You are correct I came here ASKING FOR ADVICE. I did NOT come here to BRAG ABOUT USING FRIENDS in my 'surreptitious behavior'. So for you to lecture me on my selfish stupidity is the height of POMPOUS STUPIDITY on your part. But you're too busy chastising me and my 'rationalization' to see that.
And I already said it was wrong. I knew it was wrong when I did it. But this whole hobby is wrong so it was just another wrong decision in the interest of selfish behavior.
And unless you're clairvoyant or know who I am and are going to 'report' me, you do not know that I will visit a divorce lawyer any more than you know you will not visit a defense attorney.