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Re: This makes no sense to me .........
crwdplsr2011 2 Reviews 188 reads
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Sex and intimacy are different things.

When we were "playing" around, you know before the clothes came off, I saw one side of the woman. After we began to fool around another side of the woman came out. I would call this DRAMA...

I was very upfront about how I was willing to play, because I really didn't want to have the "relationship." Seriously, I thought I could have my cake and eat it too. Free sex with a hott married woman who was not going to leave her SO... She wanted something and I wanted something.   Based upon discussions we shared, it was a perfect fit... WRONG! Guilt, shame, annoyance, irritating, sabotage... and these were just my feelings. Now a guy who just wanted to fuck would be loving this woman every chance he could and would lie to her to just keep it on the chain....not me so I moved along.

The affair led me here because I had gone the celibate thing and was beginning to make "bad" decisions, you know like having an affair. I really had been the good boy route and I just decided that the wolf needed to be fed more right now. Believe it or not, we make very rash decisions when we are horny long enough... So, I decided to return to the hobby and escape this way.

So, does this answer your question??? More maybe...

Lets see, why pay when you get the milk for free. Do you really think the milk is free? What you save in $$ cost you in other areas... My hot MILF was driving me nuts with text and phone calls DEMANDING things because I was getting laid... Well, I have been there and done that and I really DO NOT like any demands... I don't care how great sex is. I started the affair thinking it was all about sex... NOPE! Now does this negate the fact that she is a great person, not at all. We are still friends and she is fun to be around... we just have more to laugh at when we are at functions. BTW, there is so much to this story, but am hoping that this is enough for you to understand... and yes, she is more willing today to just be "my whore" as she puts it because she wants to play and realizes that I'm not willing to deal with the other stuff...

Ok, so my post. If you follow it all the way through you will see I am defining more and more of what I want as I go. Learned more this morning... go figure, no sitting still here...

I want a true courtesan relationship, an intimate encounter with a beautiful woman who fulfills my deepest needs and desires for whatever length of time we desire or I can afford. I'm not a wham bam kinda a guy. I tried that with others and found out it was not going to work. I do not enjoy the "pop" sellers as much as the "experience" sellers... just my preference... the old adage works best for me "a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom"  Nothing beats a sophisticated woman with brains, style, and character who unleashes all her desires in the bedroom!

I do not want this type of relationship with a civie, not interested in having it at all. Can I find it here or within the industry, YEP! My post were not looking for sympathy, just sharing because that is what the board is for.  No need to lie or embellish, I have lived a great, crazy, and fucked up life... Just need some really cool company from now and again to satisfy my collective needs... I have identified at least 3 great ladies that when possible I will schedule time with. My luck not one lives in my area... Each one is totally different from the other, but in many ways are the same or at least exhibit the same level of class, sincerity, and intellect...

I earn and burn what I make...not all decisions are wise, but wisdom can be obtained if we are paying attention to the results. I am a life learner, I enjoy the experiences...

Also, each of the ladies I saw were very good providers and did exactly what they advertised, they however had misrepresented looks and that was my issue. Me being 0-3 is my thing not theirs. I would have loved it if one of them had rung my bell. Not their fault because the bell is mine... There are two women on this board that more than ring my bell and I haven't even met them yet, do I believe our future time will be dynOmite...HECK yeah and then some!

a fuck is just a fuck, but an intimate encounter with the right woman... you will remember for a lifetime! It is those memories I am in search of, because its my life and I believe...  

As we peruse through ads and pay to spend time with women, what about your SO banging the pool boy, yard man, or neighbor???

How many of you think your SO capable? Do you care? or is it live and let live since your doing it too?

Since my divorce I have been hit upon by many a married woman and just recently gave in with one. Sex starved MILF who just couldn't stand it anymore. I broke it off and she has been begging to get back in bed.  Actually, my relationship with her drove me here... go figure.

Amazingly, no not really, her husband's behavior is somewhat like several posters on this board. She wants to be treated, well actually she just doesn't want to be ignored anymore... This woman is an amazing fuck. I asked if she fucked her husband with this type of abandon and she said "Fuck no, he doesn't deserve this shyt!"  


So, what about it guys? Do you care? What would you do if she was doing this too?

On why she's straying.  If she's tried to let me know she's not happy with certain things and I ignore her or don't attempt to address her needs, then it's my fault and I'd forgive her, as well as try to be a better husband for her.  Now this also depends on how she tried to let me know.  If she's playing games that 99.9% of men would never get, then that's a different story.  She's got to be blunt since I'm just a dumb man.

Now if I was a decent husband, yet she fell in love with another man and then strayed, that would be the end of the marriage as soon as she touched his dick.

Basically, straying because she's horny (physically or emotionally) then I could forgive.  Falling in love and straying for no good reason, she's out the door.

Now, this is all theoretical since I'm single and if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't be hobbying.

sexual urgers alone...and guys know this, which is why it's much harder to forgive a woman than it is a man. Usually, when a woman cheats it is because she is missing something on an emotional level and the sex she gives to another is just a manifestation of that void she is trying to fill. I have never cheated and I was married twice, BUT that does not mean I did not do other things to overcompensate for what I thought was missing. I just prefer honesty plain and simple. It's not the act, it is the constant hypocritical, lying, bs that goes with it.

stroking someone else's dick, I would cut it off!

Posted By: crwdplsr2011
As we peruse through ads and pay to spend time with women, what about your SO banging the pool boy, yard man, or neighbor???

How many of you think your SO capable? Do you care? or is it live and let live since your doing it too?

Since my divorce I have been hit upon by many a married woman and just recently gave in with one. Sex starved MILF who just couldn't stand it anymore. I broke it off and she has been begging to get back in bed.  Actually, my relationship with her drove me here... go figure.

Amazingly, no not really, her husband's behavior is somewhat like several posters on this board. She wants to be treated, well actually she just doesn't want to be ignored anymore... This woman is an amazing fuck. I asked if she fucked her husband with this type of abandon and she said "Fuck no, he doesn't deserve this shyt!"  


So, what about it guys? Do you care? What would you do if she was doing this too?

" Sex starved MILF who just couldn't stand it anymore. " - You have a horny woman who is sex starved ............

" This woman is an amazing fuck. " - much like a provider we spend a few hundred on ............

"  I broke it off and she has been begging to get back in bed." - You did this because you wanted to spend money instead of getting the milk for free ????

" Actually, my relationship with her drove me here. " - Yeah , sounds like a terrible set up . My heart goes out to 'ya !

Hypocritical for the man to look elsewhere and criticize the wife when she does the same .

PS - I really don't understand your actions with this sex starved MILF , but maybe your story is false , or you left out some details of why you were getting great sex for free and CHOSE to go back to paying hundreds for the same mind blowing sex .

Here is your thread from yesterday where you are not having much sucess in finding a good provider .....



-- Modified on 3/6/2012 5:02:23 AM

Sex and intimacy are different things.

When we were "playing" around, you know before the clothes came off, I saw one side of the woman. After we began to fool around another side of the woman came out. I would call this DRAMA...

I was very upfront about how I was willing to play, because I really didn't want to have the "relationship." Seriously, I thought I could have my cake and eat it too. Free sex with a hott married woman who was not going to leave her SO... She wanted something and I wanted something.   Based upon discussions we shared, it was a perfect fit... WRONG! Guilt, shame, annoyance, irritating, sabotage... and these were just my feelings. Now a guy who just wanted to fuck would be loving this woman every chance he could and would lie to her to just keep it on the chain....not me so I moved along.

The affair led me here because I had gone the celibate thing and was beginning to make "bad" decisions, you know like having an affair. I really had been the good boy route and I just decided that the wolf needed to be fed more right now. Believe it or not, we make very rash decisions when we are horny long enough... So, I decided to return to the hobby and escape this way.

So, does this answer your question??? More maybe...

Lets see, why pay when you get the milk for free. Do you really think the milk is free? What you save in $$ cost you in other areas... My hot MILF was driving me nuts with text and phone calls DEMANDING things because I was getting laid... Well, I have been there and done that and I really DO NOT like any demands... I don't care how great sex is. I started the affair thinking it was all about sex... NOPE! Now does this negate the fact that she is a great person, not at all. We are still friends and she is fun to be around... we just have more to laugh at when we are at functions. BTW, there is so much to this story, but am hoping that this is enough for you to understand... and yes, she is more willing today to just be "my whore" as she puts it because she wants to play and realizes that I'm not willing to deal with the other stuff...

Ok, so my post. If you follow it all the way through you will see I am defining more and more of what I want as I go. Learned more this morning... go figure, no sitting still here...

I want a true courtesan relationship, an intimate encounter with a beautiful woman who fulfills my deepest needs and desires for whatever length of time we desire or I can afford. I'm not a wham bam kinda a guy. I tried that with others and found out it was not going to work. I do not enjoy the "pop" sellers as much as the "experience" sellers... just my preference... the old adage works best for me "a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom"  Nothing beats a sophisticated woman with brains, style, and character who unleashes all her desires in the bedroom!

I do not want this type of relationship with a civie, not interested in having it at all. Can I find it here or within the industry, YEP! My post were not looking for sympathy, just sharing because that is what the board is for.  No need to lie or embellish, I have lived a great, crazy, and fucked up life... Just need some really cool company from now and again to satisfy my collective needs... I have identified at least 3 great ladies that when possible I will schedule time with. My luck not one lives in my area... Each one is totally different from the other, but in many ways are the same or at least exhibit the same level of class, sincerity, and intellect...

I earn and burn what I make...not all decisions are wise, but wisdom can be obtained if we are paying attention to the results. I am a life learner, I enjoy the experiences...

Also, each of the ladies I saw were very good providers and did exactly what they advertised, they however had misrepresented looks and that was my issue. Me being 0-3 is my thing not theirs. I would have loved it if one of them had rung my bell. Not their fault because the bell is mine... There are two women on this board that more than ring my bell and I haven't even met them yet, do I believe our future time will be dynOmite...HECK yeah and then some!

a fuck is just a fuck, but an intimate encounter with the right woman... you will remember for a lifetime! It is those memories I am in search of, because its my life and I believe...  

I get your point now .
I can tell you have a few years on 'ya , so i will just say that you shoulda known that the married chick was going to pull some crap like that .
I'm 45 and I woulda seen that coming . Maybe in 3 months , maybe 6 or a year , but just inevitable for sure .
Like your honesty, and being able to write structured paragraphs , spelling and correct grammar - I am a word Nazi ! :)
Reading beteewn the lines ..............Be careful for " Ive fallen for a provider and can't get up ! " - It's screaming at me from this end of the keyboard my man .

Thanks and yes we are very close in age...

No worries on falling in love with anyone... the moment maybe :)

I appreciate the board friendship, gives greater weight to your advice!!!!

I think it was Ernest Hemmingway who said that, and should have known.

The cost of an affair is very high, not just in terms of $$$ (Which they can be.), but in terms of emotional wear and tear, recriminations, divorces, broken friendships, ruined careers, etc.

The hobby is NSA, PFP, and works out very well to avoid most, if not all of the above problems.

I wish more people would explore their sexual longings this way.

I've had three affairs that all ran their course and died of natural causes.. no fuss, no muss and one that was marginally ugly... she dumped me for my son...

my wife had one affair (that I know of) and that is the excuse I use to philander myself...

I would rather have a mistress than p4p, but it's too much work to try to find one... p4p is easier..

and as for all blanket statements being bunk, I hope that is said with all due irony.

I also hope that the relationship between you and your son did not suffer as a result of that jilt.  To me, that would be a very high cost, indeed.

If my so was having sex, I would be cool with that. I hobby but I have no intention of "falling" for a provider. Relationships can be complicated and END badly for everyone involved.

. . .years, sexless for four and she hasn't really been interested in over 10 years.  I don't think wife's capable, but not for the reasons you might suggest.  

When I got married I was the faithful type and expected my mate to be also.  I've had a couple of affairs over the past ten years and have dabbled in the hobby a little, too, so my views on the necessity of sexual fidelity have changed.  If I was divorced now my ideal mate would be someone who would be interested in sharing our sex lives with others.  I would rather be present, though, and watching or participating, but if she really needed alone time with another guy I could accept it, as long as there was some corresponding reassurance I was her primary guy.

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