My ATF is a nice warm Golden Shower to start as an intro.

Last thing you want to do is scare him off!

It sounds like you want him to be the Top?

Get him to give you a little swat on the butt while you are having sex...maybe even more than one

I think spanking is probably the least scary of the potential BDSM activities you can share with your new friend. It does take some intruction (not too hard to start with, where to hit for maximum pleasure and minimum marking, etc) but add in some fun role play and you might see him really get into his role

Good luck to you !!


K

I have found that role playing as well as open dialog are really great entry points for "outside the box" fun. Being able to talk to your partner about what you might like to explore. It may surprise you what you find out about them Good Luck!!!

I like to talk with the ladies first to see what their fantasies are.

Start out with the elements of GFE that he or she is comfortable with, then add layers of BDSM activities to your role playing. Remember, practice makes it perfect.