All activities, kissing, DATY, BBBJ, have some level of risk attatched to them. Although the risks of catching an STD from any of the above is significantly lower than the risks associated with BBFS, the above activities are not absolutely risk free.
Many are comfortable with using a condom for FS, but choose to accept the lower risk level associated with other activities, but that is purely personal. It really comes down to how much risk you feel comfortable taking.
If you are concerned about the possibility of contracting an STD, refrain from DATY altogether, or use what is called a dental dam. Also feel free to ask the lady to use a cover for BJ if you feel more comfortable if things are covered. I assure you, she won't be offended.
First let me thank everyone for this site - I have learned so much from it. I'll make this as brief as possible! Married at 19 - drafted and sent to Nam at 21 where I chose to avoid drugs and providers for several reasons. Providers had many nasty habits over there, which left many a soilder dead. Drugs - I figured if it was time to check out I was going out with all my senses in 100% working order. Now, 38 years later I find myself faced with a decision. The wife was never really excited about sex but "went along with it". About 2 -3 years ago due to several problems ( health related not husband related ) ALL sexually related activities came to a halt. And I do mean period.... I have never been with another woman till a year or so ago when I could not resist any longer and visited a AMP, which only had a happy ending [ HJ ] NO sex and I really didn't want any from her. It was okay but not at all lasting. I have done much research here and am thinking, out of necesity, I am going to visit a real good provider - because I don't think I can go without a woman sexually any longer!!!! I need and want GFE - DFK - ect. ect. My question and worry is that at this point in my life I don't want or need any medical problems. I see that good providers always require condoms, but I see that bodily fluid exchange is going to happen elsewhere. What are my risks??? As I said, I emotionally and physically need and want a woman. All advice will be greately appreciated. Especially from doctors -LG- and others that read this. Thanks in advance.
I suggest that you enter the words "health problems" and "STD's" into the search window.
You will find enough reading to keep you busy for a while.
The bottom line is this:
If you restrict intercouse to using a condom, and engage in oral activites without protection, the risks are relatively small, though never zero.
You have to determine for yourself what you comfort level is.
Best of luck to you as you start out.
All activities, kissing, DATY, BBBJ, have some level of risk attatched to them. Although the risks of catching an STD from any of the above is significantly lower than the risks associated with BBFS, the above activities are not absolutely risk free.
Many are comfortable with using a condom for FS, but choose to accept the lower risk level associated with other activities, but that is purely personal. It really comes down to how much risk you feel comfortable taking.
If you are concerned about the possibility of contracting an STD, refrain from DATY altogether, or use what is called a dental dam. Also feel free to ask the lady to use a cover for BJ if you feel more comfortable if things are covered. I assure you, she won't be offended.