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"So why are some people interested in domination but too scared to try? I really am curious.  "

Well, I can't speak for people who are just "interested in domination", if such people exist, but I suspect for most there are some very deep-seated feelings involved in finally giving in to one's urges and going through with it.

I've never had any nails through my ball sack but I have had 18 hard strokes with a cane fully restrained on a spanking horse. When I knocked on the Mistress' door I can assure you that I wasn't thinking about how much fun it was going to be.

But it did turn out very nice and I was glad I did it.

MistressRikka5393 reads

I was talking with a friend of mine who does sensual massage and tantra work. She told me that a lot of her clients are interested in domination but too afraid to try it. I have been doing domination for over ten years now, and I find it to be creative, fun, sensual and sexy. I also find that it really reduces stress in my clients. The bulk of my clients are successful Alpha male types, so coming to see me and let go of their control and inhibitions seems to be very therapeutic for them.

Now I know some of the stuff on the internet is crazy in a highly disturbing way. Nails through the ball sack! Give me a break! Are people afraid of domination because they think that sort of crazy stuff actually happens? Maybe it does in some dungeons, but my clients wouldn't stick around for that kind of bull shit! So why are some people interested in domination but too scared to try? I really am curious.

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freebore3094 reads

I'm just not into pain. But make no mistake, you are definitely hot and if a GFE was on the menu I would crawl but naked through busted glass with nails through my ball sack to come see you!

Kinda neat to see you posting here also. My memory isn't much to brag about, but I don't remember ever seeing posts from any Mistress before. A little diversity could be interesting on a discussion board.

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Crafty123441 reads

to see a Mistress on the board and I agree with Freebore that it is a welcome change. It is funny though how guys are about this subject. I have seen a few Mistresses at the Atlanta Dungeon and use to be a Saturday regular with another well known Mistress that is not associated with that Dungeon but have never reviewed any of them because I guess that is more of a private type session. Us guys don't have any problem reviewing GFE girls and telling all the details but when it comes to a Mistress controlling us we are like ....who me????? That's on the DL...... LOL....So either guys are scared to try it but even more scared to let anybody know about it.....LOL..... In detail anyway...... LOL

Great to see you Mistress Rika.....Hope you hang around on here. Would love to hear a Mistresses point of view on many of the topics on the board.

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swnyc2785 reads

Though I sure would like to be :-).  Wish i had a reason to visit Atlanta!  I have wanted to meet you for quite a while, but have not found myself in town.

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mrfisher3797 reads

Like cherry/chocolate ice cream, or Rap/techno-pop.

Myself, I don't like being restained in cuffs or blindfolded, but I do like some pain.

In fact, there's one gal I see who does spa treatments and waxing.  The thing I love about the waxing is the pain when she rips the paper sheets off.  Lashes and riding crops are good too, (Not sure I want to experience the bull whip just yet.)

The last gal who lashed me said I was good up to a 7 on her 1-10 scale - not too shabby for a beginner.

8o)

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QueenBia3271 reads

Domination = Pain

This is not true at all.  I only, do what my clients enjoy & everything is discussed prior to play.

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specialist13482 reads

mistress rikka if you ever visit los angles im loving to see you

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JLee5672727 reads

"So why are some people interested in domination but too scared to try? I really am curious.  "

Well, I can't speak for people who are just "interested in domination", if such people exist, but I suspect for most there are some very deep-seated feelings involved in finally giving in to one's urges and going through with it.

I've never had any nails through my ball sack but I have had 18 hard strokes with a cane fully restrained on a spanking horse. When I knocked on the Mistress' door I can assure you that I wasn't thinking about how much fun it was going to be.

But it did turn out very nice and I was glad I did it.

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cid4043193 reads


I'll admit being hesitant about going to see some of the dommes that advertise out there....

Most of the ads I read highly emphasize pain, golden showers or other extreme behavior, all of which I'm NOT looking for.

Most of the ads strictly de-emphasize (and with good reason, given that the some uniformed officials might be watching) anything sexual or sensual, both of which are something I'm looking for.

So it is difficult to find someone new in this area by going through ads...it has to come more of word of mouth (or accurate reviews!)....




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TSRachel3331 reads

when meeting a Domina(whether corporal or sensual)...communication is key, but also it is also important that you BOTH know how to "negotiate" a scene...we all are into the BDSM or Fetish scene for different reasons and come to it from different upbringings/life experiences...good to find the YING to your YANG...rarely we find the perfect fit, but sometimes it is lovely when you can grow with your Superior/submissive and learn to fulfill their needs as they fulfill yours

Related Link: http://www.NoirPrive.com

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nylust3000 reads

Totally agreed. Negotiation for the first few sessions keeps you safe so you can open up. If then, like me, you get lucky and find a person to grow with in a power exchange relationship you can do rely on trust. After many sessions I now no longer need to say what I want, in fact, we seldom do what I want, she just finds a scene that pleases her. It's become quite edgy of late and because of the trust, I'm never scared of anything She inflicts on me.

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mychal30682662 reads

I totally agree but communication is very important, last year I got injured during a session because a dome kept doing something that I didn't want her to do.

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HarlandSanders2916 reads

Some of it may very well be stereotypes, but here it is:

Doms are into pain only: No matter what they say, they are going to be bored. So, they say "push your limits" which sounds like code of "I'm going to inflict pain on you when you are defenseless whether you like it or not."

Doms are man-haters: Back to the above, they don't like and\or respect men, that's why they like to inflict pain on them. The disdain for the gender during sessions isn't an act, the nice part at the beginning is.

Violating the boundaries: Back to the pain thing. Once you are bound, safe words, negotiations, agreements go out the window. That's part of being a "wicked bitch with men as pin cushions."

Humiliation: Being called a pathetic, worthless, loser pig is a turn off.

It's not really what we are after: I know several men, myself included, like a more sensual\sexual domination scene. Atlanta dommes involve no nudity on the domme's part and you are free to DIY. "True dommes" don't do anything extra. Most guys would feel cheated for a $250/hour session that was fully clothed DIY.

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freebore3118 reads

Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding!
We have a winner. Well put HS. As far as any of that being stereotypical, most or all of the reviews of  Dommes that I have read have pretty much followed that blueprint. Like I already said...shame, too, 'cause many of them are HOT!

I also want to mention here, this thread was started on the Atlanta board and then moved here by TER. I would not have chimed in with my $.02 here on this board, 'cause it's not my scene. To each his own, though, y'all enjoy!

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MistressKiley3640 reads

Wow...definitely stereotyping here, at least as far as I am concerned!

I am definitely not into pain only, in fact some of my favorite sessions involve tickling and/or tease and denial. Now I do definitely enjoy giving pain, but only to those that ask for it.

As far as hating men, you are correct, there are Dominatrixes out there that do not like men, but I would hazard a guess that most of us love men...I know I do ! And any Dominatrix who would throw safewords and negotiation out the window is an unsafe player and should, as far as I am concerned, be outed to any and all she might be involved with. Consent is vital, without consent it is assault, whether by a man or a woman, and no one should put up with it, ESPECIALLY since you are paying for it.

Believe it or not, some men get turned on by being called "worthless"...humiliation, particularly small penis humiliation, is pretty popular, but if you aren't into it, don't pick a Domme who loves it or yes, she might be bored.

Perhaps other Dommes here would like to chime in, but when I see "Sensual/sexual domination" I read "you want to be able to eat my pussy for an hour" and frankly I don't know when pussy eating became a kink!

Finally, I happen to love taking a hand in whether and when the subby I am playing with cums, and I know many other Dommes who feel the same...being in control of that is a HUGE turn on for me. If I were you, I would rethink the whole "True Domme" tag, there is no such thing, trust me ;)

K

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