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JustATransGirl See my TER Reviews 1989 reads
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While the one poster does have a point, that some girls look at this as a cutthroat "me against the world" business.  They are mostly in the street type arena.  

SinsoftheFlesh (hi dear) is also quite correct. Many of us who consider ourselves quality professionals know one another, both locally and nationally, even internationally.  We understand the advantages of referring back and forth and are happy to refer our friends.  Some will even double with me!

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TS Jamie :-)

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just4funindfw2647 reads

to ask a provider that you have seen previously to suggest or recommend other ladies that she may know? I don't know if this will run into a "territorial" issue between providers.

From my perspective as a hobbyist, it would minimize my encounter with LE. However, it does not relinquish my duty to research those suggested providers so that I know what to expect.

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WillHammerYou1912 reads

I've done this many times with no issues. Ask if there's someone she does duos with and go from there.

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ABosoxFan1649 reads

I wouldn't think so either. Have also done this with no problem. Providers respect and help one another. Same as them responding to references from other providers. Just one big family!!
Others may disagree but I am speaking from my own experiences so far, which has only been 12 or so.
jmho

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hungry19511661 reads

I've had a few ladies recommend some of their friends to me, and me to them , for that matter. I've found it to work quite well.

As suggested, ask if she has a friend that she does doubles with. Damn, I still gotta do that someday!!!

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SinsOfTheFlesh1186 reads

I think it could upset some women, but I have recommended ladies to some of my gentlemen.

In fact, I remember one fellow who showed up with a list of ladies, and asked my opinion of them. Bless him, he had no idea about due dilligence. I was happy to go through the list and share with him what I knew of the ladies. I even whipped out my laptop and gave him a crash course on TER so he would know how to check out a lady himself in the future.

I view recommendations in the same way I view providing references. Its being professional, and a courtesy to both the lady, and to the gentlemen. I don't worry overmuch about 'losing' a favorite, because I know he'll be coming back to me at some point. I make sure of that *smile* I also know that some fellows like variety. That is the main attraction of hobbying for some gents. But wanting to sample different options doesn't mean he won't be coming back to me again.

So no, I wouldn't be upset by it, but I am sure some ladies might be. If she is professional though, she shouldn't be. Just my two cents :)

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oleguy2095 reads

Honestly this business is cutthroat.   These ladies are there to make money of their own.  Why would they want to really help you find another provider?  Do your own research.  My ATF would probably comment if I asked her but honestly many of the other ladies would do anything to stab her in the back because they are jealous or envious of her success.  Why do you think there are fake reviews out there?  If everyone had excellent reviews it would be hard to pick wouldn't it.  When my ATF gets another great review it just pisses the other ladies off that aren't getting the same great review.

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SinsOfTheFlesh1559 reads

Why do you think so little of us? Why do you think we ladies are incapable of exercising the same sort of professional courtesy expected and demonstrated in other professions? Why do you think we are incapable of helping and supporting one another??

Not only do I respect my fellow providers, and show them respect, I also rely upon them for my safety and security. I rely on them as the one audience I can vent to after a bad day and know that they can understand what I am talking about. It is not only necessary to rely on them, it is a relief. Who else can I tell about a bad session? I can't tell my friends, I can't tell my family, and I'm certainly not going to share it on a public discussion board. But I can always go to the Provider's board and talk about it to women who know exactly what I'm talking about.

Mabye some women in this business are that shallow and immature, but I certainly am not, and I don't believe I am particularly special in that regard either. Honestly, if you really believe we ladies are truly that shallow, tacky, and juvenile, why on earth are you coming to see us?

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Lazzara921903 reads

Well said.  CPA's and lawyers are just the same.  Some would rather cut off their left who-ha than refer revenue out the door.  Those are the guys who are insecure in their work and will always be looking for the next big client.  The really good ones will refer out business to someone they trust, knowing that the client will remember and will be back.  And that referrals work both ways.

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Tabu983 reads

the right ladies.

The vast majority of the ladies you find here are cooperative, professional and above bitchy back-stabbing.

Just recently I had one of my gents inquire about two other local ladies. One I gave the big thumbs up, the other I warned was a bit YMMV. He appreciated my help and I certainly didn't resent giving it to him!

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hungry19511731 reads

And I'm not sure I'd want to. These ladies seem to have a wonderful sisterhood, and an enviable respect for one another that you seldom see elsewhere. On two occasions, I have contacted ladies for dates, but they couldn't accomodate the time I was looking for. Both asked me if I wanted them to recommend a friend. I didn't ask, they did. Both times were superb. I have yet to meet a lady who is, as you said, "cutthroat". I find them to be quite the opposite.

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WildTurkey-1011308 reads

I think ladies like that would be referred to as Drama Queens, definitely to be avoided.

Any established provider with any intelligence realizes that hobbyists are in this for the variety.

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JustATransGirl1990 reads

While the one poster does have a point, that some girls look at this as a cutthroat "me against the world" business.  They are mostly in the street type arena.  

SinsoftheFlesh (hi dear) is also quite correct. Many of us who consider ourselves quality professionals know one another, both locally and nationally, even internationally.  We understand the advantages of referring back and forth and are happy to refer our friends.  Some will even double with me!

Giggle,
TS Jamie :-)

Related Link: http://www.justatransgirl.com

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Lazzara921105 reads

I asked "my first" with help getting approvals and ok's and she was happy to help.  It may depend on the experience you've had and the relationship you've developed with her.  Our experience was great and she knows I'll see her again (scheduled for next week).  She also knows what I'm like and is glad to refer me to provider friends of hers who provide the kind of service I enjoy.  

(...hmmm, maybe getting them together is a good idea....)

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