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Bostonguy57 48 Reviews 1071 reads
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She is the least of your worries...

A stray hair, lingering perfume, a condom wrapper on the floor or an unexpected visit from a friend or neighbor are what you need to think about.

I've done it, it was a stupid idea.

weazer733493 reads

Well, I have made an appointment with a lady, it will be my first.  She has no reviews here, but several on escorts.com.  I have also spoke with a gentelman who has seen her, so I am fairly confident of a good time.  According to her reviews over there, she has went to homes before.

She is outcall only. So, here is my question, is it wise to outcall to my home?  I have read everyones feelings here and I know it's not wise.  But due to my time constraints it will work out the best.  Also, she will have to cross state lines, so no worry of LE.  I have differnt people over all the time, no worry of the nehbors wondering, plus I'm out in the country, so I only have one thats in eye sight anyway.  

It will be comfortable and secure for both of us, but I am a little worried about the wife finding a hair or something from her.

I'm not really worried about theft, due to a security system and the fact that I have a side business that I run off my house, so complete strangers know where I live.

So, what say you???????????  

"So, here is my question, is it wise to outcall to my home?  I have read everyones feelings here and I know it's not wise."

But aside from anything else, I personally find this crass. You are married and will invite an escort into your own home to fuck in the same bed your wife sleeps in?

GaGambler1825 reads

but I am not married. I hate to be the first to rain on your parade, but I think springing for a hotel room might, in the long run be cheaper.

Very few men, myself included are as aware and observant as a woman. A single hair in the bathroom, an unseen corner of a condom wrapper in the bedroom could each spell the end of your marriage. A hundred bucks for a room seems like a bargain in comparison, doesn't it?

Its my personal preference as a provider to visit to homes, its unusual for someone to get sketchy or shady where they live. I feel safe and therefore more comfortable when someone else is comfortable, so its always a better time when two people can relax more

If you've checked her out very well and feel comfortable then there should be no issues with having her over.  

But clean up well make sure its not the next morning when they place needs to be spic and span and don't forget to take out the trash... cleaning up is all well and dandy but if you leave all the evidence in the trash your goose is cooked.

:)
Jenny

that you are married and to use every precaution not to have anything other than good clean soap on her body.

We women pick up on fragrance real quick and one good sniff from your wife and your not going to be sleeping in that bed for a while.

Another suggestion is to have a large sheet to place over the bed so that you can sweep away any loose hairs into the washer. Any towels can be done at the same time. Do check for anything left behind and now smile!

It's hard to cover your tracks and not get caught when your married. You are playing with fire, but it's your life. I would not have someone strange to my house and i'm a provider who turns down money every day for that reason.

Kisses Haley

I can understand how some people may look at the fact you are "entertaining" in your bedroom and how this may translate as a complete lack of respect for your S.O.  

I prefer outcalls to someones house as well. In fact, if you are a Ga resident, I won't come to a hotel to see you, I have found our local LE loves the hotels.

So, perhaps if you have a spare bedroom in your house, this would be a better idea.  A thorough clean up, of course, is necessary.  Wash sheets, check. vacuum carpet, check. Clean bathroom, check. Leave the toilet seat up after cleaning, check. There are a lot of little things that may catch you though.  Glasses with lip gloss, a hint of perfume on the couch.  

Incalls are more safe for the married man in my opinion.  Neutral ground; so that you aren't in the midst of performing and see that picture of your wife on the dresser.......or other nick knacks that will ruin the mood.

such a thorough clean-up could also make one appear suspicious.  

I don't know about this for several reasons.  

I think if your wife finds out and that is the end of your marriage, it is gonna cost you a lot more than whatever a hotel room is.  You may be a no fault state but her attorney will have a field day with you at deposition.

I remember seeing a provider the night before my ATF showed up to visit me on vacation.  Even though, I had cleaned the room, the excellent hotel staff cleaned the room, she still found evidence and this was only my ATF, not my wife.

Lastly, are you sure you can perform with another woman in your own house even if your wife isn't there?  I would hate to go through all that trouble and then be thinking about having sex in the house I share with my wife and not get hard.

Just my 2 cents

weazer731516 reads

Hmm, all good points.

On another note, I wish I could find someone on here how has seen her.  I would feel alot better.

She is the least of your worries...

A stray hair, lingering perfume, a condom wrapper on the floor or an unexpected visit from a friend or neighbor are what you need to think about.

I've done it, it was a stupid idea.

You are married and you are going to have a strange woman come to your home for sex? Are you out of your mind?

shudaknownbetter2396 reads

When you share living space with a SO, there are so many traces of them through out the home.  It is so disrespectful to bring another woman into that space.  How can you disrespect the SO like that & expect your date to respect you or think that you'll respect her?  
Very many years ago,  I was young & single, I had an affair with a married woman & we met in her home among several places...  the relationship was stupid, meeting like that was stupid...  the anxiety level was unbelieveable...  We never got caught but the husband "knew".  
 
NO, Not even if you have & use a guest room...  
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But thats one reason I hobby with my wife, but that may be an exception to the rule... also have have several over for Dinner too...

If you're like most men, your wife is not accustomed to coming home to a house that has just been cleaned to within an inch of its life. If she comes home and finds the house suitable for performing surgery, that's going to raise a big red flag.

Entertaining at home is fine for unmarried guys, and guys without an SO, but in your case, that's a big NO.

Don't do it! Don't do it! Don't do it!

johnhuntback1949 reads

if your wife/girlfriend comes home unexpectedly? I'm not well-versed in this area because I'm not married, but methinks it would be kind of hard to worm your way out of that kind of situation. GET A ROOM!!!!  

jjbird1411 reads

I am the wife and I busted my husband with less evidence than a ho in my bed.  You guys that think that is cool are digusting.  Why be married if you are going to value your wife so little.  The hobby is bad enough but a ho in the bed, not that beyond disrespectful.

Married + Outcall to home = Russian roulette with the gun pointed at your D*ck ...

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it sounds like you're yanking our chain

"cross state lines" so "no need to worry about LE"

"I live in the country" so no neighbors can see my house except "one"

"theft not an issue because I have a security system"

I'm not buying what you're selling, Bro - I am afraid you sound like a troll - please note:  I am not saying you *are* a troll, merely that the fact pattern you have put forth as true makes you *sound like* a troll

weazer731361 reads

Well lets see, I live about 3 miles from the In?Oh border, she is In, I am in Ohio.  She is closer than the girls in Toledo.

I live on a mile stretch of road with woods all around, one neibor can see the drive.  No big deal to them since there are always different cars in the drive.  Everything from a $70,000 BMW to a $300 Toyota is there at random on weekends and evenings.    

I run a side business from there, so I know I have had much worse people over than her.  

So, yes I am real, and I am new to this.  You all have very good opinions, that is why I posted this. I just thought it would be more comfortable for both of us, but there is that one chance of the stray hair................

I am now getting a room.  And I am still really nervous:)

GaGambler1267 reads

A few bucks for a room is well worth the peace of mind. If you are still nervous after deciding to get a room, can you imagine how nervous you would be on your wife's first night back in the bed together wondering if you missed anything?

Good luck

There are WAY TOO many bases to cover, and if you cover them TOO well, you give yourself away!!!

Here's a funny example - twenty-some years ago I was a grad student in California.  I rented a room, actually the master bedroom, in a "family" home.  I say family because Dad was rarely around, and obviously on the way out (otherwise, why would I be renting the master bedroom!?!).

So a couple of months into the semester, Mom takes the girls to visit the grandparents out of state, and Dad is home every night entertaining a lady friend.  One night, she knocks on my door, falls all over me, pretends to be impressed by my Commodore 64.  I know that I could have gotten lucky that night in order to keep my mouth shut, but I was a good Christian virgin, and she was drunk.  

Still, I kept quiet!!!  Why?!?  I may have been pure, but I still a guy!!!  Also, A few weeks earlier, on a late evening trip to the shared kitchen, I passed through the "family" living room, where Mom extricated herself long enough from the arms of a deputy sheriff, to introduce me to her new friend (I made sure that fridge raid was a good one!!!).  The last thing I wanted to be was the key witness for either, or both sides in a divorce case!!!

BTW, even though I said nothing, and never lied to, or for, either party, Mom found out, and Dad was evicted!!!  What gave him away???  The levels of her perfume and shampoo bottles.  A good provider would know better, but there are WAY TOO MANY details to keep track of in this scenario!!!

I see it as very disrespect to your wife, even more so than cheating on her. In her home in her bed. I have a hard time not seeing any man who does this, as a total ass. Its just wromg in so many ways. And yes there are as many if not more wys to get caught as well.  Have you no respect for your wife at all?  If this goes badly, one thing out of place, and you will be looking for a new place to live and a new spot for your business as well.

Nicole

I agree - it's super-disrespectful to the wife.

So as a provider who believes it is disrespectful, once you realized you were in the marital bed would you end the session and leave? Considering you said any man that did this you would consider to be "a total ass."

Or would you "hold your nose" so to speak, and go forward with the session?

I would not have sex in his wifes bed.  Its really risky to me as well. I don't like those situations, they make me uneasy, and if it goes bad, like she walks in on us, I'm at risk to get outed, hurt ect...  I try my best to avoid drama as often as possible.

weazer731215 reads

I understand where you are coming from Nicole.  I was planning a room, but she canceled anyway.

Let's put it this way....

How would you feel if there was some dude banging your wife in your bed? Cums on your pillow? Then uses your shower? The world is a two-edge sword my boy!

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