I'm a 58 year old guy. My contemporaries tell me that I'm fairly attractive. I certainly don't have any hygiene issues and I'm in relatively decent shape, although I could lose about 15 pounds, but who couldn't? For any number of reasons, when I was some 25 or 30 years younger, I really enjoyed the hobby but quit.
Those experiences have always been tucked in the recesses of my mind. So, I've decided to take up the hobby again. I've had two recent experiences, and although not awful, I didn't find them great. It struck me that the providers weren't very enthusiatic. They were both in their forties. I chose them because of their age. I've not asked nor am I looking looking for any exotic fetish experience or anything like that, so I've ruled that out as a possible reason. I thought the problem I encountered would be more probable with the twenty somethings.
It strikes me that as baby boomers start to relinquish the drudgery of their careers, those who use to, as I did, might take up the hobby again. There are a whole lot of us.
So here's the question, either consciously or subconsciously do providers discriminate against "older guys", because of their age?
I live in the Palm Beach area of Florida, which is very youth oriented. Could that be the problem?
Is it that the number of recent experience is too limited to reach any conclusions?
Any insights, advise or recommendations would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
I've heard many, many tales from guys your age about some very enthusiastic sessions with providers of all ages. Maybe you just chose badly or got unlucky. It may be time to play it safe and try a provider whose reviews are all 9's and 10's.
Robbin, where are you?
"So here's the question, either consciously or subconsciously do providers discriminate against "older guys", because of their age?"
I can't answer what providers do subconsiously however if I always visit highly rated Ter ladies I am impressed with their enthusiasm whether 25 or 40..
Since I got back in the hobby, I've seen ladies from 21 to 52. Most have been great, some have been poor but overall, I think it's more about their attitude than age. BTW, I'm just a little younger than you are.
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From what I hear told, the older providers seem more energetic and sincere. Your base wasn't large enough for any type of study. That's what TER is for. Others do the leg work for you. Get a VIP membership and read the reviews. Your next experience should be much better.
Good luck in your search.
Kari
I'm in your neighborhood age wise, you don't mention if you have a VIP memebership. This is very important. If you don't have it,get it.
I like providers at least 35 y/o. Make sure to read the providers website, cover to cover.
Check the experince of the reviewers. Set a # for the reviews performance. Don't go below that # The provider should have consistant reviews. But remember everyone has an off day. and sometimes chemistry just makes it impossible to have a great experience. There is no fool proof, method of research, but this should help.
I'm a mature affectionate very kissable lady who demands the same from the gentlemen I see. I see anyone from 21 to 100 who feels that I am what they are looking for.
I'm your contemporarie myself and I have as much energy and enthusiasm as the young providers. I have given many a young guys the ride of his life and I think there are reviews that state it. I also am very articulate and add years of experience to the flow.
I'm up front in any ads I post and always open with the word mature. Talk about disciminate, that one word in many cases is a real deal breaker.
Kisses Haley
Thom,
I'm 58 like you, started in the hobby at 51 and stopped for a time at 55. Just got back in a month ago and had a very nice time and am looking forward to more. A lot of ladies enjoy the company of a mature guy who enjoys the full experience with them, not only the slam-bam of some of the younger guys. I've seen ladies from 20 to 50 and had probably more great experiences with the older ladies. But some of the younger ones have had great attitudes as well that led to a fine session. You'll find an ATF out there.
I'm 57 years old, and have seen ladies from 19 to 54. If you stick around, I think you'll find that a large percentage of the ladies actually prefer guys our age, regardless of their age.
I've found the ladies I've seen to be very energetic. As suggested before, you may have just gotten unlucky. Check reviews, and choose the ladies with good scores in the age range that you are comfortable with.
Good luck
I'm in your age group and saw a provider recently that is about 20 years younger. This was my second session with her and she never asked my age or made any comment on it. She was (I think) just as enthusiastic and professional with me as she would be with someone younger. Even if that wasn't the case, i don't care because I really enjoyed both sessions.
jhb
If you keep at it I think you'll find that your age is not a problem. I'm about your age. I always let the ladies know how old I am in my initial contact. Some ladies don't respond - maybe it's the age and that's fine with me. I don't want to see a lady who doesn't want to see me, whatever the reason. Some ladies prefer older men (although a lot of men younger than you or me are "older" men also) because they expect to be treated better than by some very young guys. It's possible that the ladies you picked either weren't very service ariented, or were jsut having a bad day. It happens.
I'm a bit older than you, but have never had a problem with the ladies, regarding energy. The suggestion regarding VIP status and doing good research is important. Issues of energy can have to do with a ladies schedule. Sometimes seeing someone earlier in the day helps. Finding someone who knows her limits helps. For some that may mean one date a day, for others a lot more. Even with my ATF, who I've seen quite often, though she is always fully into our date, and never holds back, there are times when she seems a bit tired. That's usually at the end of the day, and the end of the week. Hmmm, sounds a lot like me.