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some of just have a certain specific Age of Attraction, and we wish to spend our time and share our bodies with people who fit those parameters. believe it or not every provider is not about business and marketing, sometimes it's about what we like/what's most comfortable.

in or outside the hobby, i only see men over 40. i have always (and i am saying ALWAYS) found men in their 40s to be most attractive, most appealing, and my relationships with them more natural and comfortable. i enjoy the experience of being able to learn something from an older and experienced man...and no i am not talking about sex, but just life. there is also a comfort and security in being with someone who knows exactly who they are and makes no qualms about it. they are young enough to grow but old enough to no longer be questioning themselves or the world around them at every moment. they have been there and done that, but without the cockiness which often accompanies experienced younger men. and don't even get me started on what sex is like with someone who is comfortable with their body (and knows every inch), has a great understanding and appreciation of the female form (and understands every woman is entirely different), and who knows just what they need and desire and will tell you so. i am not a teacher or a seductress, i wish to be thoroughly challenged and used by a man sexually. i appreciate a man who will pick me up and set me down on his lap, in the most tender and paternal of embraces, then at just the right moment place a finger deep inside me knowing it will make me sigh and tremble uncontrollably. who will kiss me gently on the forehead before pushing me down to his crotch and forcing his cock completely down my throat.

ummm yeah..what was the topic again?? lol






Is this to imply they think there is something "wrong" with men in their 30's?

Or is it simply a marketing technique that they think will make them look better or attract more lucrative clients?

Somehow I'm not inclined to believe that every guy over 40 is going to spend more money on this industry than every man under 30.  Even though this might typically be the case, I'm sure there are exceptions out there.

Any providers who have this 40+ policy willing to comment?  Opinions from others are welcome too.

has a pretty set age limit because she does not feel comfortable sleeping with someone in her son's age, which I believe is 20s or so.

I guess some women just do not want to sleep with younger men. Though I honestly cannot figure out why..

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while i only like older men, they still have to be strong, virile, energetic, and just plain sexy. he needs to be able to toss me about with ease, and not have me concerned he may tear or break something vital, lol. i also discovered a while back that no matter how much i may like and respect a man, i absolutely cannot get past LIVER SPOTS. no offense to those gents of course, but i just can't do it. maybe when i have my own i'll feel differently?






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Could you tell me what a liver spot looks like? Where they are found? A few years ago the backs of my hands developed a few assorted spots, but I thought they were just age spots, not something that might cause a reaction....

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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/age-spots/DS00912

liver spot is just another term for age spot. they are generally caused by too much unprotected sun exposure over many years. the turn-off in them for me is that they are such a visible sign of aging that simply cannot be denied, and they change the texture of the skin as well (and i love caressing, snuggling nude, etc.). fortunately they can be removed if you have the time and money!



There are plenty of fellas out there (and gals too) that are Grandparents in their mid to late 30's.

But I suspect you are suggesting fellas that are somewhat older than that.  But are you wishing to eliminate those over 45, 50, 55 and so on?  If so, you may want to post that info on your site so the majority of mongers don't waste their time on you.  As I'm not a Grandpa yet...I'd certainly like to know that you have age issues, and I'd most certainly not want to drop a nickel on you if you're just not into the scene.

And FWIW...I don't think too many fellas (or ladies) sleep with anyone here, except on overnighters.  But I suppose if you're seeing someone in their 80's or 90's a nap may be part of the session :)

Posted By: prepkid
has a pretty set age limit because she does not feel comfortable sleeping with someone in her son's age, which I believe is 20s or so.

I guess some women just do not want to sleep with younger men. Though I honestly cannot figure out why..
There can be a number of reasons and they vary lady to lady.

One is safety--and while that might not be an issue for some ladies in some places, it is a very, very real issue for a lot of ladies in this business.

Another--and I am not trying to be nasty about this, just factual--is the thread you started a few threads below, "Who to make a provider fall for me".  I've had multiple older ladies say this is a problem with some younger guys.

1). More mellow  you start to be less bothered by the little things as you get older.(unless its a SO).
2).  Normally willing to spend a little more money.
3).  I have heard a few time that the younger guys are to full of themselves and expect oohs and ahhs.
4).  Ya I think the kids age might have something to it.
5).  I also think we really do feel grateful they are there for us and express it better.
Funny though as I bet most of us see younger women than us. Of course this is just hearsay and speculation.

As a very general rule I am 30 plus..and I expect it is for some of the same reasons..
The 20 somethings are hot.. but I am old enough to be thier mom for starters.
second. I want a real man not a boy...

Let's get to the 30 somethings... while I find them attractive there are very few 30 year olds that find a 50 year old attractive. ( now I am not anywhere close to 50 ) but you see my point..
30 somethings.. are hot and are usually confident or at least finding thier way.. ( Which I find super hot)

40 plus.. once you reach your 40's, At least for me. I know what I like and how and where to find it. Most 40 year old men are also pretty much to the point accross the board.. Here it is. This is what I want/need.. etc, etc.. there is also an element of life experiences/conversation to be had..
which I find refreshing.........................

Posted By: JT1902
Is this to imply they think there is something "wrong" with men in their 30's?

Or is it simply a marketing technique that they think will make them look better or attract more lucrative clients?

Somehow I'm not inclined to believe that every guy over 40 is going to spend more money on this industry than every man under 30.  Even though this might typically be the case, I'm sure there are exceptions out there.

Any providers who have this 40+ policy willing to comment?  Opinions from others are welcome too.

I'm in my late 30's, and I'm not attracted to women over 40. I'm barely attracted to women in their late 30's for that matter. I think part of the reason why women won't see anyone under 40 is that those guys are far less picky. It takes a lot to impress a 30 something guy, and not as much to impress a 50 year old guy.

Posted By: HarlandSanders
I'm in my late 30's, and I'm not attracted to women over 40. I'm barely attracted to women in their late 30's for that matter. I think part of the reason why women won't see anyone under 40 is that those guys are far less picky. It takes a lot to impress a 30 something guy, and not as much to impress a 50 year old guy.
If appearance is a factor, I can definitely see this playing a role.  I mean, as much as I hate to say it, I think many men would be more inclined to state "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", instead of going "Beauty is only skin deep"  But, on that note, I've seen women in their 40's that I'd get turned on by, and I'm not even 35 myself yet.  Each person ages at a different rate... so in this case it would be less about age and more about physical attraction.  One of the reasons I asked though is because I've even seen providers in their 20's who only want guys 40+

But you know.... I think there are probably some seniors out there that are only looking for "super model" type figures too, though I would reckon less of them.

its all about preference for the most part.
Plus like anything else, practice makes perfect.
Clients in their 40s plus have had  relationships, long term and it takes such a relationship to learn and understand a womans body as well as her mind, sex after all is simply put first and lastly a total mind fuck.

Sex with the over 40 crowd is more fun, they are experienced and my age group.
theres no seperate agenda, its all preferences.



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some of just have a certain specific Age of Attraction, and we wish to spend our time and share our bodies with people who fit those parameters. believe it or not every provider is not about business and marketing, sometimes it's about what we like/what's most comfortable.

in or outside the hobby, i only see men over 40. i have always (and i am saying ALWAYS) found men in their 40s to be most attractive, most appealing, and my relationships with them more natural and comfortable. i enjoy the experience of being able to learn something from an older and experienced man...and no i am not talking about sex, but just life. there is also a comfort and security in being with someone who knows exactly who they are and makes no qualms about it. they are young enough to grow but old enough to no longer be questioning themselves or the world around them at every moment. they have been there and done that, but without the cockiness which often accompanies experienced younger men. and don't even get me started on what sex is like with someone who is comfortable with their body (and knows every inch), has a great understanding and appreciation of the female form (and understands every woman is entirely different), and who knows just what they need and desire and will tell you so. i am not a teacher or a seductress, i wish to be thoroughly challenged and used by a man sexually. i appreciate a man who will pick me up and set me down on his lap, in the most tender and paternal of embraces, then at just the right moment place a finger deep inside me knowing it will make me sigh and tremble uncontrollably. who will kiss me gently on the forehead before pushing me down to his crotch and forcing his cock completely down my throat.

ummm yeah..what was the topic again?? lol






When men are in their 20 - 30's they do not treat a woman the same way a man does in his 40's.
I am not saying every single man but lot of them seem to learn better manners and know how to talk about it instead of just going for it and expecting her to know what you are going for.

i have had numerous providers tell me they prefer older men because the younger ones have the RAD factor going in most cases..RUDE..ARROGANT..DEMANDING..i am not an escort..so who am i to question their judgment..

are harder to please looks and personality wise for sure, but I get along with the 30 somethings just fine. They are usually either just starting in business or have worked for a company a few years right out of grad school, listen to the same music as I do, kiss like I do, and can appreciate my sense of humor. I find many older men are too sensitive and can't take a joke to save their life. I spend the entire time trying to bring out a personality that is just not even there many times. I have had great success with older men on TER, but can't say the same overalll.

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Hmmmm... interesting.  If any of you have seen a younger client in the past, could you be more specific as to how he was "cocky" during the session?  I guess I just find it difficult to imagine arrogant behavior in a situation like that, at least if the guy was being respectful.

This was a long time ago, but I was only 23 when I saw my first provider, and she was 29.  It was at an upscale hotel in Houston when I was at a convention.  She didn't know my age during the session, but when I spoke to her several days later she was stunned - she just kept saying how mature I was.  She didn't go through a very thorough screening process before seeing me, but then again this was awhile back when things were probably "safer".  I don't know, maybe when I opened the door to the room and she saw me wearing business attire then she wasn't very inclined to ask questions.  To this day that's still one of the best sessions I've had, and one of the best providers I've seen.  I guess I just lucked out ;)  Though I still haven't reached 40 yet :o

they have made exceptions for me.  Everyone is different and I've been told that im more mature than some of their clients in their 40s.

Honestly everybody that I know who is my age I could never imagine them with a provider, they have no manners and are not gentleman.  

I've had a lady turn me down cause of my age but I never let it bother me and just moved on.  I respect a providers preferences.  

I mean I've even flown ladies out to me from Vegas, so I must be alright to be with lol or they wouldn't come.  

But not all younger guys are bad clients, but it's fine if a lady is more comfortable with older gents.  Fine by me.  Plenty of fish in the sea.

your tongue gets stronger.  By the age of 40, well, strong tongues are useful!

I found really nice ladies in my area who are around 35-45. I would love to meet them, but they usually all have 30 or 40+ age limit.

This is so frustrating and is such a hassle. Come on ladies.. This is business and more often than not, young guys can be tremendously energetic and fun too!

Because of your adamant rules, the ladies I can see are very limited.

start off by seeing ladies who will meet with you.  Write nice reviews and get them to whitelist you.  Then with time you will be more established in the hobby and then when you contact the more mature ladies they will see that and you will have a better chance of them making an exception for you.

Age need not be viewed just in terms of chronology.

Mental and maturity age also count.

Thanks for the suggestion.

Posted By: BoyToy4U
start off by seeing ladies who will meet with you.  Write nice reviews and get them to whitelist you.  Then with time you will be more established in the hobby and then when you contact the more mature ladies they will see that and you will have a better chance of them making an exception for you.

First you ask if a lady would be willing to do an outcall to a dorm room, then you ask for advice on how to make a provider fall in love with you. And you are stumped as to why women have age limits? Even a college boy should be able to connect these dots.

Younger guys grade harder in reviews and though most providers will never admit that's one of the main reasons for not seeing them, I know differently from a few honest ones. The usual retorst are, "Young guys are too rough, don't know how to be with a woman, wear you out, want to date you, etc." I call bs on all accounts unless they are seeing hood rats.

It's usually the older guys who take forever and even though they may be half hard, it's still forever anyway you cut it. I prefer at least a guy who is 21 because 18 seems a bit too young lol. I just feel like I am robbing the cradle.

Posted By: London Rayne
Younger guys grade harder in reviews and though most providers will never admit that's one of the main reasons for not seeing them, I know differently from a few honest ones. The usual retorst are, "Young guys are too rough, don't know how to be with a woman, wear you out, want to date you, etc." I call bs on all accounts unless they are seeing hood rats.

It's usually the older guys who take forever and even though they may be half hard, it's still forever anyway you cut it. I prefer at least a guy who is 21 because 18 seems a bit too young lol. I just feel like I am robbing the cradle.
At least we are getting some input from the other side of the coin.  Thanks for sharing that, it sheds some light on the matter :)

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Completely agreed on your thoughts about the younger and older clients. Actually, I agree with your entire post LOL.

Posted By: London Rayne
Younger guys grade harder in reviews and though most providers will never admit that's one of the main reasons for not seeing them, I know differently from a few honest ones. The usual retorst are, "Young guys are too rough, don't know how to be with a woman, wear you out, want to date you, etc." I call bs on all accounts unless they are seeing hood rats.

It's usually the older guys who take forever and even though they may be half hard, it's still forever anyway you cut it. I prefer at least a guy who is 21 because 18 seems a bit too young lol. I just feel like I am robbing the cradle.

.... no one under 27 (in or out of the hobby I USUALLY don't have good luck with men under that particular age)....I have no age maximum tho so no such thing as "too old".   But financially more often than not men over 40 are supposed to be more stable in that aspect.  

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Asked a provider once. Told me  older men know how to take it easy with a woman and how  to read  her body where the younger guys just pounded away like her pussy was a hole in the mattress the whole time. Said its a business and the last thing she needed was a worn out money maker. Said they haggle more cause they think its such a treat to see someone young. I dunno. Makes sense to me. I always thought it might be because most cops are younger.

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I think paid escorts with this policy are:

1. Looking for more mature gentlemen as clients.
2. Looking for clients with more money.
3. Looking for clients that find it more challenging to get it "up" for a second go at things.
4. Looking for clients that aren't in good enough physical shape to pound the living crap out of them.
5. Looking for clients that are actually concerned about making the paid escort have an orgasm (DATY or otherwise).

Posted By: JT1902
Is this to imply they think there is something "wrong" with men in their 30's?

Or is it simply a marketing technique that they think will make them look better or attract more lucrative clients?

Somehow I'm not inclined to believe that every guy over 40 is going to spend more money on this industry than every man under 30.  Even though this might typically be the case, I'm sure there are exceptions out there.

Any providers who have this 40+ policy willing to comment?  Opinions from others are welcome too.

Yes, most of the time I have a better chemistry with the gentleman 40 and over, but it's fun to get some young stuff too so I go by their demeanor and how they present themselves during screening, reviews written, p411, et cetera.....

I hope that gents would feel the same about me, but I would hate to miss out on meeting a great new gent because I was only looking at a number versus the person.

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