To your first question, I really dont think it is a risk at all, but I am too new still to say for certain. It has never been a concern for me.
Your second question however, I can answer. Be a gentleman! Be clean, be respectful, and follow her lead whenever in doubt of what to do or how to act. Keep communications to the point and business-like. Specifics can be talked about in person.
DEFINITELY read these boards thoroughly - TER is an invaluable resource (especially for Newbies). It made everything fall into place for me, and answered ALL of my questions when I was in your position.
Get VIP and be sure you only see well-reviewed providers. Very important.
Use your local board for finding your first SP. There are many, many sites to search for SPs but your local TER community will NOT steer you wrong.
Have fun, play safe, and well ...have fun! This is a fantastic hobby.
I'm a complete newbie, so this is probably a dumb question, but hell, I'll ask anyway.
Is there any risk of extortion from a provider - lets say if you are reasonably wealthy and disclosure about visiting a provider could be extremely destructive both privately and professionally?
Also, as I'm still a professional sex virgin, can anyone point me to an explanation of the protocol and process of visiting a provider (that is more concise than simply reading this entire board!)?
Thanks,
JG.
To your first question, I really dont think it is a risk at all, but I am too new still to say for certain. It has never been a concern for me.
Your second question however, I can answer. Be a gentleman! Be clean, be respectful, and follow her lead whenever in doubt of what to do or how to act. Keep communications to the point and business-like. Specifics can be talked about in person.
DEFINITELY read these boards thoroughly - TER is an invaluable resource (especially for Newbies). It made everything fall into place for me, and answered ALL of my questions when I was in your position.
Get VIP and be sure you only see well-reviewed providers. Very important.
Use your local board for finding your first SP. There are many, many sites to search for SPs but your local TER community will NOT steer you wrong.
Have fun, play safe, and well ...have fun! This is a fantastic hobby.
If you see only well reviewed providers, the risk should be minimal. I would also advise you against disclosing too many personal details to any provider.
There is always a risk with extortion and probably just as much risk in getting STD. Other than death and taxes, nothing in this world is 100% certain. BUT, if you do your homework and see a well reviewed provider, you can minimize your risks and enjoy your time with her.
Keep a low profile when you see a provider. Be like an average joe down the street. Don't advertise yourself to be a big shot, rich guy, etc. You also need to remember that a bad rap (blackmail, etc.) about a provider from a hobbyist may kill her business & her source of income. It is not in providers best interest to blackmail a hobbyist unless you are a high profile or well known person.
Get a VIP membership on TER and read the past postings in the Newbie Board. It contains a lot of useful information. There is no short-cut or quick way around it if you want to be relatively safe and to enjoy your experience. Good luck & be safe.
I've heard of the super high class, amazingly model gorgeous expensive ladies signing confidentiality agreements for high profile clients. If you have a lawyer, why not ask about it?
The risk is minimal but when engaging in an illegal activity there will always be some risk. If you stick with well reviewed ladies on board like this you will be ok. Now a lot of ladies are going to ask for references or some personal information that you may not feel comfortable to give. I know I don't want to give out too much of my personal information to someone I have never meet or know nothing about. Most escorts don't even use their real names yet they want all types of your personal information.
Well Mike, the reason some ladies require your personal info is for their personal safety. Unless of course you prefer her to have a nice security guard sitting in the outer room just in case you decide to clobber her. Some personal info can at least help in assuring that if the client misbehaves she has something as a form of recourse. Guys who have given enough info to incriminate themselves, rarely try anything for that very reason. It's kind of incentive to behave. The worst stories of violence or rip-offs or forcing sex acts not offered were from women who did not get enough info on the guy. The guys had nothing to lose and were pretty much untraceable after they left.
Most escorts have lives and are not remotely interested in contacting or harassing clients after they have left. I know I don't.
"Most escorts have lives and are not remotely interested in contacting or harassing clients after they have left. I know I don't."
Even you don't claim that "all" escorts feel this way, only that most do. It only takes one, just like it only takes one abusive hobbyist to throw a scare into the providing community.
So my answer to the OP is, yes there is a risk albeit a rather low one and it's up to him to decide on his own risk tolerance. Sticking with well reviewed providers can mitigate that risk, but you will never eliminate it completely. Even well reivewed provider have been known to "go off the reservation" so to speak.
Agreed GaGambler. To reference a phrase if you will, used on this and many other boards..."risk vs reward"....only the individual concerned(both hobbyist and ASP) knows what that means to thy self.
it works both ways. For every rip off provider I'm sure there is at least one abusive hobbyist. The ladies need to make the same call about risk vs reward.
for the gentlemen to check that says whether or not the woman is drama free.
It seems the more drama a lady has going on in and around her life, there is a higher risk for her to add drama to your life. Try to stay with low profile women. It seems there will be less of a chance for drama. I screen pretty thoroughly. Like the other gentlemen have stated it is for my safety,LE,and I want to make sure I don't see anybody that I know in my real life.
Well clearly now that you've posted this on this board, sharing your username on this website (which some women may want) is going to set you up for just this kind of thing.
And anytime you post a review that others can see and reference your posts, well, you get the idea.
Clearly you aren't familiar with the alias feature...
Nah, it's just you...
that you plan on making every subsequent post under an alias? Because you clearly have not made this post under one
You may be a member of the micro-wave generation; but there IS some important reading that will save you much time, confusion and trouble.
The "Acronyms, and newbies' Manual" atop this forum's page is an invaluable reference guide that will save you much time perusing the board by listing most all of your neophyte queries.
JG,
I'm not at all wealthy so I can't evaluate your risk but it would seem to be common sence to keep quiet about your status.
What I wanted to say is there are no short cuts. You need to invest several hours to read back several pages on each board.
Besides blackmail, a lot of other things can go wrong... You need to be super discrete. You have too much to lose if you are sloppy.
Do not access the internet sites (like TER) over a company computer or network. Get a Window Washer on your personal computer.
Get a hobby phone.
Pay in cash... accumulate cash from pocket money.
Don't use a credit card or toll pass or buy gas anywhere you're not supposed to be.
Buy VIP. Again, figure out how to pay discretely. See only ladies with several reviews by experienced reviewers. Don't shortcut. Check her out before you contact, not after!.
skb
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If you stick with well reviewed independent ladies and agencies.
For example:
I have a client who is very wealthy, he owns several businesses and travels all over the country for his business. I really enjoy spending time with him and we go on weekend trips every couple of months or so. Why would I try to extort someone like that?
Just because a gentleman may be wealthy does not mean that every lady will automatically make him a target for nefarious activity. Most ladies try extra hard to make clients with a little more play money extra happy because they know he is more likely to repeat.
All I can say is read the newbie manual and do your homework before you meet your first lady. Be safe and have fun.
~Rae
crack pots, and crack heads. Do your TER review homework to make the risk almost zero.
divorce.
The threat of having all my personal affairs and spending spread out in front of the public and your family was consideration for me to pay my ex a fat wad of loot.
That is probably the most costly and nerve racking minus for all hobbyist (married ones, anyways) to consider.
There will always be some risk involved, whether it's extortion, LE, or being found out due to carelessness. This goes both ways, not just for the hobbyist. Since there is a certain degree of trust required by both the hobbyist and the lady, stick with people who have a good presence on TER. Gentleman, check for reviews. Ladies, check that the gentleman has written reviews. Everyone, check to see if the other person has a presence on any of the boards. That also give you a better feel for compatability.
I do understand your concerns, yet at the same time it would be like a lady asking if there is a chance of getting raped or roughed up.
OR...will I get hit by a bus crossing the street? Look both ways right!! Theres your answer.
All of the above can and has happened to someone in this biz at one point.
THIS is why you do your research!!
You see only well reviewed ladies who you have checked out.
Like we see only Gentlemen who we have verified.
Follow all the advice you recieve here and you should most likely have no troubles.
You can also get verified thru a number of services like pre411 datecheck ect
They do the screening and less info goes all over.
It's a risky business.
It always comes down to...Research!!!Reviews!!!
Think only with your big head and only see those you are comfortable with.
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