Until recently I was a happy and satisfied man, then I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had my prostate removed. The side affects vary but I was told to expect incontinence and impotence. The Dr. was right. The incontinence is much better but the other is tough to accept. I was hoping that reading about all of you guys and your exploits would increase my hormone production somehow. But, it's not working. Your mind learns to accept the condition and I'm more interested in the kindness shown in the messages. Now for my purpose here: Guys, get your PSA's and DRE's on a regular basis. Staying alive is better than the above problems. A latte at Starbucks with a sweet and nice provider seems exciting, but I'm not asking. Oh, several M.D.'s said frequent sex might be good because it flushes out bad cells. So there!! Go for it!!
and I know this because I have several clients who have been through the same thing and felt the same way. Worst of all is that some have been married or in a long relationship with women who have either not been able to talk to them and work with them on it or have tried to work on it but got frustrated and either left them or live with them in a totally nonsexual or sensual relationship.
Most of them say they felt the same way about 'accepting the condition' and had just figured that was all there was going to be. Luckily, they decided that they at least needed some intimacy so they came in for a massage to at least be able to enjoy the touch of a woman. It's amazing what just relaxing with someone that you feel comfortable with and enjoying their touch can do.
To any men going through this, don't think you're 'love life' is all over. It's not. There's so many ways to enjoy intimacy with another person and in exploring all of the other options you might just find the old ones 'pop up' too ;o)
The world needs more people like you.
Compassion, Patience and tenderness can make all the difference. Thats why I adopted my catch phrase, "The Journey is the Reward", because the end destination shouldn't matter, its all the fun, sexy and sensually stimulating things that happen along the way that make the difference.
Brandy and I make excellent work mates, since we both follow that same philosophy. Intamacy doesn't always mean sex.
~Malissa~
Doctors don't like to do PSA's on younger men. Insurance companies usually don't pay for it until your a little older. I get one now and then but the quandry is what to do if you have changes. Your still going to wait as long as possible. A radical prostatectomy will give you total impotence and there is no recovery from that. Appriciating human touch and personally intamacy without ejaculation is the best you can hope for after that. However there is allot to be said for staying out of the obituaries.