Grew up in the age of Fetlife. I know it was common in the time of the the Old Guard to frown upon mixing sexton and BDSM, but how can one not erotiscize the scene? BDSM also conversant huge spectrum. In my experience the no eroticization rule seems to be more of an S&M thing. But ive never seen D/s type scenes without sensuality or an erotic tint. If one is not a masochistic, then BDSM would have to eroticized.
This was one of the questions on the initial contact form of a fetish-friendly provider I'm looking to get together with a couple of months down the road.
I'm not quite sure I know what this question means, or what information it's trying to elicit from me, so I'm not sure how to answer it.
Any help here, ladies? (Or even hobbyists who may have encountered this sort of question before...)
Some power exchange while titillating is not as erotic as others. I have been through relationships with dommes and those wiht subs. I can not enjoy or sustain such a relationship unless it is eroticized. For example, one of my favorites dommes used resistants and slight pain and threats ofpain to have me please her with prolonged and specific DATY or DATO done just right while she often used a vibratory to bring herself to repeated climaxes. This is high eroticized. I lived with a sub who liked a bit more pain tan I do, but again she liked this to "force" her to preform. Her favorite was being spread eagled and "subjected" to rectal, vaginal, and clitoral vibrators used to bring her to the very edge of climax until finally I allowed her to climax. These are clearly eroticiszed sessions. There are sessions that center on pain and/or humiliation with little frank sexual contact tho with the subject finally allowed to climax Many dommes do not consider what they do sexual and many subs are happy with this..
Simple ?
Do you fantasize about any particular BDSM interest?
For example, Golden Showers. Have you ever thought about receiving, or participating in water sports?
And I think about it pretty much the same way as above. Does a particular act, or the entirety of the experience arouse you? If so, what aspects do so the most? She's asking you this as a way to get you to tell her what is driving your curiosity and also so she knows if she is a fit for what you want. The best dommes are picky about who they see because they want to see people who are going to be fun for them.
Some, honestly, get off on kicking the shit out of you. Some don't. So the most important thing is for you to answer these questions as honestly and completely as possible.
....wood.
Grew up in the age of Fetlife. I know it was common in the time of the the Old Guard to frown upon mixing sexton and BDSM, but how can one not erotiscize the scene? BDSM also conversant huge spectrum. In my experience the no eroticization rule seems to be more of an S&M thing. But ive never seen D/s type scenes without sensuality or an erotic tint. If one is not a masochistic, then BDSM would have to eroticized.
A lot of pro domme's are very strick in keeping sex out of the dungeon. My BDSM fantasies involve the person who is tied up getting the shit fucked out of them (either one of us could be the tied up one). So, I would definitely say that I eroticize BDSM.
Then again, you were being asked by a "fetish-friendly" provider, which already implies the erotic activity. So, I don't know.