I have no tolerance for bratty types, or those who deliberately disobey me. I feel like they are trying to draw a more severe reaction from me and therefore are topping from the bottom. I'm not a fan of this kind of behavior. Either they comply or they can see someone else.
R
I am curious about what you enjoy in a sub. Is it more enjoyale if you have a fully obedient sub who follows your orders readily, or a better time to get a little attitude and have to use a bit more "cooersion" to get the sub to do as commanded? I have typically been quick to try and follow instructions and wonder if you would prefer to play with and break a sub a bit more.
I am not your typical Mistress, but I will provide my personal opinion. I do not want the script act of top/bottom. We make our own rules, and push limits if your open to expanding your horizon. I love my subs who are respectful, loyal, devoted, and most important honest. Communication is key, so you must be able to share your feelings, wants, needs, and emotions with your Goddess at all times.
I believe our purpose is to have a mutually enjoyable time, so chemistry is a must. If we are not compatible the session reflects this fact. I interview my potential clients first to see if we share the same interests. Money is not everything. Gifts are always appreciated & my ATF subs share tokens of appreciation that always tickle my fancy. I love surprises.
To answer your question I prefer a challenge, so being completely obedient is not fun to me. If you like to play, so do I!
Example: Your New Madame requests you to be clean prior to play, and you did not flush out your backside before coming over for that strap-on encounter. With a huge grin I sigh, and chuckle because now it is my job to properly clean that naughty bum for you. Not what we planned, but still willing to have fun. I administer an enema that is more, than what you would have done yourself. Meaning more, longer, stronger, and warmer than you would have ever done yourself. I love a clean culo before bending over my sweet piggy's. Now you have to wait to play because of the cleaning process and you are in the bathroom flushing out your caca, while I am reading my Buttman magazine sipping champagne.
Cheers!
Thanks - this is a very helpful and insightful reply. I am often afraid that I am being too complient, so not enough of a fun plaything for the mistress. On the flip side I am relatively new at this and was also a bit afraid to be a bit more moscheveous unless I knew that was ok.
Like you, I only enjoy if both of us are really into it and having fun. Otherwise it is just going through the motions.
i think M. Patricia said it very well, it is all about honesty and chemistry. i have found there is a fine line between "subbing from the top" and getting interests across. i think both people have experiences & activities that make them feel like they had a great session. Just put out there what Your personality is like. Make makes you feel the most "whatever." The good Dommes understand that both must have an adventure, or otherwise, why go back? Doesn't mean that the sub says "this is what will happen in the session." It is definitely a give and take.
Great question!
I think it depends on the chemistry between two players. I, personally, love pushing my top's buttons so they have a reason to punish me! There's more opportunity for interplay there than being absolutely perfect. I hear a lot that tops love a sub that shows initiative and has a mind of his/her own. It's no fun dominating someone that's already putty! But it's a fine line between being cheeky and being rude and disrespectful, so know your partner's style before going deep.
Happy 2013!
I have no tolerance for bratty types, or those who deliberately disobey me. I feel like they are trying to draw a more severe reaction from me and therefore are topping from the bottom. I'm not a fan of this kind of behavior. Either they comply or they can see someone else.
R
It sounds like different Mistresses have different desires here. In an effort to be the best possible sub is this a fair question to ask before a session?