.  Even something as simple as "you won't even be allowed to HJ yourself into a condom she provides", "you might be allowed...", "you'll probably have the chance for a happy ending after you've 'suffered' enough", etc, would be a tremendous improvement over the system currently in use.

It seems most women do not provide both.... That combination would be a real treat!!

Any thoughts??

I think more, and more Escorts are becoming aware that kinky fun is what captures clients & keeps them coming back for more naughty play!

RokkKrinn1626 reads

I sympathize with ya, pal....for me, the combo of the two is the ultimate..

This is the perfecta for me also--and such providers are hard to find.  Without naming a certain provider by name (but she knows I'm referring to her), search in the Vegas ad boards using keywords like "fetish-friendly" and you'll find my personal ATF...

The other way to go is to sniff around on the web for "pro-dommes"; I know that many of them have these huge honking disclaimers that basically say things like "I am not an escort. No sexual services are suggested, or should be inferred. blah de blah de blah...."

In quite a few cases, the disclaimers are accurate. Virtually all pro-dommes used to (and many still do) make a huge distinction between themselves and "hookers with whips", insisting that they were the only true purveyors of BDSM, and that GFE providers (and their clientele) were "amateurs" or in some manner inauthentic (I have no idea why this is so--two willing parties, envelope on the vanity, both parties come away having gotten what they wanted, why does someone else get to pass judgement?  But I digress...).

Anyway:  At least some of the time, in my experience, if you do your homework and really examine a "no sexual services, not ever, nohow, no way" website, looking at the links to the Twitter and Facebook pages (sometimes even links back to reviews on this-here very website!), you'll find that the true range of services offered are exactly what you seek.  I assume these GFE/kinky providers have their own reasons for not being quite-so-forthcoming (I'm going to guess for some it's legal reasons, for some it may be that they really do want a chance to "vet" a client a little more carefully before letting them know the full range of services on the menu, etc).

Having said that, I still agree--it is pften very difficult for we kink-minded hobbyists.  TER's own parameters for reviews (i.e., can't give out some of the higher-numbered ratings unless certain "services" are offered) make it even more difficult to find what we're looking for (e.g., making a trip to the Greek Isles should hardly be something that a hobbyist would expect from a femdom-y GFE experience--but TER's rules are firm--no Greek, can't give out a "10", no BBJCIM, can't give out a "9"..etc...).

Original poster has gotten me started here:  Ladies--please make it a little easier; don't force us to "read between the lines" quite so much.

TER--please create some parallel set of criteria for BDSM reviews.  Even something as simple as "you won't even be allowed to HJ yourself into a condom she provides", "you might be allowed...", "you'll probably have the chance for a happy ending after you've 'suffered' enough", etc, would be a tremendous improvement over the system currently in use.

Although she does not appear in any TER reviews I had a throughly satisfying experience with Madam 9 and I would repeat. I don't do reviews any more but were I to do so I would highly recommend her. Good at role playing too!

I have always naturally combined the two whether by request or by nature it just always seems to happen that way. I love my kink and I love sex so combining them together just works well for me. I am a dominant woman by nature and being the aggressor is a great deal of fun. I enjoy taking a gentlemen for a journey into the farthest edges of his sexuality and psyche. The thrill, the excitement, the anticipation of it all and then sharing it is euphoric.

Cheers,
Grace

Posted By: KingBuffet
It seems most women do not provide both.... That combination would be a real treat!!

Any thoughts??
In my opinion, BDSM and FS go hand in hand. One is simply an appetizer without the other and together they make quite the sensual perversion of a feast. Perhaps you simply have not been looking in the right places. Now that you have so many options... Kink wisely and often.
~A.P.


(P.S. Thanks for the mention S.C.)

BDSM activities get me hot and turned on.  That is a good reason to like BDSM activities - right?Thus, I have always put them together in my wants and being a submissive, it isn't about my wants.  Thus the games begin......sometimes submission is that I am turned on and it is my role to ignore that and obey my partner.

Since this is a client relationship I do not kiss on the mouth, a personal choice.  Safety of my health and everyone I contact guides my limits.   Thus, I never advertise under GFE.

Exploring BDSM and Happy Endings are wonderful.  My sessions are about the Dom's pleasure though.  



IF you like being in control!!
Which I do.  
So it's all about taking the lead, making sure your playmate is conformtable with each and evey detail as you go along, and getting him to just let go and let you do the driving!
It all builds to a glorious cresendo...boom!  
Sweet relief!!

I can tell what a guy wants, how much control he wants to give up.  Sometimes we share it...I let him take control, he pleases me first, then we switch.  Often, they come to me wanting, NEEDING, to hand over control from the beginning.  I always stay tuned in to their needs, and play it by ear, step by step.  Being a control freak myself, I appreciate the desire for  safe place to just hand it over, knowing it's going to be All Good and have a happy ending.

What I can't stand is topping from the bottom!
When you are in my control, don't try to tell me what to do!
We've already had the discussion, I know what you want, you are in good hands, so just relax and enjoy the experience.
And please...when I am Doming you...don't take a call from your wife!!

xoxoClair Jordan

My experience in both the SM lifestyle and being an Escort who also offers my experience in BDSM shows me there are two very different worlds professionally. Also many years ago that wasn't the case as I underststand the history.

  Although I am not up to date on the boards on Erotic type site you are basically going to find sex with BDSM. Where on a Mistress or Dominant site you will find NO sex. Generally speaking.

  I offer both.

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