I was getting a massage from a noted GFE provider and they said I had an in-grown hair on my back, and would it be OK for them to try and dig it out.

For some reason, I said OK, and then they proceeded to perform surgery on my back for the next 30 minutes and in the process excavated a goodly sum of blood and puss which they giddily showed off to me.

I'm not sure the gal thought she was into being some kind of doctor dom, I think she was just a frustrated dermatologist, but whatever; I was wincing in pain most of the time by decided to go into macho mode and not even say boo about it.  Somewhere along the line, however, I began to notice that I was enjoying the whole operation - not despite the pain, but because of it.

I also found her fascination with this of interest to me as well.

She has since performed this "operation" on me a few more times, much to my satisfaction.

I used this as a stepping stone to venture out into gals who use riding crops and floggers on my back, the force of which I have them steadily increase.  So far no blood drawn, but one gal said that I'm almost up to a 7 on her 1 to 10 scale, which ain't bad for this mild mannered man.

I'm still just a tyro at this, admittedly, but I am looking forward to exploring it more.

(As for the gal who does the operations, sorry but I am under sworn oath to her not to reveal her name.)

I did not even know what BDSM was, but as a young girl...pre-teen, I was always excited seeing someone getting a spanking on a TV show or in a comic strip.  I started experimenting with fantasies in my early 20's, when I was dating my first husband.  My second (and current) husband was my first Master in my 30's.  The rest is history!

2009 The Psychology of BDSM

"the appeal of adopting an erotic role of submission, pain, or humiliation (or of inflicting those) can be understood through the abstract psychology of participants: that is, their thoughts, emotions, and sensations during play. These experiences, however, are much more than manipulations of thoughts and emotions—much of BDSM play has solid roots in both the physical structures of the brain and the neurotransmitters and hormones released by the stimuli of play. We have seen how BDSM utilizes symbols and abstract cognitive function during play. But studying the biological aspect of play reveals that not only do BDSM participants play with these archetypes, but with the oldest and most evolution-driven areas of the brain, using their conscious construction of psychodrama to tease the brain’s perception of and response to fear and physical pain into intensely positive and erotic sensation. BDSM players are neurobiological entrepreneurs, able to harness automatic and unconscious brain activity and utilize it for pleasure and personal growth."

Have fun

My first exposure was as a spectator purely by accident. I was intrigued by what I saw. I went back on another visit and learned more from some very kind and experienced people. I screwed up my courage and gave it a try as a bottom in front of about 50 people. All it took was once and I was hooked. Exhibitionism, restraint, submission, and that wonderful endorphin rush; it was all there for me. I guess I was made for BDSM. As for the why, that is definitely a different discussion

We learned how to do knots.  Eventually, some of us decided to practice our skills on each other..  I, being more of a bossy type, ended up doing the tying..

It was also during this time that I realized that I enjoyed being watched..  Particularly when I used the bathroom..  Ha!

The rest is history...  

DP