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Re: This is horribly disturbing...
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If we had been doing something that could cause any lasting harm I would agree but as the lady said every kid who ever got spanked wanted it to stop before it was over (well maybe not every kid) so I didn't feel like I was having any kind of traumatic experience.

My feeling about it afterward was that it was a rare experience of what I think probably happens in non-professional dom/sub relationships all the time (google on "domestic discipline" and you'll see what I mean). For that reason it felt kind of neat, like some kind of bonding experience. I think the whole concept of a "code-word" belongs mostly to the realm of professional BDSM (and for the record, that was the only time I ever had a code word in any session I ever had).

I don't do painful kinds of BDSM sessions any more mostly because I got to the point where I didn't like the endings. I was left wanting it to end with a less painful bonding experience and it got too frustrating because that wasn't on the menu. (Yes, aftercare is essential).

Posted By: GraceShepherd
As Dommes we are in a position of extreme trust and that should never be abused. A good Domme cares for their sub and is respectful at all times of their physical and emotional well being. Bringing them to that euphoric subspace is the goal, abuse is not. This is not welcome behavior ever, and it saddens and upsets me to think anyone would behave that way.

Everything should be discussed carefully, scenes negotiated, and with safe words. Always with a safe, sane, consensual partner.

Aftercare is essential :?)

Xo,
Grace
-- Modified on 9/26/2012 9:14:37 AM

Admittedly, I saw it in a movie. But, it worried me enough that I thought I'd ask. A guy was tied up and he wanted to be whipped. They agreed that the safe word was "red". She starts whipping him, harder and harder. First red marks, then welts. He was screaming but didn't try to stop it. She said then started whipping him harder and faster. Then one of the welts burst and blood came out, he couldn't see it from his angle, but clearly it hurt by the way he screamed, "RED!" She then hit him again, this time a long stripe of blood was on his back, he screamed, "RED, Please RED."  She hit him again and this time there was even more blood and it was trickling down his back. He started saying over and over again, RED RED RED.  She finally stopped and untied him. He starts crying and curls up in the fetal position. She said she was sorry she had a lot on her mind that day and she didn't realize she had gotten so carried away.

What does the sub do in a situation like that?

No professional would ever let outside emotions dictate the session.  I for 1 would give back the tribute because this is not what the guy had in mind for a good time.  He will more, than likely never return to attempt another session with any PRO.  She should be responsible for physically abusing this poor fella.  The guy should post his terrible experience, so no 1 will make the mistake again.  She sounds, like a prostitute with a whip & not a trained professional.  


BDSM has plenty of private boards on lots of other sites this is a real community & some of us respect the life-style!

I had an experience like this at a house of domination in L.A. quite a few years ago. I was being whacked with a paddle and was given the code word "mercy" if I wanted it to stop, or so I thought.
I ended up using it after I thought I'd had enough but to my dismay "mercy" didn't actually mean stop. Apparently, what it really meant was that we will stop for a while and talk about whether you deserve mercy or not. I remember her asking me if I ever got paddled by my mother, not realizing it was a trap. I said yes and then she asked me if my mother ever stopped when I asked her to. The honest answer was no so then she asked why she should stop if my mother didn't. Putting it that way, I couldn't think of any reason so she continued while I used the word "mercy" over and over again. I think this had her very turned on - taking me beyond the point where I really wanted it to stop. At one point she told me if I didn't hold still she was going to take all of my clothes, throw them down the stairs, and make me go downstairs naked and put them on (and there were several ladies and even some men down there).

Finally, she calmed down and untied me, much to my relief but before I got dressed she spent some time rubbing some ointment on my sore backside and trying to sooth me, which was actually quite nice.

How did I feel about this? The next time I was in L.A. I called the establishment and was disappointed to learn she was no longer there as I intended to have another session with her. I didn't enjoy it at the time but it is a pleasant memory. Go figure.


Posted By: HarlandSanders
Admittedly, I saw it in a movie. But, it worried me enough that I thought I'd ask. A guy was tied up and he wanted to be whipped. They agreed that the safe word was "red". She starts whipping him, harder and harder. First red marks, then welts. He was screaming but didn't try to stop it. She said then started whipping him harder and faster. Then one of the welts burst and blood came out, he couldn't see it from his angle, but clearly it hurt by the way he screamed, "RED!" She then hit him again, this time a long stripe of blood was on his back, he screamed, "RED, Please RED."  She hit him again and this time there was even more blood and it was trickling down his back. He started saying over and over again, RED RED RED.  She finally stopped and untied him. He starts crying and curls up in the fetal position. She said she was sorry she had a lot on her mind that day and she didn't realize she had gotten so carried away.

What does the sub do in a situation like that?

As Dommes we are in a position of extreme trust and that should never be abused. A good Domme cares for their sub and is respectful at all times of their physical and emotional well being. Bringing them to that euphoric subspace is the goal, abuse is not. This is not welcome behavior ever, and it saddens and upsets me to think anyone would behave that way.

Everything should be discussed carefully, scenes negotiated, and with safe words. Always with a safe, sane, consensual partner.

Aftercare is essential :?)

Xo,
Grace

If we had been doing something that could cause any lasting harm I would agree but as the lady said every kid who ever got spanked wanted it to stop before it was over (well maybe not every kid) so I didn't feel like I was having any kind of traumatic experience.

My feeling about it afterward was that it was a rare experience of what I think probably happens in non-professional dom/sub relationships all the time (google on "domestic discipline" and you'll see what I mean). For that reason it felt kind of neat, like some kind of bonding experience. I think the whole concept of a "code-word" belongs mostly to the realm of professional BDSM (and for the record, that was the only time I ever had a code word in any session I ever had).

I don't do painful kinds of BDSM sessions any more mostly because I got to the point where I didn't like the endings. I was left wanting it to end with a less painful bonding experience and it got too frustrating because that wasn't on the menu. (Yes, aftercare is essential).

Posted By: GraceShepherd
As Dommes we are in a position of extreme trust and that should never be abused. A good Domme cares for their sub and is respectful at all times of their physical and emotional well being. Bringing them to that euphoric subspace is the goal, abuse is not. This is not welcome behavior ever, and it saddens and upsets me to think anyone would behave that way.

Everything should be discussed carefully, scenes negotiated, and with safe words. Always with a safe, sane, consensual partner.

Aftercare is essential :?)

Xo,
Grace
-- Modified on 9/26/2012 9:14:37 AM

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