hello guys this is the first time im going to experience an escort and well looking for advice on choosing one....by the way ive also never had a gf before and also a virgin so any advice on that?
Read the first few pages of the newbie board. Get a VIP membership here. Do your homework by reading the reviews, including the juicy details after you have become a VIP so that you know what to expect from a provider. See a well reviewed provider, meaning she has many reviews. My rule of thumb is 7 or more views but others may have different opinion. Use your own judgement and comfort level. Be careful and have fun.
Hi Chef,
I'm afraid I cannot give advice on choosing an escort - as I have never had one myself!
However, I will try and give you advice on the latter.
[If anybody disagrees with what I say then please feel free to shoot me down.]
It sounds as though you have little or no experience with women and possibly lack a little confidence.
First bit of advice is TAKE YOUR TIME! Don't rush into things. If you launch straight into hiring an escort then you will be going from "zero" to "max" and that might be a shock to the system!
What I suggest is that you initially find a good upscale lapdance club. Go during dayshift when it is quiet, unrushed and the ladies have time to sit down and talk with the clientelle. (Avoid going when it is late and the club is wall-to-wall with people when the dancers have no time to sit down and talk.) Go to the club armed with a good supply of $1's and a couple of $20's.
Make plenty of trips to the main stage to tip the dancers a dollar at a time (I used to be incredibly shy of doing this; now I can do this in my sleep!) If there are any ladies who you really like on stage then ask them to pop-over to your table to give you a dance once they have finished their stage rotation.
Try to build-up a good rapport with the dancers over several visits to the club. If you treat the ladies well, then they generally return the compliment. If you have a favourite dancer then why not buy her lunch/dinner at the club (a lot of the upscale clubs do really good food).
Taking this approach should rapidly build-up your confidence with women. This should provide you with an intermediate step between going from "zero" to "max".
When it comes to your big day with your chosen escort, I would personally opt for a 3 hour dinner date. This would give both of you an opportunity to get to know each other and relax before the fun starts. Again, this provides another intermediate step between "zero" and "max".
"Why haven't I had an escort?" I hear you all ask. Well, it is something that I have seriously considered - and fate has prevented in the nicest possible way. Over a 3 year period, I have built up an excellent rapport with my favourite dancer to the extent that she provides me with all the intimacy that I need without resorting to "extras". The chances of this happening are extremely rare - so don't rely on this happening!
I hope this helps. Have fun. Be careful.
Cheers
mike1862
but I think that is horrible advice. Trust me, sex is one of the most natural things in life. There is no "shock to your system".
Don't make sex any more mystifying than it already is to you, I do realize that some people are later bloomers than others, but do yourself a favor. GET LAID. Don't continue to let sex have this kind of power over you. Once you break the seal you may find yourself much more comfortable around the opposite sex and your confidence level will increase dramatically.
To the OP, If you have decided that you truly want your first experience to be P4P, my advice is to research a well reviewed, experienced lady that will put you at ease. Buy a VIP membership, it's 20 bucks well spent, and once you find a provider that interests you and you have passed screening, make her aware of your lack of experience. If you have picked the right lady she will understand. Do not however mention anything about sexual acts, most providers will end the conversation abruptly if you do so.
You might also make your situation known on your local board, there may be a provider or two that would happy to introduce you to the carnal pleasures.
One other thing. Please, please do yourself a favor and do not confine your sexual life to the hobby. Many of us here are old and jaded about civvie relationships, but you should not deprive yourself of the more traditional sexual relations, especially if you have never experienced one.
Hey Mike, if you are enjoying your strip club visits thats great but please let's not confuse paying a girl to talk to you and dance for you with paying a girl to have sex with you. The two could not be further apart.
Don't get me wrong, I love strip clubs but the goal of the dancer is the polar opposite of the escort's goal. A stripper makes money basically by teasing you. The better she teases the more she makes. The more visits to the cub you make, to be teased, the more money she makes. Good for the stripper, good for you too if that is the sort of "intimacy" that you want. Escorts make money by fucking you. The better she fucks you the more often you will want to see her.
Are you guys seeing the subtle difference here?
Now there is one very valid similarity and it is VERY important to remember this. Both professions involve the exchange of cash for sexual services, be they implied or real. In both cases, if the lady is good at her job, you will feel like she could care less about the cash and is only there to make you happy. My advice if you should EVER find yourself thinking this way is to try showing up without the money in either case and see how far you get.
Have fun, whatever your preference, that is what it's all about!
Read the boards here and get VIP membership. This will give you the ability to read complete reviews and also to PM other readers here including providers.
As far as choosing, I would recommend an older, more experienced provider if this is going to be your first time. Younger gals who are new to this are sometimes just as uncomfortable as the guys are and this wouldn't make for a good outcome in your case.
Read the boards, try and learn something here about the way it all works and have fun! Just remember that free advice, even mine, is often worth exactly what you paid for it. Sooner or later you will have to take the plunge and trust your gut.
Good luck to you!
TER is the best place to do your searching for this special occasion. VIP will give you the best opportunity to select the perfect lady for you. Search under your area code for all the ladies close to you. theres no rush so do some research and check out all their websites and pictures. Find out what appeals to you about each lady. A more experienced lady with many reviews will know how to make you feel comfortable and know how to get around any questions you might have without you asking them. If your looking for a GFE thats your best bet.
Once you find a few ladies remember as a newbie it may take more than a few choices before you do get a lady who will agree to see you. Send out your e-mails with all information you feel comfortable giving. The more you give the better your chance of meeting someone. As I said before, you are looking for a well reviewed lady here. If she has a phonenumber go ahead and call as well and leave a nice message with your phone number to introduce yourself. Either way never discuss services and please check the rates on their websites.
You have your homework to do now. Let us know how you make out and remember to read the newbie board often.
Kisses Haley
and don't rush into anything.
Also,
I would suggest that you reveal the fact that you are new to all this, and also a virgin, to the provider you choose.
You will also do well to see a provider who is a bit older and more mature and has some experience in the deflowering experience.
Best of luck to you.
Let us all know have it turns out.