Would you like me to lie to you and tell you what you want to hear? Would you like me to say "Don't worry. Everything is fine. You'll never get caught, as your wife is too stupid to put everything together. Keep doing what you're doing." There, I just did it. Thus endeth the buzzkill session for you.
Of course, you'll eventually have a much more impactful buzkill session to worry about.
The paradox exists no matter how you try to rationalize it (involving friends because of the time of day, re-entering hobby only because you haven't had sex for 3 months, involving your friends seemed low risk at the time, etc.).
I assure you I'm quite chill. After all, I have the good sense to NOT involve my friends as alibis for any surreptitious activities. The question is how chill will you be when all is said and done.
Posted By: Squeezylabeef Damn MSH! You are quite the little buzz kill these days aren't you? There's no paradox here. I took a 3 month break from the hobby to figure things out based on my guilt over doing cheating. I am re-entering the hobby because once again, despite my guilt, I'm tired of having cobwebs grow on my privies.
The incidents I described were back in the heyday of my hobbying a few months prior. I involved the friends because these were evening flings. I almost never get the chance to be out in the evening away from the wife where the providers play (the big city). When I do hobby I can otherwise usually only do it in the early morning in the far suburbs when the wife thinks I'm at the health club before work so my selection is limited. I admit to my mistake involving friends, but it seemed like a good low risk thing both times. I now simply have to confront one of those situations. Take a chill brother.
I can always just not contact him knowing my odds of running into him in his big city are slim to none. The other guy, well, it's been several months and I still haven't bumped into him with my wife present. He has nothing to hide to his wife due to different circumstances.
Posted By: MSHSEX C) Pray and start looking for a good divorce attorney.
You KNEW it is not a good idea to tell people, especially friends, about your hobbying. Yet you indirectly INVOLVED your friend by using him as an alibi for your hobbying. You have put your friend in an incredibly awkward position. Thanks to your selfishness and your thinking of only yourself, you probably haven't realized that until now.
The truth will eventually come out and make it back to your wife. Good luck.
Posted By: Squeezylabeef Hi all,
Long time no communicate. Question for y'all.
A few months back an old friend came into town and he and I went out for dinner. I left the wife and kids at home. He doesn't know I hobby. I used this wonderful opportunity to hit it with a lovely provider lady after the friend wanted to make it an early night. So I was out quite late and lied to the Mrs. that my friend and I were out late going to clubs etc.
In a couple weeks my family and I are taking a vacay to his city. I haven't contacted him yet to tell him. Ideally, I'd like to get the families together, see his house, etc. Of course I'm nervous that the my wife might bring up the subject of our wild late night out. 'what?' he'll say 'he dropped me back at the hotel early 'cause I had an early flight he next day'. Incredibly awkward silence followed by ?
Should I a) not tell him I'm coming, b) get together and hope for the best that the 'wild night' subject doesn't come up or, c) something else?